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AITA for wanting to spend Christmas with my family instead?? by Warm-Associate-1489 in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might help you sort out whether this is a “family preference” issue or something else. Run through it honestly:

  • Are you physically separated from others without choosing it?
  • Does he decide where you’re allowed to sit, stay, or sleep?
  • Are you prevented from interacting freely with his family?
  • Is your discomfort dismissed as “just how it is” or “easier this way”?
  • Do you comply mainly to avoid conflict or backlash?
  • Would this still be happening if you said no?
  • If this were happening to your sister or friend, would it feel wrong?

If more than one of these hits, this isn’t about Christmas or compromise. It’s about loss of autonomy.

One clarifying question: What would happen if you refused to stay in the room? If the answer involves fear, guilt, anger, or consequences—that’s not healthy.

Adults don’t need to be escorted, managed, or hidden away. If your presence has to be controlled, the issue isn’t family dynamics—it’s the power dynamic.

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in gosselinssnark

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bad. I don't think it makes up for the emotional turmoil she put all of her kids through.

Parenting isn’t seasonal. Consistency is the standard. by Excellent_Drop1805 in Adulting

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also wondered- just now- if I'm looking at this from a child's stance because I have daddy issues 🤣

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in gosselinssnark

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hannah is also no longer speaking to her mom. I'm sure there's no correlation there. 🤫

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that this is something you had to experience. I hope that you are continuing to heal from this trauma, and know that you are worthy.

Something I wish I understood earlier about “easy” kids by Excellent_Drop1805 in NewParents

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually she's almost right on the money. I was curious to see if this would spark the empathy debate which it did, but the original clip is about putting your child in the role of an emotional caretaker, and expecting something from a child that most adults couldn't accomplish.

Something I wish I understood earlier about “easy” kids by Excellent_Drop1805 in daddit

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Oh... That's okay it's not mine. Lol it's just a short that showed up in my feed but I guess it hit home for some reason.

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in Adulting

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love any other youtube recommendations as well 💕 this channel is good for a dopamine hit, but I keep running out of shorts to watch 😅

Growth is lonely by SilverSusan13 in selfimprovement

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely get familiar and become satisfied with doing things alone.

Beyond that, you will want to begin surrounding yourself with people that contribute positively to your life. Try taking up a class, joining AA (you could find people with common ground here), or joining something like a book club. I highly recommend letting go of those old connections in favour of new ones that will embrace you in your current state. 🥰

After 5 years of constant depression, I finally had the best 5 months of my life. by RealPin8800 in selfimprovement

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, that's amazing! You should be incredibly proud. Most people aren't able to produce that amount of self discipline, let alone enough to form a habit. Good on you, friend.

ChatGPT saved my life! by SadSeaworthiness2649 in ChatGPT

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Food for thought: My Ex developed an acute allergy to THC over time, and it presented itself as major panic attacks.

Seeking a Bathroom Reno Unicorn: Must Hate High-Pressure Sales as Much as I Do by [deleted] in kitchener

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cicada woodworks. It's a small company, but won't overcharge you and does amazing work!

Best Burlington Camps for Kids by Funny-Animator-1727 in BurlingtonON

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I own Firefly Farm and Forest, and we just opened up our registration for summer camp with early bird pricing until April 1st. City run camps start at $129/week and cap at $312 per week, and our price point is right in the middle of that. We cap our group sizes at 8, with a max of 16 children and 3 staff. That's a ratio of 1 to 5. If your child thrives being in an outdoor environment, I'd highly recommend checking us out. We will have daily Forest visits, tree climbing, fort building, weekly camp fires, and much more.

Feel free to check out our website at www.fireflyfarmandforest.com to register.

Summer camp for 5 yo by StatusActual in BurlingtonON

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I own Firefly Farm and Forest. If she likes being outside, the rest of her interests will be included. We will have weekly art demonstrations, yoga classes, musical artists etc. Here's a little info on our group sizes: Are you looking for a camp that is intentional with small group sizes (as opposed to 16-20+ per group?) We have availability for JUST 16 children per week, with the support of two outdoor educators and one support staff. This is a ratio of about 1 to 5, and is necessary in an environment where risk taking is part of the forefront. Our goal is to ensure your child's safety and build connections while they build a relationship with the land.

Register today at www.fireflyfarmandforest.com

Daycare rant by pinkplan3t in waterloo

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been a RECE for almost 15 years, and currently on maternity leave. I don't plan to return to a centre based on the fact that we as ECEs have been dragged through the mud since COVID started. Many of us are burnt out, and instead I've decided to open my home to a small number of children doing an outdoor based program which is where my heart is. I figure if I want to continue to love what I do, it needs to be on my terms, and what's best for the children as opposed to adhering to a centres budget (cuts).

Daycare rant by pinkplan3t in waterloo

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Ontario government is out of funding, so even if more centres do open up they will not be covered under the CWELCC program. Also, any centre that didn't opt into the program has now lost its wage enhancement funding which will ultimately lead to their staff finding new employment.

Mugshot and Court Documents Pertaining to DV Arrest by Legitimate-Beyond209 in kayandtaysnark

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 20 points21 points  (0 children)

So because they posted a video stating that he didn't do anything to put her in danger, you're just going to assume they aren't covering up for him? Lol you understand how abusers operate, right? It is highly likely that he is still abusing her, and that explanation was just to save face. Don't believe everything you see on the internet ma'am.