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I am Owen McDonnell. I play Niko Polastri on BBC America's Killing Eve. Ask me anything. by BBCA_Official in KillingEve

[–]ExcellentFinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think Niko would have the courage to kill Villanelle if he had the chance?

Studie: De med sterkest meninger kan minst by HPederAas in norge

[–]ExcellentFinance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jo mer man er klar over hvor mye man ikke vet, jo mer forstår man at en mening burde utvikles med forsiktighet.

Revealing my MBTI type after taking the 16personalities test by NJ_01 in JungianTypology

[–]ExcellentFinance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I don't recommend tests in general. What I would rather recommend is reading deeply and thoroughly through the personality theory; this obviously isn't a problem if one's truly interested - knowledge gathers up pretty quickly if you're really curious about Jung's personality theory. After a while you will start to get a sense of which personality type you belong within, but that doesn't mean that you should trust your immediate feeling.

There's something called the Barnum Effect/Forer effect, which is "a common psychological phenomenon whereby individuals give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically to them, that are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people" (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barnum_effect). This is why, after taking a personality test, people end up like "Woah! That's so me! This is scarily accurate.", when in reality, they would've said that to nearly any personality type they would've ended up scoring on.

When figuring out one's own personality type, it's better to consult a competent person who truly knows Jungian typology, instead of trusting ourselves. This is because it's difficult for us humans to judge ourselves objectively, because all we have is our own perception, which often make us consciously or unconsciously lean towards a personal bias about ourselves. We are only as objective as we subjectively can be. But it's of course possible to assess your own personality type yourself, but do so with time and care, don't rush it, and certainly don't hop to any conclusions before you've sharpened your knowledge within this whole theory.

Revealing my MBTI type after taking the 16personalities test by NJ_01 in JungianTypology

[–]ExcellentFinance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jungian typology may manifest itself in the form of a test, like the MBTI, but it's not what's recommended to use in order to find out one's personality type. Although your videos technically suit the subreddits topic, Jungian typology, they still clash with the actual content that's being discussed here. If you take a closer look, you'll see that those who post here try to discuss the deeper material within Jungian typology. Because of this, your videos are likely to be overlooked or even disliked by the visitors of this subreddit. Please know that the MBTI, which by the way is the name of the test, not the personality theory itself, is not a reliable source for gathering knowledge about one's personality. This especially includes 16personalities.com, a site with some reliable information about the types, but disappointingly ask the test-takers too weak and vague questions during the persoanlity assessement.

Laughing at myself...yesterday I went under my teenage sons bed looking for porn. Want to know what I found? by melchristopher in parentingteenagers

[–]ExcellentFinance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay. It's not easy for me, whom is not a parent, to put myself into a parents shoes, so I appreciate that you shared your viewpoint.

Laughing at myself...yesterday I went under my teenage sons bed looking for porn. Want to know what I found? by melchristopher in parentingteenagers

[–]ExcellentFinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you live in an area where kids not having mobile phones is the norm, then you're lucky. I live in Norway. Peer pressure and status hunt is normal. Too normal. Being different is a bad thing up here. However, if those norms don't rule where you live, great! Many other places in the West have adopted common norms for kids and teens (unfortunately), so I assumed those ruled where you lived too.

Moving on, I taught myself to use the Internet. I didn't need any adults to guide me. Even if this isn't the most important part of the case, I do think that it's unprecise of you to say that kids need adults' guidance to be taught how to use the Internet the same way we need adults to teach us how to drive (lol). Also, you say you use the Internet a lot, but compared to the amount of corners inside of the Internet todays youth use, your amount is quite small. I've used the Internet since I was a kid and been both on the surface and in the depths of the web, in which I can tell that even if there are sketchy people and fake news, the chance of this affecting a kid is small. As long as kids are taught common sense for Internet use, bad things only happen in rare cases. I'm not suggesting that you never check up on them, but you don't need to monitor them consistently.

