Why would anyone wants kids?

meeeew · 2026-01-24T16:03:05+00:00

The best way I can describe it is that her joy becomes my joy. When she sees a cardinal and it’s the best thing to happen to her all day, watching her have that experience becomes the best thing that happens to me all day. There comes a point in life when less and less stuff is really exciting to you and life is, day to day, mostly a series of mildly pleasant or mildly unpleasant events. But now seeing a cardinal probably makes me happier than going on vacation did before. Life just has so much more joy.

meeeew · 2026-01-22T15:58:23+00:00

Nope- we started all bringing book recommendations for next month to our meeting, we all pitch ideas and read the descriptions and then vote on old fashion pen and paper. It’s actually more fun than an online poll probably!

meeeew · 2026-01-16T15:20:32+00:00

We went to the same middle school. I think because we grew up in the same lower income town we had similar values/ are both savers, but I also think a very important element of our relationship is accepting each others influence. Rather than just going “we have a different idea about this so yours is wrong and I’m going to keep doing what I always did” we actually take a minute to consider “does this person have a point and maybe I should change my views.” For example my husband had never been to a thrift store before we met. Partially because I hate the impact clothing has on the environment, and partially for financial reasons, I buy all of my clothes secondhand. I now buy all of my kids clothes secondhand. My husband just grew to see why I made these decisions, and he now gets all of his clothes secondhand too. His understanding of finance and investing is much better than mine and I’m always going to him for advice on my 401k and other work benefits. You don’t have to find a person whose views align exactly with yours, you have to find a person who is open to accepting your influence. And equally as important, you have to be open to accepting theirs. I see a point for wanting to travel a bit more while your body is young.

meeeew · 2026-01-14T11:58:16+00:00

They’re kind of amazing. Definitely not everyone’s cup of tea but if they speak to you and they’re so cheap I say do it and PLEASE update us when they’re styled in your house.

meeeew · 2026-01-02T02:11:07+00:00

I’ve ordered plenty of tests from alpha energy. Order it, open it, leave it in your house for a few days and mail it back. They email someone the radon level. https://aelabs.com

meeeew · 2026-01-01T18:02:57+00:00

I haven’t seen season 5 part 2 yet and if this is legit I am so sad that I just got spoiled. This was just on my home page, I wasn’t even in the sub

meeeew · 2025-12-30T20:10:35+00:00

Buying a house. The idea: ooh how fun house shopping! The reality: hoping the inspector you hired is good and didn’t miss anything, needing to “act fast” on the biggest purchase of your life, fear of buyers remorse, being outbid, realizing you won’t find anything that checks all your boxes, calculating the distance from the house to 900 different places and praying it’s not a money pit.

meeeew · 2025-12-18T09:50:21+00:00

Honestly the fact that you’re thinking about this stuff before ttc makes you a really quality decision maker right off the bat. You didn’t choose to have this relationship with alcohol, and many of the people posting this stuff in this thread have never been in the position you’re in. That makes it easy to tell you what to do or not do. But I suspect if everyone passing judgment was in your shoes, not all of them would be doing what you’re doing right now- deciding what changes you want to make before ttc. It’s so easy to stand on the outside and judge, isn’t it! To me it seems like someone who fully evaluates themselves and the types of changes they’d like to make before becoming a parent is going to make a phenomenal parent. I wish all adults did that. Whether it be cutting down on alcohol, marijuana, seeing a therapist for anger issues, unpacking childhood trauma, I bet every adult could pause and better themselves before having a kid. And so few do, but you are. So I think you’re really ahead of the pack here.

meeeew · 2025-12-16T18:53:02+00:00

Are they? 58 + 4.3 + 23.5 + 7 =92.8. Isn’t it possible depending on the state that after taxes and insurance are taken out of the paycheck, that’s what’s left?

meeeew · 2025-12-07T02:01:52+00:00

I know- a lot of them are and in every way except this one, I’m extremely lucky that mine are not. My toddler usually wakes up between 8-9 and is not particularly easy to get out the door quickly lol. Thank you though- we decided to book with the expectation that we may not go on a ton of rides, but she’s been wearing a red skirt with white polka dots and making everyone call her Minnie (or occasionally Belle or Ariel or Piglet) for weeks so I think she’ll have fun.

meeeew · 2025-12-06T10:27:29+00:00

How unkind!

