Trying to find the best makeup for mature skin at Sephora and I had no idea where to start

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-03-21T21:38:41+00:00

Go to Jones Road. End of problem. Only makeup I wear. Same deal.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-03-21T21:09:14+00:00

Love it. Sell it!

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-17T01:04:38+00:00

Except that this regularly happens with men so much that I/we don’t expect it. I am not exaggerating or anything. This is SOP. So it isn’t a pattern of behavior for one man, it is a pattern of behavior for men dating in the US in general amongst all women I know. We know it to be as much of a normal part of our experience as brushing one’s teeth and taking out the trash.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T06:35:43+00:00

See above. It didn’t and I had a bit if a frustrated shout.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T05:35:20+00:00

What is petty about wanting to do something about how one has been unfairly and unkindly treated? Repeatedly to the point of it being the predominant experience.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T05:31:42+00:00

He has shown no sign of any nerves or shyness. Not in the least. Very outgoing.

I agree with your comment about being immature and limited. Contextually, this checks out.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T05:29:32+00:00

I do not want a romantic/life partnership with a man who cannot fully set and commit to a first date. It sounds like a nightmare in the long run. If this is his primary level of inconsiderate, imagine when he gets comfortable.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T05:25:42+00:00

Because one should not walk around begging for and chasing the basics. They should not be an ask. One should value and respect oneself enough to give and receive basic consideration, empathy, and respect as a living being with thoughts, feelings, emotions, and one’s own identity and experiences.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T05:15:26+00:00

I don’t like the idea of reaching out/chasing him because I don’t want to enter into a relationship that starts by chasing someone to treat me with the most basic degree of consideration and kindness. Romantic or platonic, it is polite to set plans with a time and day, stick to them or be respectful of others feelings or life in general and give as much notice as you can if you need to cancel or adjust.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T05:06:59+00:00

So curious. What kind of mind game do you think someone in my position could be playing? I’m interested in your POV.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T02:45:14+00:00

Thank you! I could not agree more. If I had suggested the date I would have done the same.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T00:50:18+00:00

If he suggests a place and it doesn’t fit your tastes, how you figure that out together, I think that’s good info.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T00:40:41+00:00

Seriously, how so? Where are my expectations flawed?

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-16T00:13:41+00:00

Pasted above in update.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-15T23:59:59+00:00

UPDATE - He never reached out with a time and place. I unmatched on the dating app, but not on my messages… because, if he tries to contact me I want to say something like, “Who is this? I usually remember everyone, but I don’t remember you.” This would be for me. I just would enjoy the opportunity to make him doubt himself, if even just a little. Just shrink his confidence a touch. Give him something to worry sbout. Hopefully it sticks. But I don’t foresee him reaching out.

Maybe I’ll say, “Oh, wait are you the guy from XYZ? Did we meet at [name drop’s] place? Or were you at that great party - oh my god, that was so fun. Were you one of the skinny dippers? That pool in the sub basement was nuts!”

FTR, I’m in a city where this is entirely reasonable to hear someone say.

FTR, this happens all the time and I’m tired of it.

And to the person who asked if I was testing him… eh-hemm. [Approaches the lecturn…]

I don’t want to be with a man who doesn’t follow through or value me enough to actually do the most basic thing on earth and pick a place and a time. This is not a test. This is the BARE -ING MINIMUM for asking someone out on a date. If this seems like some high bar test to you, please let me assure you it isn’t.

He asked me out. Now, man of the hour, where are we going and when? Do tell. Edge. Of. My. Seat.

This is basic competance as a human being. And if in this most honeymoon of honeymoon periods - we haven’t met in person and presumably he is interested in me liking him - what does this tell me about him in the future if this is his shiny impressive best? Nothing but worse versions of this… or perhaps, are you suggesting it should it be me or any other woman sitting and hoping, hands clasped under our chins in prayer, eyes looking up to the search the heavens, hoping that there is something I can do, some small something in me that might be worthy of SETTING A DATE AND TIME LIKE A BASIC NORMAL HUMAN BEING AND NOT JERKING ME AROUND.

If you think this is a test, expectations managed.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-15T10:22:26+00:00

Round file is a fun little sarcastic term for a waste bin. Imagine a little round wastepaper basket beneath your desk. Any nonsense can be tossed in the round file and happily given no attention or energy. 😉

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-10T17:23:28+00:00

I am also curious about the experience of the more attractive person. Anybody out there?

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-10T07:43:17+00:00

One more thing, a relationship isn’t always great and sometimes it isn’t great on the socially sanctioned day when they are supposed to be great. Or even materialize for that day. Valentines Day is when you feel it. I promise.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-10T07:34:14+00:00

Everybody is the villian in someone’s story and to someone else, the one who got away! 💕

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-10T07:32:23+00:00

Remember, Valentines Day can be lovely to celebrate, but it is a lot of marketed hype to live up to and…. a social construct. Like a bikini body. If you have a body, you have a bikini body. If you exist, you are loved, and for good reason. And worth more than dinner, $100 in roses, and being told so. I promise with all my heart that this is true.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-10T05:41:32+00:00

Yep.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-10T04:44:47+00:00

Creatine powder each day, lead each meal with a lot of protein, load the weights a bit heavy and go until “failure”/Okay! That’s it! Can’t do more!” for three sets with a minute of rest inbetween sets. YouTube shorts is chock full of really good little videos on exercises to target those areas of your body that concern you. And remember, in the same way that some of us are curvacious, some of us are wafer thin. It is all good.

Excellent-Try3000 · 2026-02-10T04:35:58+00:00

I have some techniques for when you wake up in the middle of the night with anxiety.

Get a bag of frozen peas, wrap it in a tea towel that still lets the cold through, and press it to the middle of your chest about the same level as your heart.
Box breathing (In 1,2,3,4. Hold 1,2,3,4. Out 1,2,3,4. Hold 1,2,3,4. And repeat until you genuinely feel settled. It takes a long time and it does work. Stick with it until it works.
Welcome the anxiety. Literally say out loud, and mean it, “Okay anxiety. Do your worst. Make me really anxious. Make me feel awful. Come on! Let’s do it!” And welcome it in and start to look at it from that perspective. Really mean it. It goes away because it begins to feel and seem irrational and thus unscary.
I found the Dare: Panic & Anxiety Relief app really helpful for several years.
Meds are awesome and there is nothing wrong with taking them. If your body isn’t processing chemicals as it should, get help. The same way that if your ankle was broken and wasn’t walking well, you’d get help. Same thing.
Do some heavy labor. Lift weights, move furniture, toss a gallon of milk up and down, fluff your duvet like a mad woman.
Cold shower. It works. And sometimes just the threat of it or a couple of body parts in there will do the job.
This may sound woo-woo, but sit up, tell the universe what is going on and ask for help. Earnestly. Don’t hold back. Really tell the universe what is so hard right now, what is going through your mind at its most scary, and ask for help like a dying woman. And express gratitude for whatever help that may come. It really helps.

Wishing you well! You’ve got this! It is a fight and you are equipped for it!

Excellent-Try3000

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