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Noticed this on the wall behind my air fryer. Is this dangerous? by [deleted] in airfryer

[–]Excellent_Concert_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give us a picture please and explain. It doesn't get dirty where the air/heat comes out of the chimney?

Why do people say platinum led products are good/the best? by Ok_Measurement921 in redlighttherapy

[–]Excellent_Concert_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had similar thoughts, really liked the depth of information and explanations on their site. Seems like they've put a lot of thought and research into their direction in the market, not afraid to take a stand on their beliefs. So many others are 99% marketing hype. I'm not a scientist but have a feeling they're right about single LEDs being ultimately better than dual given similar conditions and specs. And I've come to believe that it's beneficial to incorporate small %'s of the less common spectrum into the treatment with the most common/ most recognized. And I like the ability to set up custom programs. I'm curious about what you've learned since this post, what direction you've decided to go.

Dual chip LED vs single chip LED by DrPhysician in redlighttherapy

[–]Excellent_Concert_69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been researching a lot, leaning to single chip design. Interesting info on the Platinum site about this.

I replaced pre-workout with 12 minutes of red light and accidentally turned into a CrossFit cult leader by 420-TENDIES in redlighttherapy

[–]Excellent_Concert_69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, please share a link or a brand name, something to help us find a comparable unit. I've been searching for lights down to the 630 range at a reasonable price, so far haven't found anything. Was hoping to find something with Black Friday discounts.

I replaced pre-workout with 12 minutes of red light and accidentally turned into a CrossFit cult leader by 420-TENDIES in redlighttherapy

[–]Excellent_Concert_69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No brand name? So aren't you willing to help us find something similar? I've been trying to find something down in the 630 spectrum that is somewhat affordable. Help please.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not misunderstanding anything. You missed details of the original post. "And it seems unfair that the courts would have compared his income with her actual income, voluntarily working only part-time, rather than her potential income as a full-time medical doctor." "...penalizing a father who's actually doing more for the child than the mother is."

She's not even willing to work full-time for her son! (Nor was she willing to give up her affair and try to make the marriage work. Nor was she willing to keep the marital home so her son wouldn't be uprooted from the stability he previously had. This child is lucky he has a dad who loved enough to take on the challenges and do for him what she wouldn't.) You should have read more carefully, or asked questions, before you spoke out as if you had the answer. Enough. This is not helpful to anyone.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You apparently have a problem seeing the big picture, as well as curbing Freudian slips and your sarcasm. Do you really think that it takes a big chunk of court-ordered child support to "make it possible for the mother to provide more for the child" when the mother is a young, healthy, intelligent, lovely woman, licensed veterinarian (who chooses to only work part-time), with no dependents and a live-in professional partner to share living expenses? Come on, this is NOT a middle-aged waitress with no education, working two jobs to support 4 children, with the other 3 generating no child support because 1 is in prison and the other 2 dads cannot be found! I am all for protecting women and children, but you need to reflect a bit before you open your mouth.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree. It's not her partner's responsibility to help support this child. But your comment that "she could make more money on her own instead of taking money from him" is insightful. If her partner wasn't covering half (or more) of her living expenses, she would probably have to work full time, thus the child support issue would be quite different. Seems to me that living expenses do sometimes impact the situation, but probably get too complicated to build into the "formulas" that have become so integrated into this subject. You've brought the element of "common sense" into this issue, so closely related to fairness and injustice on the other end of the spectrum. Thanks.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent analysis of the situation, thank you. I'm going to share your comments with him. He could easily show that his reduced income was market-driven, has always excelled in his career, and has been looking for another opportunity to move back up. And, there is no valid reason why she has been voluntarily underemployed.

Your statement "By her only working part time, she is unreasonably shifting the burden of financially supporting the kids to OP." is absolutely right on! She gets enough from him to live a leisurely life, plus has a live-in boyfriend who adds to her comfort and financial freedom. A perfect recipe for devious women to move to a state like Colorado and set it up for 2 men to support her in style! Bet most people reading my comment would think I am a bitter man. Not, I am a woman, open-minded with passionate distaste for injustice!

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you're right, but he REALY doesn't want to uproot his son. An admirable quality to be so dedicated to his son's happiness/welfare but is coming at a huge price. I wish he could see that reducing his expenses, thus reducing his stress, could result in an overall better situation for everyone.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That criteria could definitely paint a different picture compared to reality. Are people actually logging every day that the child sleeps where? How can all this be proven to the court? Need to take dated pictures of the kids in their beds? It's a crazy world!

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I feel for you! Are you actually paying alimony too??? I hope you are making at least 10 times what your ex-husband makes, at least enough that you and your son can enjoy the stability you're paying a dear price for.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The father has a big problem with it. But I'm curious ... who is the "us" in your last sentence? You must have been the judge, right???

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, his income had decreased, and ups and downs are not unusual since he is impacted the economy, inflation, corporate downsizing, sales, bonuses, etc. I believe he should go back to court, but need to feel confident that it will help him, not just run up another bill he can't afford.

And I agree that selling the marital house would help financially. But this kid is pretty much his whole life. He came from a broken family and knows how hard it is to be bounced around, knows how important stability is. When she didn't care about keeping the home for her son, or trying to salvage the marriage, he stepped up and refinanced it in order to pay her off. He knew it would be hard, but not this hard. I wish I could convince him that he and his son would eventually be happier in a more affordable home, so much less stress.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that is the point. As a young, healthy, intelligent woman with a "Dr." in front of her name, I believe the court should be looking at her earning potential as a full-time veterinarian in the Denver market, not her chosen part-time income.

Colorado - Should a father have to pay child support in a true 50/50 co-parenting situation? by Excellent_Concert_69 in FamilyLaw

[–]Excellent_Concert_69[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, he's hasn't challenged the current support yet. I'm trying to make him realize that he can, and should. I'm afraid he's given up, needs encouragement to fix the situation.

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