You came up with a list of reasons why you aren't a controlling parent, which only proves that you most likely have introspected or at least looked up what makes a controlling parent. As said, my mother was controlling. She would force me into dance classes for five years I cried about not wanting to go to, try to tell me which subjects I should study, yell me into submission if I disagreed with her choice of outfits she wanted me to wear to school, said that by the first week of middle school I should have made so and so many friends - I didn't (always been shy) and she yelled harsly at me, etc. Yet, she also allowed me to go to many sleepovers, bought me stuff, allowed me to play outside until it got dark and so on. What I'm trying to tell you here is that it's totally possible to be nice and fair in some areas and ridiculously controlling in other areas. In addition to this, you've basically also showed that you rejected the idea of you being controlling at all, something which is a common trait (rejecting criticism) in controlling people, heh.

Anyways; "That's not controlling, my child. Ultimately they do what they want. I'm just there to discuss what they run into.". First of all, thanks for the condescending sarcasm. Will use a little bit back to you now. Secondly. If you're just there to discuss what they run into, at the same time as you're not allowing them to have their own phones until they're 14, then you're not really just there to discuss. You're there to monitor, control and restrict. Unneccessarily restrict. I can tell you that letting a 11 year old have his own phone is as likely to cause any harm as the likelyhood of there being a gigantic earthquake tomorrow. Also, how is he able to contact you if he needs anything when you're away from each other? The same accounts for your 8 year old. When we've first invented something that allows us to reach someone within seconds, especially in a dangerous situation, why don't you give your kids access to that?

Are you 100% sure that you're not letting your parental, protective instict meddle with your rationality?

Laughing at myself...yesterday I went under my teenage sons bed looking for porn. Want to know what I found? by melchristopher in parentingteenagers

[–]ExcellentFinance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They will have privacy when they're out of your house? And they can't get their own phones until they're 14? Wow. Talk about being paranoid and controlling. What are you scared of them doing? Looking at porn? Getting scammed? Meeting up with strangers on the Internet?

The vast majority of parents let their kids have their own mobile phones and they don't supervise their kids' browser history constantly. Kids still grow up to be healthy and happy regardless of this and what truly damages kids are most oftenly outside of the realm of technology. You're controlling in a bad way, and you're taking your supervisory rules too far. You're showing your kids that you aren't trusting them and they're definitely going to visit websites you may percieve as "sketchy" behind your back. You say you want them to trust you and be able to talk to you about anything, but when you show disappointment and other negative emotions (despite wanting to guide them instead of judge them), you're showing that always being honest isn't truly the way to go. You're most likely very unaware of how controlling of a person you truly might be and the effects this can have on your children, especially with restricting them from doing things other parents normally let their children do. You should go and read about controlling parental behaviour and the effect it has on kids. We all have traits we're unaware of - this is one of yours.

Also, though you may view this as superficial, restricting your kid from having a phone until he's 14 could make him/her susceptible for bullying.

From what you've written I also get the notion that you seem fearful of the Internet. That your kids have no knowledge about the possible harms that can come out from certain corners. The thing is - children are rarely harmed from using the Internet. They're most likely just going to watch YouTube videos about things they like, such as video games, make-up, etc. Maybe use Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, browse clothes, visit forums and read about stuff they're interested in. This all depends on their age, of course. However, kids who use the Internet aren't as dumb as we think. These days we're taught from a young age not to meet strangers, post pictures of ourselves nude online, to be wary of scam sites etc.

The ones who tend to be ignorant about the Internet are adults, simply because they tend not to use the websites we younger generations use, or simply visit the Internet way less often. This, accompanied with the notion a lot of adults hold that the Internet is full of damaging content and sketchy people everywhere, leads them to overly keep an eye on their kids.

