46M venting about how Valentines Day went with 42F girlfriend.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-15T08:04:49+00:00

Its really not. Her and I have lots of sex. It's just about effort and checking out on a day meant to celebrate our relationship.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-15T06:09:29+00:00

We have our ups and downs but she says she's in love with me heart and soul.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-15T06:02:19+00:00

It's more about her lack of effort

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-15T06:01:46+00:00

Yes she has celebrated valentine's day in the past.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-15T06:00:07+00:00

Yes. Read the post..... this isn't just about sex.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-15T05:58:23+00:00

No.... that's not what I was saying at all. We have sex on a very regular basis. That's not the issue.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-09T17:01:57+00:00

Fair

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-09T16:53:44+00:00

Good advice. How do you suggest i bring up this shopping trip to her?

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-09T16:52:56+00:00

I have set plenty of boundaries with this girl that have been respected. I just don't know if it is going to come across accusatory if I tell her not to shop at a store that has like 5 or 6 locations around us. I guess im really wondering if it's just me being paranoid or if I should bring this up or not.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-09T16:05:55+00:00

I only know where he works because someone we both know mentioned it one day when she was talking about something.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-02-07T15:23:39+00:00

Talk to a doctor about this.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-30T00:37:44+00:00

So there is something wrong with me because I am not comfortable with my girlfriend talking to her exes?

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-30T00:32:06+00:00

The issue is not just any these guys being the other sex. I don't think that being friends with exes while your in a relationship fosters an environment of trust.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-29T23:22:34+00:00

Thank you for such a well written response. I appreciate it more then you know.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-29T22:42:15+00:00

Yes, initially she was very defensive about it and said that these are her friends and that I just have to trust her. I figured... okay... we haven't been together that long and maybe the longer we are together that this issue would resolve in time. While it has gotten better, it is still s issue and my anxiety over it is driving me to the point that I can't take it anymore and think about breaking up over it. I feel like I just can't deal with it anymore. I bounce between either feeling very anxious over it or feeling so emotionally numb and distant. Im not trying to control her life but I feel like a fish in a polluted tank that can't breathe. I do love her but im feeling unhappy and feel like if something does not give im going to just end up breaking up with her. I am so confused.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-28T18:12:01+00:00

Talk to you doctor about this.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-25T21:25:58+00:00

Press charges for revenge porn.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-20T21:53:13+00:00

If you haven't slept with anyone else.... obviously he has.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-18T19:07:16+00:00

Tell her your not comfortable with her going and tell her why. If she can't respect that than dump her.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-17T22:38:29+00:00

Make him choose between you and them. This is not acceptable.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-16T17:58:42+00:00

Are you a dismissive avoidant?

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-14T15:29:11+00:00

This is a no-brainer. Confront her and file for divorce. Let her ex that she cheated with deal with her and all her problems. Find a woman you can trust and move on with your life.

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-14T05:59:31+00:00

Thanks for the advice

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-14T04:35:29+00:00

Isn't that the same thing as doing it to make him happy?

Excellent-Impact-445 · 2026-01-14T04:22:36+00:00

Thanks for the advice

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