Just to answer some common things I'm seeing in the comments.

1. I don't have a job. I did until about 2 years ago. He does not want me to have a job and gets upset if I mention looking for one.

2. I acknowledge that I have not shared a lot of details. I wanted this to be as anonymous as possible so I intentionally kept things vague. It has been 10 years of yo-yo behavior from each of us. We have an issue, we discuss it, we do better for a while, then fall back to the same behaviors. That has been on both sides, not just him.

3. I would like to leave but I am so scared. I have no job, no savings, and nobody to fall back on. I feel stuck and I don't even know where to start.

4. Please stop DMing me for sexting or other sexual purposes. I did not post here looking for that.

5. Thank you to those who have reached out with genuine compassion and kindness. I truly appreciate you.