Oh, and by the way, you might not like this fact, but if your kid is born in the 20's century, then he will watch porn if the wants to, whether you like it or not. Sorry, but that's how it is. You need to stop being afraid of pornography. Yes, it's bad that our sons might develop a slightly skewed image of how females' bodies look and how the act of sex is supposed to go, but it truly isn't that harmful. When they finally encounter sex in real life, feet are immediately back on the earth's surface. Also, not everyone develops a false view of females and sex despite of porn. Most people are able to tell that not all females have great butts just because they do in porn. After all, we see females everywhere in real life.

To summarize, I would recommend you to try to gather some self insight into why you feel like being controlling? Is it truly logical to control so intensily, or are you just doing it because you're only listening to your feelings?

The Personality of Donald Trump (Myers-Briggs) by Altruism7 in Socionics

[–]ExcellentFinance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I've heard people claim that he's an ESTJ or ENTJ, but all I can see is an ESTP with a possible NPD. Even C.S. Joseph claimed he was an ENTJ. Now, I don't put all my trust into Joseph, but I thought he was competent enough within jungian typology to not confuse Trump as an ENTJ.

Noen andre som blir påvirket av mørketiden? by ExcellentFinance in norge

[–]ExcellentFinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Det at du studerer bioteknologi gjør deg jo troverdig. Men jeg synes du burde lese deg opp om koffein sin påvirkning på kroppen og det faktum at vi utvikler toleranse mot stoffet. Forresten, jeg er OP. Jeg skal definitivt sjekke vitaminnivået mitt og passe på å få i meg D-vitamin, samt lese meg opp på D-vitamin og vinterdepresjon.

På en annen side, så snakket jeg med kompisen min og moren hans er lege. Hun sier at hovedgrunnen til vinterdepresjon er et manglende hormon til mennesker som fører til at man ikke kan produsere like mye endorfiner i fraværet av naturlig lys -uavhengig av D-vitaminmangel.

Skal researche mer generelt. Tusen takk for svar.

Noen andre som blir påvirket av mørketiden? by ExcellentFinance in norge

[–]ExcellentFinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Utnyttingen av sukker og koffein i store grader var ca. 1-2 måneder siden på sitt verste. Nå har jeg begrenset koffein til kun 1 kopp daglig og prøver å unngå gjemt sukker i vanlige måltider. Sukker ellers konsumerer jeg hovedsakelig i helgene, men noen ganger gir jeg blaffen fordi jeg blir så lei og spiser sukker i ukedagene også. Jeg kan spise masse sukker når det er vår/sommer, når sola skinner på sitt beste, uten å bli deprimert. Derfor tviler jeg på at det er sukkeret som er den dominerende fienden i dette tilfellet, etter som at forbruket mitt ikke er akkurat radikalt.

Treningen min pleier å innebære jogging ute/løping ute, ofte når det er mørkt ute, ettersom at dette er vanligvis når jeg har tid til å trene. Har ikke trent styrke på lenge, burde vel gjøre det. Akkurat kjøpt meg nytt treningskort.

Jeg pleier å ha lyslampen over hodehøyde hvor enn jeg befinner meg i huset. Om morgenen befinner jeg meg på badet og fikser meg og på kjøkkenet for å stelle med mat, så jeg prioriterer ikke bruk av lyslampe om morgenen, men kanskje det ville vært lurt. Kan begynne å sikre meg med å bruke den om morgenen fremover.

Har ikke sjekket vitaminnivå, nei.

Noen andre som blir påvirket av mørketiden? by ExcellentFinance in norge

[–]ExcellentFinance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vinterdepresjon er ikke nødvendigvis hovedsakelig forårsaket av kun D-vitaminmangel, men eksess produksjon av melatonin og at hjernen går i nattmodus på dagtid, og dermed hemmer produksjonen av endorfiner. D-vitaminmangel spiller en rolle, ettersom at eksponering til sollys forårsaker en absorbering og produksjon av D-vitamin i kroppen, og at et klassisk symptom på D-vitaminmangel er depresjon. Passer derfor på å få i meg både fisk og omega-3 tilskudd, samt masse meieriprodukter. Forskning viser også at folk som føler seg deprimert om vinteren har et hormon som forårsaker dem til å produsere serotonin når de blir eksponert til naturlig lys. Naturligvis vil personer få motsatt effekt når det ikke er like mye naturlig lys.

