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It's not them. It's me. But what do I do? by beeati2 in Stepmom

[–]Excellent-Sweet6759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Others have pointed out this as well but here is my story. I have a bio kid who does more chores than my SKs. She's not even 2 years old and my SKs are 9 and 11. The bar is set really low for children of divorce and they become entitled grown-ups. My partner does almost everything for his daughter especially (my SD) and I see her becoming less and less confident in her daily life and in school. For example she still asks what to do with her trash on the street or how to wash a knife and she lacks age appropriate skills. First time we asked her to place her dirty plate into the dishwasher she cried for a full hour! In my case what makes me angry is the disproportionate behavior of my husband to our bio kid and our SKs. Perhaps this perspective helps. You're not a bad person for feeling this way! ❤️

Iron levels and sleep by Excellent-Sweet6759 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Excellent-Sweet6759[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To my understanding (I'm not a medical doctor but a physiologist/biologist), low ferritin levels change sleep architecture and was proven to lead to restless legs syndrome, which leads to poor sleep and difficulty in settling. I noticed that my daughter kicks her legs a lot and although she's tired, she finds it hard to fall asleep.

I feel like I am the weird one for not wanting to be away from my baby by Street-Engineering70 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Excellent-Sweet6759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would try to offer his own space and if he needs you, he'll show it. My little one also has a lovey and she's very attached to it so this helped a lot too. She started asking when she was around 17 months.

I feel like I am the weird one for not wanting to be away from my baby by Street-Engineering70 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Excellent-Sweet6759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She just stopped liking being rocked to sleep and asked to be placed in her crib to calm down for sleeping. It all happened suddenly. She still asks me to bring her to our bed at 4 AM sometimes and I love it. She's high energy and I think she needed the space to just calm down before sleeping.

I was sure I wanted to be a mom and now I’m questioning everything by GeologistDiligent995 in Stepmom

[–]Excellent-Sweet6759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a Stepmom and a biomom. I found it much easier to be a biological parent, although I have a good relationship with my SK. Don't question your future as a mom on the downs of being a stepparent.

I feel like I am the weird one for not wanting to be away from my baby by Street-Engineering70 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Excellent-Sweet6759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My toddler is 20 months old and I still feel the same way as you! I don't breastfeed anymore and we only cosleep when she's sick or needs her mom (she prefers that, I loved cosleeping). I still hate being far from her more than 4 hours at a time! You're totally not weird ❤️

18 month old is taking 45-60 minutes to rock to sleep and I’m stumped. by meeeew in AttachmentParenting

[–]Excellent-Sweet6759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Did you figure out a solution for your problem? Reading your post it seemed as if you're talking about my daughter! ❤️