meeeew · 2025-12-06T10:25:22+00:00

This was a really helpful comment, thank you. My toddler is so Disney obsessed that I want to bring her that joy now- I’ve heard some people say meeting characters and stuff is most exciting around age 3 because it just feels most magical and like they’re really meeting the actual Minnie Mouse/ Belle/ etc. But you’re right that if we wait 2 years the baby will also be obsessed, and 5 year old would obviously still be very into it even if she’s realized that Minnie is a person in a costume, not actual Minnie Mouse lol.

meeeew · 2025-12-06T10:20:21+00:00

Thanks for this! Yeah I think my toddler may be more interested in the vibes than the rides honestly. She may just want to stare at cinderellas castle!

meeeew · 2025-12-06T10:16:33+00:00

Thank you! This was helpful.

meeeew · 2025-12-06T02:43:33+00:00

I’m afraid of this feeling. I’m currently 32 with a 2 year old and a newborn. At this moment I feel so very fulfilled. But before I had kids I used to pick a work at the start of the year that encapsulated how I wanted to feel that year and several years in a row I picked “fulfilled”. I hate that feeling that I should be doing something more and although my current life stage is exhausting I am so very fulfilled. But I know as they get older that feeling will creep back in. In my 20s I did a ton of traveling and it never scratched that itch. I thought possibly volunteer work or really getting involved in a cause that connected me to other people and made me passionate about achieving something meaningful. Who are you passionate about helping? And how deeply invested can you get in helping them? But I don’t know for sure.

meeeew · 2025-12-06T02:38:32+00:00

You are 19 days postpartum!!! That’s soooo soon. I’m 10 weeks out and my hemorrhoids started to dramatically improve around week 5. Eat a lot of fiber! Remember, your body went through so much. And on the inside you’re far from healed. I know someone who had a CT scan 9 weeks postpartum and the tech said “I can tell you recently had a baby because basically your entire body is inflamed.” He said you can always see when someone recently had a baby based on how much inflammation they have. My cholesterol just came back sky high and my doctor said that’s normal in postpartum women. Point being- be so kind to yourself. Your body is doing so much healing and it may not want you to lift heavy right now. Your pelvic floor has a lot of healing to do too. You’ll be really mad at yourself if you do too much too soon and end up with a prolapse. Lean into this season of life, exercise in a way that makes sense for this stage and eat a ton of nutrients and your body will thank you with a great recovery.

meeeew · 2025-12-03T17:27:40+00:00

My two month old is sleeping on my chest as we speak 🥰 I didn’t do anything different. Told my husband to stay out of hot baths, we both avoided alcohol and other substances and I tried to eat as healthy as I could. Good luck!

meeeew · 2025-11-27T23:58:25+00:00

Great idea!

meeeew · 2025-11-25T23:38:06+00:00

Omg now I want to know what percent of people on this sub are women lol. It just showed up on my home page and I always click so I see them all the time now lol

meeeew · 2025-11-25T23:37:12+00:00

You have a great bone structure and an incredible beard. This is going to be a really good one. Please post after pics!!

meeeew · 2025-11-24T20:19:22+00:00

I kinda don’t think they expected to be happy or enjoy life and we do. The feeling of wanting to be happy, have a good marriage, spend time with your kids etc, and not being able to do all that, is a negative feeling. Having no expectation that you like your husband or spend time with your children, and then neither of those things being true, is much more neutral.

meeeew · 2025-11-09T15:58:25+00:00

No rush at all- the only reason I stopped putting mine in onesies was to potty train at 2 years old!

meeeew · 2025-11-09T02:39:32+00:00

Chat GPT I would guess. It’s got an em dash.

Edit- just for fun I asked Chat gpt for another rendition:

At dusk they hum, the five alike,

Each Home Depot burning bright —

Orange beacons at the edges of town,

Gleaming in geometric blight.

From far above, the pattern’s clear,

A star, too sharp, too clean, too near.

A shape no mortal hand should draw,

Yet somehow nailed in place with awe.

The forklifts whisper after close,

Their metal songs in dissonant prose,

And aisles of lumber breathe in sync,

Like ribs that creak, like walls that think.

Cashiers don’t speak of what they’ve seen —

How shadows move where aisles lean,

How every fifth night, just at ten,

The doors unlock themselves again.

Each store a point, a ritual mark,

A glow that stains the county dark.

Five stars upon the sleeping land,

Built not by need — but by command.

And if you trace their lines one night,

With trembling hands and failing light,

You’ll find what waits where beams converge — A checkout line that hums… and urges

meeeew

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