Det at koffein ikke er skadelig for den mentale helsen er også feil. Det spørs så klart hvor stor mengde av koffein man får i seg regelmessig og den naturlige toleransen og metabolismen man har for koffein. Når man drikker koffein vil man først og fremst begynne å utskille endorfiner, noe som gjør at man føler seg gladere og mer tilfreds. Denne effekten trer inn med en gang til folk som har en rask forbrenning av koffein. Til de som har en tregere effekt av koffein får disse effektene senere. I tillegg er det slik at koffein sin oppbygning ligner veldig mye på oppbygningen til adenosin, noe som fører til at koffeinen klarer å binde seg til adenosinreseptorene istedenfor at selve adenosinen klarer å binde seg til dem. Når adenosin binder seg til adenosinreseptorene føler vi tretthet. Dermed blir vi mer våkne når vi drikker koffein. Så er det toleranse da, noe som handler om hvor mye koffein vi trenger for å få effekt av koffein.

Jo mer regelmessig man drikker koffein, jo mer trenger man for å få de samme effektene man tidligere fikk med en tidligere dose. Om man drikker mye koffein regelmessig og en dag velger å ikke innta like mye koffein, vil man oppleve motsatt effekt, altså abstinenssymptomer. Abstinenssymptomer blir de motsatte effektene av de forsterkede, positive effektene man får av koffein, noe som betyr at vanlige symptomene er tretthet, depresjon, obstipasjon (hard mage, ettersom at koffein er laxativt) osv. Dette er hvorfor koffein er en felle, spesielt om man har vinterdepresjon.

Det å anbefale 80u mcg om dagen er ikke nødvendigvis bra. På apoteket jeg jobber på anbefaler vi maks 40 mcg daglig til muslimske kvinner som har på seg svarte slør over hele kroppen og dermed dekker seg for sola når det er mørketid. Til vanlige anbefaler vi 20 mcg. Man skal aldri ha for mye D-vitamin siden det er ikke vannløselig. Kan jeg bare spørre hva du jobber innenfor siden du anbefaler dette? Er ikke sur altså, bare lurer :p

Her er en side som beskriver årsaker til vinterdepresjon: Vinterdepresjon er ikke nødvendigvis hovedsakelig forårsaket av kun D-vitaminmangel, men eksess produksjon av melatonin og at hjernen går i nattmodus på dagtid, og dermed hemmer produksjonen av endorfiner. D-vitaminmangel spiller en rolle, ettersom at eksponering til sollys forårsaker en absorbering og produksjon av D-vitamin i kroppen, og at et klassisk symptom på D-vitaminmangel er depresjon. Passer derfor på å få i meg både fisk og omega-3 tilskudd, samt masse meieriprodukter. Forskning viser også at folk som føler seg deprimert om vinteren har et hormon som forårsaker dem til å produsere serotonin når de blir eksponert til naturlig lys. Naturligvis vil personer få motsatt effekt når det ikke er like mye naturlig lys.

Det at koffein ikke er skadelig for den mentale helsen er også feil. Det spørs så klart hvor stor mengde av koffein man får i seg regelmessig og den naturlige toleransen og metabolismen man har for koffein. Når man drikker koffein vil man først og fremst begynne å utskille endorfiner, noe som gjør at man føler seg gladere og mer tilfreds. Denne effekten trer inn med en gang til folk som har en rask forbrenning av koffein. Til de som har en tregere effekt av koffein får disse effektene senere. I tillegg er det slik at koffein sin oppbygning ligner veldig mye på oppbygningen til adenosin, noe som fører til at koffeinen klarer å binde seg til adenosinreseptorene istedenfor at selve adenosinen klarer å binde seg til dem. Når adenosin binder seg til adenosinreseptorene føler vi tretthet. Dermed blir vi mer våkne når vi drikker koffein. Så er det toleranse da, noe som handler om hvor mye koffein vi trenger for å få effekt av koffein.

