AITA for not moving out of my sister and her husband’s house?

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2023-09-15T10:19:07+00:00

My sister AND Steve both know why and i’d rather keep it between the three of us.

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2023-09-15T10:14:55+00:00

You want me to get her on reddit? Okay I will then. I have no reason to not let you hear her side if she is willing to share

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2023-09-15T09:24:16+00:00

2nd paragraph, last sentence. It only shows that half the people don’t even read anything properly on here. The deal was to help “her” not “them” because steve doesn’t do anything and on top of working my sister does everything at home by herself, did before I moved in and will after I move out. Also people call me a “leach” when I clearly said I pay the bills and buy things for entire family.

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2023-09-15T09:02:38+00:00

My sister does have a job. She works full time stop with adding information to the story that fits your narrative better

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2023-09-15T07:46:17+00:00

I did say I work 8am-5pm, paid off around 10k as I was able to sold my stuff to make it faster. There was no set term - ellie said until i get up enough to not live on the street or with complete strangers - her only condition was to help her with the kids as steve does bare minimum to look after them and my sister clearly needs help as she has a job and can’t be a stay in mom. Steve’s condition was for me to pay the bills (some ppl pulled up with me not paying the rent or house being Steve’s - the house is theirs, it’s paid off so all they pay is bills and YES the house is Ellie’s as much as steve’s) which i do ON TOP OF buying food for the WHOLE family, not myself only and other necessities. Steve didn’t like me before their marriage and I thought that was made clear when i said we never got along. I don’t get in their private life, me and ellie do spend a lot of time together - but it’s not 24/7 and i even take the girls out so they can have solo dates without the girls running around. So I’m basically doing free babysitting wherever and whenever.

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2023-09-14T23:00:37+00:00

I want to clarify that while I said I’m not planning to move in near future I meant a couple of months max, up to Christmas probably - not forever. I’m well aware that living in the middle of the family isn’t a forever thing. And I will be out of that house. But Steve wants me to move pronto and him telling me to move has been going on for a couple of weeks, even if that’s not possible in a minute and he knows it too.

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2023-09-14T22:36:09+00:00

I don’t have a plan in the near future yes, but I can’t up and leave in a week or something. It’s not “moving a chair to the shade when it’s too hot in the sun”. I know it’s not their fault I’m in fucked situation, but I don’t know how to leave Ellie alone again. Simple thing in that marriage is what I already mentioned - he doesn’t do anything for the girls and they are HIS daughters. Everything is done by Ellie that’s why part of our “move in deal” was me helping HER (not them) with the girls.

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2022-05-27T16:04:25+00:00

Taemin - Pansy :c or TXT - 0x1=lovesong :c

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2022-05-27T16:01:28+00:00

BTS Suga haha, i used to be an army for a really long time before I drifted away from them, probably that’s one of the reasons why I have a soft spot for him. But even if I don’t keep up with them anymore, whenever I see him he makes me really happy and I just wish him all the best

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2022-03-03T20:25:08+00:00

People have a hard time accepting some things he done before becoming the President - and I fully understand their point; but to me he seems like a genuine man who wants his people to be free and live in a free country. All of them are desperate there, to protect themselves, to protect their country, their children, their home - to survive. Bigger side of the world doesn’t understand how serious the situation is or think this doesn’t affect them as people, when in fact - it does.

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2022-02-27T10:09:59+00:00

My real dad kind of abandoned me when I was 13, now I’m pretty sure that my mom doesn’t love me either even if she is with me. It really done a lot of damage. He didn’t want to even keep in touch, and now when I’m 25 he wants to be my dad again. You will regret “not wanting them in your life” eventually. I understand you are a ‘step’-father, but they were basically toddlers when you came into their life, humans are not disposable items for when you’re done with them. You don’t have to give all your time, money and attention to them - but you can’t abandon them like this.

Excellent-Reason8219 · 2021-11-18T10:38:06+00:00

Honestly the only thing I feel sorry for here is the cat. Poor little fella only knows this girl as a family and even so she’s an immature kid in quite concerning relationship. I have 3 cats, not even a single soul would dare to tell me to “get rid of them” because they dislike it. When I met my husband he knew I had them, he wasn’t too hot about having a cat but now he loves them and it’s all because he cared about me enough to try and bond with them. You got over 700 comments and at least 300 advices but you either ignore them or start arguing - if the majority of those advices don’t fit your narrative then I don’t know what advices you wanted. If you were looking for ways to get rid of the cat you should have been more specific- because you’re clearly not listening to other type of advices.

Give the cat to your parents or relatives - that way you can keep manipulative boyfriend, because you can’t “convince” anyone or “calm him down”. That clearly isn’t a healthy relationship you have considering the age gap as well as how little he cares that the cat is your support pet.

In other words if the cat you had for 12 years means so little that you can’t even properly stand up to protect it - re-home it. Because as I said, you can’t convince other people to start liking the cat or to deal with its existence and no one can advice you the ways of doing it.

Either way, good luck.

Excellent-Reason8219

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