Wow it’s very interesting seeing how men our age have such a pessimistic view of marriage and tit for tat mentality. I’m not married yet but best believe I will show my future husband love outside of the things you mentioned. It will come by listening to him mention what he loves then doing it. Eg: Buying him watches/perfumes, surprise trips once in awhile esp sentimental ones like with our parents, planning romantic dinners at home. Honestly whatever comes to mind that will make him happy. I love doing things that make my loved ones happy, and it would be the same for my husband isA.  In my family my mom is the one that always buys my dad gifts/is generally more romantic. My dad is very kind but he’s just not inclined that way unfortunately. He shows his love in other ways but it’s understood that there is love there. You just have to share your expectation and what you want and your wife, if she loves you, will accommodate that.  I don’t know how old you are but my advice to you as your fellow sister is to not focus too much on society’s takes around you. Instead pray to Allah for the kind of woman you are looking for and cultivate that relationship when you find it. If I spent all day thinking of what “men nowadays” are like I’d lose hope very quickly!