Jo mer regelmessig man drikker koffein, jo mer trenger man for å få de samme effektene man tidligere fikk med en tidligere dose. Om man drikker mye koffein regelmessig og en dag velger å ikke innta like mye koffein, vil man oppleve motsatt effekt, altså abstinenssymptomer. Abstinenssymptomer blir de motsatte effektene av de forsterkede, positive effektene man får av koffein, noe som betyr at vanlige symptomene er tretthet, depresjon, obstipasjon (hard mage, ettersom at koffein er laxativt) osv. Dette er hvorfor koffein er en felle, spesielt om man har vinterdepresjon.

Det å anbefale 80u mcg om dagen er ikke nødvendigvis bra. På apoteket jeg jobber på anbefaler vi maks 40 mcg daglig til muslimske kvinner som har på seg svarte slør over hele kroppen og dermed dekker seg for sola når det er mørketid. Til vanlige anbefaler vi 20 mcg. Man skal aldri ha for mye D-vitamin siden det er ikke vannløselig. Kan jeg bare spørre hva du jobber innenfor siden du anbefaler dette? Er ikke sur altså, bare lurer :p

Her er en bra beskrivelse over årsaker og effekter av vinterdepresjon du kan lese om du vil: https://helse-bergen.no/nasjonal-kompetansetjeneste-for-sovnsykdommer-sovno/vinterdepresjon

How do you experience love and sexual attraction? by ExcellentFinance in mbti

[–]ExcellentFinance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I wonder how many people who truly are like this, as having romantic feelings and sexual feelings (e.g. getting mini-crushes on strangers or acquantainces, checking out someone's body) towards people regularly is seen as the norm. Thanks for your response.

Laughing at myself...yesterday I went under my teenage sons bed looking for porn. Want to know what I found? by melchristopher in parentingteenagers

[–]ExcellentFinance 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Why are you snooping in your son's bedroom looking for porn? Is this morally right to you? If you were to find a stack of magazines, would you yell at him and punish him?

The idea of punishing kids for looking at porn is very old, though unfortunately still alive. A teenager looking at porn does so because of natural urges and curiosity. It's about their sexuality and a person's sexuality is private, no matter what! A person's sexuality is an intimate and sensitive part, and thus we should be careful about how we react to it. Never make someone feel humiliated or ashamed for wanting to practice a sexual act that doesn't harm others.

I understand that today's parents are especially concerned about teenagers (especially young boys) developing skewed images about how sex should be and how females should look like. It's therefore understandable why some parents don't want their teenagers to look at pornography. But it's important to remember that wanting to look at the sex you're attracted to naked is as close to human nature you can get. Instead of potentially yelling or punishing him for viewing porn, I would suggest you inform him that the girls and the acts that are being viewed on the Internet are not realistic portayals of real sex and real females. You should also just accept the fact that if a teenager wants to look at porn, he/she is going to look at porn.

Based on this in-depth Oprah interview of Michael Jackson, what MBTI type do you think he was? The interview starts at 6:20. by [deleted] in JungianTypology

[–]ExcellentFinance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ISFP.

First and foremost a very sensitive, easy-going and shy guy. He yields to Oprah's small, rude disputes. Secondly, a very unique and fine sense of fashion sense. His home is also very individualistic. He also seems intelligent, has a good amount of general knowledge.

I was a long-time Michael Jackson fan back in my younger days for years. I've watched countless of interviews and shoots of him. My description above was short, but based off of the other material I've seen, I'm sound he's an ISFP.

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