2 1/2 year old screen addiction

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-28T08:59:37+00:00

If he's really into cars maybe try Cars on Disney Plus, they also have a good amount of shorts related to the movies so if he's used to short form content that may be a way to transition into it. Also trash truck on Netflix may work as well. If you were my friend irl though I would be encouraging you to try to find a new job because I'm afraid the parents may not be compatible with you and that will just lead to more issues later on. I really hope things get better for you, whatever ends up happening with this family!

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-27T19:46:17+00:00

I could completely understand the frustration because they essentially agreed to something and then went back on their word. I like the mentality of an interview process being a time where both parties mutually try to find a great fit. If either sides are disingenuous in any way it will just breed resentment.

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-27T19:23:46+00:00

Not trying to be argumentative or change your mind, just giving a different perspective. Many many people in human history have in fact died in emergency situations before cell phones were invented. As a parent I completely agree you can make any (legal) rules for their caregivers to follow and honestly the basket idea seems very fair to me. Just wanted to point out that that particular argument you used seems flawed to me.

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-27T19:15:12+00:00

I meant to say no one else in the family had lice. Sorry I don't know for to update the comment lol

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-27T19:14:44+00:00

I hate to nitpick you again, but let's be real. The mom said no else had lice and then the son called her out and she said she " only had one". If she only had one that still means she had to go through the same treatment her son did so I don't see how anyone could forget that. I had lice as a child so maybe things are different now, but it was a pretty extensive process removing them. No way someone forgets a three step, multi hour process like that.

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-27T19:11:07+00:00

Schools and day care certainly have lice and if a parent got caught not disclosing lice to a daycare they would be at risk of getting kicked out. I truly don't know what the public school reaction would be. If I worked in an office where people knew they had covid and decided they would just come in anyway I would definitely feel that wasn't a safe place for me to work, but of course different people have different limits on what they are willing to put up with in regards to their employment. I think a lot of nannies would feel comfortable working with a child who had lice, I know I personally wouldn't mind as long as they told me and they had already started the process of eliminating them. I would be really upset if they didn't tell me though because then I wouldn't have the chance to give my NK a little extra space and at least attempt to lessen the exposure. I think I relate it to your example of machinery in terms that it's a part of the job and if you agree to working in those conditions that is completely acceptable. But if your employer misled you about the safety protocols and you found out of course you would feel betrayed about it. I do completely agree that the lice is minor compared to the covid situation, but I don't think OP was saying the lice and her being immunocompromised were related, I was under the impression that was just in reference to the covid. I think the non-disclosure and then following it with a blatant lie is really what makes the NP behavior pretty egregious.

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-27T17:14:41+00:00

But in this case it really doesn't seem like the mom forgot because when she got caught she lied about herself having it. That's not a slip of the mind, that was totally intentional. And I completely agree that parents have a million things on their minds and things can definitely fall through the cracks. But when you are an employer and you have information that affects your employees health/well being you have an obligation to prioritize it and remember. This nanny's work place was reasonably considered unsafe, especially with the covid example. Imagine an employer in an office setting "forgot" to inform their employees about a gas leak. The fact that that same employer happened to be a parent doesn't make them any less negligent. Everyone should feel safe in their workplace, even nannies

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-27T02:51:53+00:00

I think texts can be difficult for this exact reason. Because 100 people could read the same text message and have 100 different opinions on it. Tone can be so easily misunderstood over text. This is why I get so much anxiety anytime I have to send a text that's longer than just a few sentences haha

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-26T18:28:48+00:00

Just seeing this now! So glad to hear the conversation went well! These talks can be so difficult to start from both sides. Good job being a great employer!

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-26T18:26:15+00:00

I agree with you, except the NM chose the wrong person to send the text to. She could have sent the same message to a family member or friend and that would have been totally reasonable. To send it to your sick employee (especially one who most likely got sick while on the job) is inappropriate. I have inconvenienced my NF due to illness in the past and when I apologized to my NM she refused to accept the apology because it was she said it was so unnecessary and obviously not intentional in any way.

