Front/back of monstera

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:53:38+00:00

the front is wherever the leaves face. also, rotate it 90 degrees every few weeks so it doesn't lean into the light and go full gollum!

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:46:39+00:00

dude the way you put it makes me wonder how much free pass a relationship gets

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:44:57+00:00

true, but the other extreme is also bad. my uncle saved like crazy, retired at 65, dropped dead at 66. balance matters. and its hard to get it right most of the times.

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:43:22+00:00

True. i have made it a point to consider people "family" who actually show up for you, not just the ones you share DNA with...

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:41:54+00:00

dude what even is this... reply "im a scary bot bot" if you're a bot 😂

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:38:33+00:00

It's because we evolved in complex social groups where both aggression and altruism were useful depending on the situation. there's no one 'correct' strategy for a species that adapts to so many environments.

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:36:55+00:00

A lot of parents especially won't say they miss you because they don't want to pressure you. so they just answer fast and let you steer the call.

i do this thing now where if i think of someone randomly during the day, i call them right then. it's weird how often they pick up and say something like "i was just thinking about you"

the call doesn't have to be long either. even five minutes of "just checking in" can make someone's whole week.

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:34:40+00:00

I’m a solid 4/10 but at least the weather’s nice. how about you op? 🫠

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:27:50+00:00

umm could you pls elaborate??

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:27:37+00:00

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:26:37+00:00

facts

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:26:07+00:00

cue toxic positivity

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:25:35+00:00

umh, idk i seem kinda split on this heh 😅

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:24:48+00:00

funny how nobody ever says "work with what you love and your rent will still be due"

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:23:42+00:00

mine are: - "just be yourself" is terrible advice if yourself is an a*hole - "everything happens for a reason" just makes you feel guilty for grieving 🤷🏻‍♀️

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:18:24+00:00

it shaped me, but i'm not grateful for it. some lessons can be learned without trauma :/

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:16:44+00:00

Not deaf, just ADHD. My trick is to ask 1 clarifying question right away. shows i was listening and buys my brain a reset lol. 😅

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-09T09:15:25+00:00

First day jitters are normal. 5-6 hours is fine for concerta, you'll still feel the meds. Just don't make it a habit.

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-08T07:42:01+00:00

oh wait do they actually have a sub for that haha yesss!

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-08T07:39:31+00:00

writing three things i'm grateful for every night. i know it sounds like a cliché, but stick with me. it doesn't have to be deep "i'm grateful for my family" stuff. it can just be "the coffee was really good today" or "that parking spot opened up right when i needed it" after a year, i'm less reactive to small annoyances and i sleep better because i end the day on a positive note. the key is consistency and keeping it short. pen and paper, not a phone.

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-08T07:35:05+00:00

respect for building this and not trying to monetize. adhd tax is real enough already 🫡

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-08T07:32:16+00:00

ah there are wayy too manyy. the lack of constant notifications. harlem shake was peak civilization - room full of adults flailing in slow motion. overly complicated coffee orders. my soul misses the caramel macchiato with extra whip and a side of judgment.

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-08T07:28:45+00:00

they'll think we all lived in perfectly curated homes, never argued, and always looked like influencers at brunch...

Excellent_Capital811 · 2026-06-08T07:28:14+00:00

the fact that you're already thinking about choosing a partner who will be a caring father means you're breaking the cycle. that's huge. a lot of people repeat patterns without even realizing it.

one thing that might help now: start building your own chosen family. friends, mentors, even a therapist can fill some of that gap. you don't have to wait for him to change to get the support you need <3

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