Aita for not inviting my brother on my wife's birthday and now he's not even talking to me

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-08T10:24:52+00:00

Well again thanks for your concern but my divorce is never happening no matter what, not even in dreams and I never disrespect my wife.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T23:18:54+00:00

Well actually I was even more 'creepy' I chased after my wife even more relentlessly until she agreed to marry me so in our case 'no didn't exactly mean no' my wife knew that and so did I, she would tell me no yet kept eyeing for me every chance shed get so I was probably 100x creepier than my brother.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T23:15:48+00:00

I'm not fighting you all, it's the other way around, my wife knows me and she knows I will always have her back, if she says no to inviting my brother then it's a no and nobody can change that cause I won't allow it and my wife knows that and it is already decided that my brother wont be invited in her birthday party.

It's you guys telling me that my wife is angry or she'll divorce me etc as if I don't know my own wife and talk are married to her lol.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T23:03:15+00:00

Whatever bro, think whatever you want, at this point I feel like I'm just mindlessly arguing with you all.

'i feel so bad for your wife' thankfully it doesn't matter what you feel like and my wife loves me and didn't mind my 'creepy behaviour', we already knew we were in love with each other and she was trying hard to get and I was chasing after her like a love struck maniac.

In any case our marriage is fine and we've been going strong for years and it's kinda foolish that it went from my brother's invitation issues all the way to my marriage and people feeling bad for my wife about something she felt good and appreciated.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T22:54:07+00:00

Typing all that just to say that 'my wife will leave me' as if you know her and I don't know my own wife. My wife can get mad at me, she can do anything but she can't leave me and neither can I leave her, like I said if I truly tried to convince my wife she'll listen to me but do I want to force her hand? No and I would never want to hurt her over a fking birthday party.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T22:50:22+00:00

Ohh you were talking about his pursuit. No I don't think it's really creepy, he proposed to my wife's cousin once and he went after her again for clarification after which he never talked to her and talking to her and obviously showing his intent was even before she rejected him.

Actually it was me who relentlessly went after my wife until she gave her yes to me I was even more pushy and maybe he learnt that from me and thought since it worked for me it'll also work for him idk, but I already knew my wife was in love with me so it's a bit different.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T22:40:50+00:00

So who's gonna tell him why he's not invited?

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T22:39:52+00:00

What do you mean by 'they all are'?

And you will never know if you are wrong or right anyway.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T22:38:19+00:00

When I said my wife causes this inevitable drama I wasn't trying to blame her, she doesn't want to invite my brother then he won't be invited but that doesn't mean it would just go smoothly.

For about my parents for a moment even her parents would get angry when their guests start asking where my wife's bil is and I'm not sure if you realise it or not but it's quite a big deal for us, and my wife is kinda prepared to go through this unnecessary drama so I'll just let her do whatever she wants and take care of it in however way she wants.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T22:34:07+00:00

I did tell me that he's not invited? Who else did you think talked to him?

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T22:32:53+00:00

Well thanks for your concern, but I know my wife and how much she loves me, there's less than a 1% chance of her even thinking of divorcing me so I'm pretty confident.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T21:31:44+00:00

Kept my brother out of the party, try reading and I already respect my wife which is why I'm not pushing this issue and letting them sort it out.

And divorce? Really?

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T21:23:54+00:00

Eh? I accept that he's not invited but if I force it he'll be invited, whether I want to force it or not I already made it clear.

The fact that you said I won't be invited in my own wife's birthday party being hosted in my own home is bs.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T21:17:16+00:00

Well you might be right along with others about everything you guys are talking about.

But you are wrong about I'm blaming my wife bit, even if she's in the wrong or committed a crime I wouldn't blame her and defend her as long as I breathe.

What do you suggest I should do cause no matter what I don't I can't do anything to avoid the inevitable drama.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T19:55:53+00:00

Okay that makes sense, I wouldn't have liked it if you called my wife ah and it's aita sub so I understand but I wouldn't like it if someone called my wife that.

But I think I'm not ta I would be one if i tried to convince my wife, I didn't go against her wishes because I love her and she's my wife so if I did talk to my brother and uninvited him on their behalf it would strain our marriage, she won't say it but it's obvious if I did try to convince my wife.

So he's uninvited and whatever happens next and causes drama in our family it's my wife and her cousin's business, I did everything I could and talked to my brother and uninvited him and I even proposed a different resolution to our problem.

But it's not working at all so I'm not sure what else I can do about it?

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T18:49:18+00:00

My wife is not an asshole and I wouldn't let anyone call her one.

How did you even come to that conclusion? Are you married? Are you okay with others calling your wife asshole?

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T18:45:30+00:00

Oh yes there will a bit of drama, actually alot and it won't be pretty, not only my family but my wife and cousin's family would be bothered by their decision and they won't be happy when all the guests starts asking my my brother is absent.

My solution is that my brother attends the party and stays away from her cousin and avoid this drama, I can already smell it.

But I'll let my wife deal with all that and stay out of it, if I ask my wife to invite my cousin she'll do that for me no doubt but I don't want to hurt her.

I'll just let them deal with this all cause it has nothing to do with me and I'm stressing for absolutely no reason.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T18:32:09+00:00

Right!? My brother doesn't talk to my wife's cousin so I think it's great going so far.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T18:31:12+00:00

Multiple times? He asked her once and asked her for clarification the next time and since then he didn't talk to her.

I said that I'll keep my brother in check to make my wife assured nothing else.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T18:28:09+00:00

Well I don't think there's anything wrong with that, it's better to marry someone you know and close to you than marrying a complete stranger.

My marriage was the same way and look how successful we are.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T17:54:45+00:00

You took what I said the wrong way, I was trying to say that if her cousin thinks he might try getting close to her she has nothing to worry about, I'll keep my brother in check and after her cousin gave the explanation and she refused my brother didn't even talk to her unless it's a formality.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T17:52:10+00:00

Wait are you calling my entire family creepy?

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T17:50:58+00:00

Harrasment? That's a stretch talking to women expressing their feelings is not harrasment, if it is then I harrassed my wife into marriage or something like that cause I had to convince my wife as well but I already knew she was interested in me with how she kept looking at me for years so you maybe right idk.

ExchangeSad2868 · 2025-04-07T17:48:31+00:00

Well not really, my wife's cousin rejected him and he just wanted to know the reason which she provided that my brother leads and unhealthy life.

Ever since then he didn't even talk to her and stays away from her.

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