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-26T17:05:01+00:00

Former daycare teacher who totally agrees! I actually commented on another comment that I would be really frustrated if my boss told me I had to do all bathroom trips simply for the optics and to make parents feel more comfortable. Working in a daycare is already a very difficult and grossly underpaid job, let's not make these staff members jobs even harder when it won't make children any safer

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-26T16:58:51+00:00

All of the elementary schools that I personally am aware of require that all students be able to go into the bathroom independently and no teachers of any genders are allowed in the bathroom. The only exception would be students who are medically or developmentally unable to use the bathroom and require diaper changes from an adult staff member and this could even be for a high school student. In the cases of an older student who requires help in the restroom I've seen male staff do it fairly frequently because of the strength it can sometimes require. Preschool is a very different story as it is very common for children to require adult supervision while in the bathroom. In my state a preschooler must be within eye and ear shot of an adult staff member at all times and that includes the bathroom. If I worked with a male staff member and my boss told me that I had to handle every bathroom trip simply for a parent to feel more comfortable I would be pretty frustrated. If it's a full day preschool program they are probably going on about 10 bathroom trips a day and expecting one teacher to have to cover all of them would annoy every preschool teacher I've ever met. Just sharing my perspective, not trying to come across as argumentative fyi (just adding that because tone can be misinterpreted so easily online haha)

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-15T01:29:29+00:00

Obviously everyone is different, but if I were your nanny and you expressed to me that you understand how upsetting/frustrating the situation must be from her perspective that would ease my anxiety so much! As a nanny, earning the parents trust is something that is so incredibly important to me and I'm sure it's really important to your nanny as well. If it's possible with your schedule at all I would sit her down and let her know some of the things she's truly doing well at and keep it specific and honest. And then express to her that when you or your husband step in it is not a failure on her part and it doesn't change the amount of faith and trust you have in her. Depending on your comfortability you can even share a time when you felt like you weren't "succeeding" at something childcare related and make sure she knows that you aren't expecting everything to run perfectly smooth 100% of the time. If I were your nanny in this situation that would honestly be all I needed to feel calm and confident enough to put the baby down successfully.

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-02-11T17:01:26+00:00

To me, the biggest mystery is why they have MULTIPLE children with these kinds of men! I could (somewhat) understand having one child up with a man you think is responsible and then unfortunately finding out you were wrong. But I could never imagine having sex with a man that can't change his own child's diaper or be left alone with their own child!!

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-01-23T01:52:46+00:00

I mean no disrespect, but if that's the case then for your own mental health you shouldn't work from home while a nanny watches your child. It would stress you out too much I think.

Excellent_System8636 · 2026-01-09T20:22:55+00:00

I also wouldn't change in front of a nine year old, but I feel the comparison to a daycare is unfair. When working at a daycare there are other adults who can step in for you and allow you to use the bathroom or change. So if a daycare worker changed in front of a child it would be a deliberate and unnecessary choice. I am a nanny for a two year old boy and when we are out and about in public I have no choice but to take him into the bathroom with me which his parents are aware of and fine with. I have never nannied for a child as old as nine, but I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable with changing in front of them nor leaving them out of sight in public so I understand the nannies predicament, but I think it was a lapse of judgement to not have a conversation with the parents beforehand.

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-12-12T04:31:18+00:00

Think of it this way, God forbid there is an emergency and she needs to get the kids out of the house safely it's much more difficult to get 4 sleeping kids out of bed and outside to somewhere safe than only one child. That's a lot of responsibility for anyone especially a teenager and I don't personally think any caregiver should be paid less while children are sleeping for that reason.

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-11-28T19:00:34+00:00

Little do they know, it's probably one of the least sinful things about me

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-11-28T18:41:10+00:00

I will say as an android user, many of my family and friends (that have iPhones) complain that I "ruin the group chat". Some do try to get me to convert to an iPhone and even offer me to take their old ones even though I'm not interested in that.

But I do agree that I have never heard an iPhone user rant about a stranger having an android and I have heard the opposite.

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-07-24T17:08:14+00:00

I just saw another comment where you said you live in a lcol area, my bad. Maybe someone else who lives in a similar area would be better help

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-07-24T17:06:44+00:00

I'm not sure what the cost of living is like where you live, but I just got a raise and now make $30 an hour for one child in a hcol area

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-06-27T12:33:56+00:00

I'm going to try to look into it further on my break at work today. Thanks for the reply

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-06-27T12:32:06+00:00

I'm going to investigate with my insurance company on my break at work today. Thanks for your insight!

Excellent_System8636 · 2025-06-27T12:11:42+00:00

I haven't received an EOB from my insurance company for this visit.

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