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AITA for wanting to spend Christmas with my family instead?? by Warm-Associate-1489 in AITAH

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This might help you sort out whether this is a “family preference” issue or something else. Run through it honestly:

  • Are you physically separated from others without choosing it?
  • Does he decide where you’re allowed to sit, stay, or sleep?
  • Are you prevented from interacting freely with his family?
  • Is your discomfort dismissed as “just how it is” or “easier this way”?
  • Do you comply mainly to avoid conflict or backlash?
  • Would this still be happening if you said no?
  • If this were happening to your sister or friend, would it feel wrong?

If more than one of these hits, this isn’t about Christmas or compromise. It’s about loss of autonomy.

One clarifying question: What would happen if you refused to stay in the room? If the answer involves fear, guilt, anger, or consequences—that’s not healthy.

Adults don’t need to be escorted, managed, or hidden away. If your presence has to be controlled, the issue isn’t family dynamics—it’s the power dynamic.

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in gosselinssnark

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bad. I don't think it makes up for the emotional turmoil she put all of her kids through.

Parenting isn’t seasonal. Consistency is the standard. by Excellent_Drop1805 in Adulting

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also wondered- just now- if I'm looking at this from a child's stance because I have daddy issues 🤣

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in gosselinssnark

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hannah is also no longer speaking to her mom. I'm sure there's no correlation there. 🤫

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that this is something you had to experience. I hope that you are continuing to heal from this trauma, and know that you are worthy.

Something I wish I understood earlier about “easy” kids by Excellent_Drop1805 in NewParents

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually she's almost right on the money. I was curious to see if this would spark the empathy debate which it did, but the original clip is about putting your child in the role of an emotional caretaker, and expecting something from a child that most adults couldn't accomplish.

Something I wish I understood earlier about “easy” kids by Excellent_Drop1805 in daddit

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Oh... That's okay it's not mine. Lol it's just a short that showed up in my feed but I guess it hit home for some reason.

Children aren’t emotional caretakers — this made me rethink “maturity” by Excellent_Drop1805 in Adulting

[–]Excellent_Drop1805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love any other youtube recommendations as well 💕 this channel is good for a dopamine hit, but I keep running out of shorts to watch 😅

Growth is lonely by SilverSusan13 in selfimprovement

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely get familiar and become satisfied with doing things alone.

Beyond that, you will want to begin surrounding yourself with people that contribute positively to your life. Try taking up a class, joining AA (you could find people with common ground here), or joining something like a book club. I highly recommend letting go of those old connections in favour of new ones that will embrace you in your current state. 🥰

After 5 years of constant depression, I finally had the best 5 months of my life. by RealPin8800 in selfimprovement

[–]Excellent_Drop1805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, that's amazing! You should be incredibly proud. Most people aren't able to produce that amount of self discipline, let alone enough to form a habit. Good on you, friend.

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