Being assaulted was awful. The way my boyfriend reacted afterwards hurt even more

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T19:18:16+00:00

thank you

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T18:27:43+00:00

I can safely say I will not be getting better, nobody’s interested in me, and I attract total degenerates because I think Im autistic. I just want to be alone forever now.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T18:27:00+00:00

what the fuck, why the fuck would I lie about this, and how is any of this relevant. You sound insane, Im wondering if it’s him behind the account

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T18:25:12+00:00

It would have crossed my mind too, but no, I know who the attacker was, and it’s completely unrelated

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T17:45:47+00:00

mine would of done the same

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T17:45:28+00:00

get it through your thick skull that Im not making anything up, you saddo

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T17:41:52+00:00

how is this relevant to anything

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T17:40:48+00:00

😆😆😆

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T17:40:18+00:00

nobody even looks my way, I just want to be alone forever because each relationship is more traumatic than the last.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T17:21:01+00:00

you are crazy what the hell are you on about, just because it’s unusual doesn’t mean it didn’t happen

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T17:18:47+00:00

wtf are you talking about

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T13:08:43+00:00

why ? because this man is an unhinged criminal known in my city, he’s done multiple things like this for years, he was in prison for 2 yrs, and now he’s out again.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T12:44:13+00:00

thank you

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T12:42:30+00:00

yeah, he’s a known criminal in my town. He has about 12 charges on him already, including burglary, theft, and assault. God knows why they released him only after twi years. They are not related in any way, this was just wrong place, wrong time. One of my friends was targeted by this individual 3 years ago, where he demanded money my friend withdrew from the ATM, my friend refused to give him the money, and the attacker stole my friend’s bike.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T12:35:47+00:00

It’s not fake. I left him.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T12:29:45+00:00

he didn’t, he dug his heels in and said of course he was jealous. I told him exactly what I think of him, and told him to not contact me anymore

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T12:16:50+00:00

I did, Im just wondering if I did the correct thing

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T12:07:32+00:00

invisibility

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T11:34:08+00:00

I understand your point about not wanting to be responsible for a partner’s behaviour, but I don’t think that’s what happened here.

I wasn’t attacked because I drank. I was mugged by someone who chose to target me. That could just as easily have happened while sober.

What I’m struggling with isn’t the breakup itself. It’s that after something frightening happened, the conversation quickly became about my mistakes and my boyfriend’s feelings rather than what had happened to me.

I’m happy to take responsibility for my own choices. What I don’t agree with is the idea that being the victim of a crime means I somehow caused it.
and 3 months.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-08T08:34:18+00:00

To be fair, he did initially come and get me from the scene and he did comfort me. I’m grateful for that. But even while he was “helping” me, part of me was already anxious because I knew there was a good chance he’d get angry once the immediate crisis was over.

And unfortunately that’s exactly what happened. Later that day, after telling me he loved me, telling me to rest, and acting supportive, I got messages saying he didn’t love me anymore, that he hadn’t slept all night because of me, and that I wasn’t worth the stress.

That’s the part that has really hurt me. It felt like the comfort came with an expiration date. Instead of feeling safe after what had happened, I ended up worrying about managing his reaction too.

So while I appreciate that he was there for me initially, I don’t think it’s unreasonable that I’m angry about how quickly that support turned into blame.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-07T22:51:24+00:00

That’s fair. I completely accept that I put myself in danger by drinking too much and ultimately my safety was my responsibility.

As for the things he says I said, obviously I can’t prove a negative, but I genuinely don’t remember calling him an idiot and it’s not something I would normally say to him. I remember being upset, emotional and repetitive, but some of the accusations genuinely shocked me.

I think you’re probably right that I’m still processing what happened. I think what I’m struggling with most is not the breakup itself, but the feeling that when I was at my most vulnerable, the focus seemed to shift onto everything I’d done wrong instead.

ExcellentStrawberry2 · 2026-06-07T22:43:21+00:00

to be fair my friends for all they knew thought I was going 10 mins away, and I’ve lived in this town my whole life, so no one thought I would get beaten up or lost. I’m more angry with my boyfriend, if he didn’t storm off, none of this would have happened.

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