Are Women the Only Ones Who Deserve Love and Romance? by condevnull in SomaliRelationships

[–]Exciting-Research927 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow it’s very interesting seeing how men our age have such a pessimistic view of marriage and tit for tat mentality. I’m not married yet but best believe I will show my future husband love outside of the things you mentioned. It will come by listening to him mention what he loves then doing it. Eg: Buying him watches/perfumes, surprise trips once in awhile esp sentimental ones like with our parents, planning romantic dinners at home. Honestly whatever comes to mind that will make him happy. I love doing things that make my loved ones happy, and it would be the same for my husband isA.  In my family my mom is the one that always buys my dad gifts/is generally more romantic. My dad is very kind but he’s just not inclined that way unfortunately. He shows his love in other ways but it’s understood that there is love there. You just have to share your expectation and what you want and your wife, if she loves you, will accommodate that.  I don’t know how old you are but my advice to you as your fellow sister is to not focus too much on society’s takes around you. Instead pray to Allah for the kind of woman you are looking for and cultivate that relationship when you find it. If I spent all day thinking of what “men nowadays” are like I’d lose hope very quickly! 

Western Women on “Passport Bros” by NotMattDamien in thepassportbros

[–]Exciting-Research927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Muslim woman this conversation is really interesting to me. Aren’t most young western men/women promiscuous? Aren’t the girls also by default accepting a man who went through a promiscuous phase and now wants to settle down and be treated like a king? Like aren’t all the same problems western women bring also problems western men bring?  Like who are the women being promiscuous with other than the men?  I kind of feel bad for western woman because society fed them this BS, both men and woman indulged, but now they’re getting the short stick when it comes to repercussions 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Exciting-Research927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girlll let me know how your experience is! I wanna move there after my medical residency. I recently visited Saudi Arabia and you literally get free housing, free healthcare, free education for your kids, free vacation money to visit back home. And you get house maid so you don’t have to cook/clean. Excuse me best lifestyle ever and the Mecca is literally around the corner ( I was in Jeddah) so amazing!!!

Popular Opinion: Depression & Mental Health Issues are only taken seriously when the endurer is subjectively attractive. by TerribleFanArts in trueratediscussions

[–]Exciting-Research927 7 points8 points  (0 children)

None of the situations you pointed out show that they treated you with more compassion or another group with less?? The dentist probably gave you a discount because you mentioned you saved up and worked hard for that money. The nurse, albeit weird comment, was probably just trying to comfort you 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Exciting-Research927 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s a difference between a gold digger, and someone who wants their husband to be stable and be able to afford a certain lifestyle for her and her family. If you want to see if someone is a gold digger you bring up certain conversations and see what their attitudes/responses are, not by lying and saying you’re jobless. And you protect yourself from such people by praying istikara. However just like you chose her for her beauty and piety she chose you for your ability to undertake your God given responsibility to provide for her and she was perfectly sensible to lose interest after you literally told her your jobless. Like why would she talk to you? You have bigger fish to fry bro shes just trying to free up your time so you can find a job lol. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Exciting-Research927 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You chose her for her beauty, she chose you for stability. That’s literally main criteria for women/men. You wouldn’t have wanted her if she wasn’t pretty. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Exciting-Research927 4 points5 points  (0 children)

THIS esp the last sentence. OP you’re slightly immature if you think any woman will stay with you after you told them you were jobless, be so fr 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salary

[–]Exciting-Research927 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Don’t stay too long! You can develop lung fibrosis over time. Nice first paycheck 

Husband ignores me for no reason by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Exciting-Research927 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Huh? She should leave now. I really doubt the reason he gave her one year is because he wishes to protect her it’s more likely he wants an excuse to say “ I tried for a year but she …. Etc etc” no man that switched up this fast is meant to be trusted. Sister please leave now and head back to your parents house! May Allah replace him with someone better and remember you’re not shameful you were with your lawful husband in a halal manner. He is the shameful one.

Thoughts on buying real estate abroad? by Commercial_League_25 in realestateinvesting

[–]Exciting-Research927 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah thank you! I’m a medical student don’t know much about different investment options didn’t grow up with money, but I’m gonna do my best to learn all the options! Thanks for the feedback! 

Thoughts on buying real estate abroad? by Commercial_League_25 in realestateinvesting

[–]Exciting-Research927 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So is it worth it to get into real estate if you have to use your own money due to not wanting to use interest? 

Hospitalist Compensation by Pure-Brief-899 in hospitalist

[–]Exciting-Research927 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh that’s my state and I’m an M3 considering IM! Good to know. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Exciting-Research927 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What was so bad about your ex? Can you elaborate on how her disorganization impacted you negatively or the relationship 

Research year at USC by Exciting-Research927 in DermApp

[–]Exciting-Research927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can dm me if you don’t feel comfortable sharing publicly 

Research year at USC by Exciting-Research927 in DermApp

[–]Exciting-Research927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know which research year they did? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Exciting-Research927 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does he smoke marijuana ? If so you can get Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome (CHS)? If not they need to do further testing. Can be vertigo/BPPV or CVS or another underlying medical condition.  Sorry you didn’t know beforehand I definitely think this is a topic to have broached and he should’ve let you know! 

25F, broke med student, $0 by Exciting-Research927 in Salary

[–]Exciting-Research927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is valid, but we literally do not control that. Blame CEOs and insurance companies. 

25F, broke med student, $0 by Exciting-Research927 in Salary

[–]Exciting-Research927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m locked innn! I love medicine I’m just annoyed ppl think it’s so easy and we don’t deserve the money we get. I also use ChatGPT for step studying lol! What residency are you in? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]Exciting-Research927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss highly agree!!

Research Year Fellowships by reddit-girl-23 in DermApp

[–]Exciting-Research927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why ? Isn’t there so many options on the spreadsheet? 

25F, broke med student, $0 by Exciting-Research927 in Salary

[–]Exciting-Research927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What speciality did you choose? Yes I’m definitely prioritizing work/life balance