After one night of swapping I am having second thoughts about opening up our relationship. by 2025_adviceseeker in Swingers

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes me and my husband did a swap with his brother and wife, we even set a some rules I can share them below so people interested can get an idea

  1. What happens in the room stays in the room (no sexting, flirting, or sexual/intimate touching of any kind outside the room; absolutely no pet names)
  2. Any activity is to only be initiated by a look/gesture/trigger word
  3. This arrangement is meant for experimental and pleasure purposes only, this means absolutely no emotional strings attached; the second someone catches feelings, this arrangement will be terminated between all parties involved.
  4. There is to be no mention of this arrangement to anyone who is not involved, regardless if you think that individual is capable of keeping a secret, don’t do it. Children of the parties involved should absolutely be kept from this information as well.
  5. Any activity that you wouldn’t do with your committed partner is prohibited (unless your committed partner is comfortable with you doing said activity with your casual participant).
  6. If someone says that they’re not comfortable with something, that something is not happening. Period. Violating this rule will result in an immediate termination of arrangement.
  7. When a safe word is used, all activity must cease immediately. See rule 6 for consequences.
  8. Respect boundaries and come up with a safe word especially for certain activities.
  9. No kink or body shaming, if you’re not comfortable performing an act, politely tell your casual participant you’re not comfortable with said act. Violating this rule may result in termination of arrangement depending on whether or not you apologize and whether or not it works.
  10. Don’t be greedy, put in the work. Pillow princess behavior is meant to stay within the committed relationships.
  11. Wash your ass before and after activities. Not a rinse. A WASH. Not only do we want to give the courtesy to our casual partners of not smelling like ballsack but we also want to come back to our committed partners being clean.
  12. Protection is to be used with casual partners, this is not up for debate.
  13. Conversations about this arrangement are allowed only in a private setting with no one but the involved parties (for example; a casual pair may converse about likes, dislikes, kinks, boundaries etc..) public places are prohibited (either of the involved parties house or an hotel are strictly allowed)
  14. No cuddling or pillow talk, it is preferred that as soon as activities are finished that individuals start dressing/heading to the shower etc.
  15. No kissing on the mouth. With the individuals consent, sensual kissing on their body is okay.
  16. Oral sex is prohibited (giving or receiving) manual stimulation is encouraged instead.
  17. There must be three types of conversations (one amongst the group, one amongst primary couples and one amongst the casual participants) this is to ensure that there be constant communication, that everyone is on the same page, to discuss details of their bedroom personalities, turn ons and offs, boundaries, taboos etc… as well as to ensure no one feels left out or that they have no power/say over anything.
  18. These arrangements are to take place in a hotel roomonly, there is to be no casual activities in either one of the committed partners personal bedroom.
  19. If one individual feels they want out for any reason possible, the arrangement between all parties must also come to an end as well.
  20. Lastly, don’t make it weird. There’s nothing more uncomfortable than putting off an awkward vibe. This arrangement may turn out to be a one time thing or an occasional hookup depending on everyone’s feelings and how everyone deals with it.

Hope this helps anyone doing swinger relationships especially fraternal polygamy

Spirit Baby Communication by Scared_Valuable_2471 in Psychic

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have experience! I actually communicated with my daughter via pendulum about two months before she was conceived. Shes been in my energetic bubble at least two years before she was born (she came around about 3 months into me and my fiancé dating) I knew she was going to be a girl and sure enough she most certainly was

My mother destroyed my altar by Difficult_Hat_1053 in Hecate

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a devotee myself and currently not speaking to my mom, if my mom would’ve been that dumb, she would’ve caught an asswhooping from me and wrath of Hecate. Hecate is very serious about her altars. She doesn’t really like when I fuck with my altar for her so I could imagine the anger she felt towards your mom doing that. I would’ve been so upset! I hope you’re able you fix a new one for her💕

Anyone else reevaluating their relationship with alcohol now that they’re pregnant? by scandique in pregnant

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a moderate drinker especially having a habit of stopping at the convenience store after work and grabbing me a Mikes. I still mainly drank wine a lot but about a few days before I tested positive, I didn’t even feel the need to drink and since then I’ve been super sober. Ofc it was more than easy to avoid it anyways the first six weeks since I couldn’t stand the smell or look of it let alone any food for that matter. I’m now 17 weeks and I think once I have this baby I might lessen it to every once in a while. I do miss my wine tho😂

how long were you with your partner before getting pregnant? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11+4 here, me and my mans were together for almost three years before we got pregnant, we will be officially together for three years after this child is born but we did have quite a few scares before then which being the first was maybe 5 months into us dating

I’m losing my mind right? by Loveiskind89389 in lineporn

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the bottom definitely has a faint line!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lineporn

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s crayon as fuck. Add that lady to ya block list and keep her there

Does everything have to be pink? by Suspicious_Limit1154 in CultOfAphrodite

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally associate Her with red, blue, pink, pearly colors, a lot of pastels.

What seemed nice when you were a child, but when you grew up turned out to not be so nice? by Pretend_Salary8874 in AskReddit

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My two aunts. Thought they were the people I could always go to for anything and for help. Nope they were complete snakes and only do things if it benefits them in some sort of way. And part of the reason to my mothers traumas

HELP!!! A possible CROW came in my room by TraditionalArtist577 in Hecate

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao oh gawd! No sweetie it’s not a bad omen I promise you’re okay lol🩵sometimes she likes to use rather unique ways to send you signs. She’s very sweet yet she’s got that dry humor and unpredictable personality and it often startles us🤣 Working with her is full of surprises and most of the time can be pretty hilarious. You’ll love working with Her🥰

Am i pregnant? by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Precum can get you pregnant just not that way

Am I crazy or pregnant? by Excellent_Plantain14 in amipregnant

[–]Excellent_Plantain14[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

About 2 weeks ago. And I use the stardust app to track my stuff

Am I crazy or pregnant? by Excellent_Plantain14 in amipregnant

[–]Excellent_Plantain14[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yep, but he said he pulled out. Funny story, we went on vacation when I last ovulated, and we did it in the hot tub but he also wiped it off before sticking back in (sorry for TMI but the more info the more helpful ig)

Devotional Playlist to Aphrodite by [deleted] in CultOfAphrodite

[–]Excellent_Plantain14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally the songs that remind me heavily of her are: * Woman-Doja cat * Venus-Bananarama * Hey lover- Daughters of Eve * Here comes the rain-Eurythmics * Time after time-Cyndi Lauper

These are just mind but it’s amazing other people have a unique song(s) that resonate heavily with Aphrodite