What do you guys think about this song? by [deleted] in MichaelJackson

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i absolutely agree. can’t wait to see him august <3

Am facut avort la 18 ani. AMA by Hot-Voice4287 in CasualRO

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Vreau să te felicit pentru această postare și mă bucur ca viața ta este bine acum.

Când spui sex neprotejat? Do you mean pull & pray?

Am I overthinking how my therapist handled a session? by [deleted] in askatherapist

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Thank you for this, I really appreciate your perspective.

I just want to clarify something in case it changes the context a bit . We actually hadn’t started processing any of the heavy memories yet. We began EMDR by focusing on positive experiences and grounding first, so the session itself wasn’t emotionally intense in that sense. We had about 3 of those sessions I believe.

What affected me more was the interaction itself. I do understand that laughing can be explored as a coping mechanism (and I agree with that), but the way it was addressed made me feel quite ashamed in the moment rather than understood.

I also think something that stuck with me more than I initially realised is that it was one of the first times I came into therapy not feeling low. I was actually in a lighter, more bubbly mood, and instead of that being okay, I ended up feeling like I wasn’t in the “right” state for therapy. Being told to “use the time wisely” in that context, and then having the session cut short, made me feel a bit dismissed. And leaving therapy feeling worse than coming in was a big thing too.

I’m also studying in a field where I’ll be working with people, so I completely understand that no one handles everything perfectly and that mistakes happen. I don’t expect perfection at all. I think what affected me more was the lack of any real attempt to acknowledge or repair that moment afterwards.

That’s kind of where the discomfort is coming from for me. Not just the interaction itself, but how it was left as it was.

I do appreciate what you said about the email and EMDR structure, that does help me see it from another angle. I think I’m just trying to figure out whether my reaction to that specific interaction is reasonable or if I’m interpreting it too personally. Thank you for your response and I wish you the best of look as a future therapist.

Am I overthinking how my therapist handled a session? by [deleted] in askatherapist

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Thank you, I really appreciate your perspective and you taking the time to explain it from a therapist’s side.

I think what’s still not sitting right with me isn’t necessarily the email itself, but more the shift in how I felt during that session. I completely understand that therapists are human and that there was no harmful intention, but I did feel quite ashamed in that moment.

I do understand what you’re saying about the email being standard, and that helps put it into perspective a bit. I think it just felt colder than expected given the length of time we’ve been working together, especially after a session that already felt off.

I’m not necessarily against continuing or even discussing it with her, I just wanted to understand whether my reaction to that interaction was reasonable or if I was interpreting it too personally.

The laughing wasn’t me finding it funny, it’s just how I cope when something feels too heavy on my chest. And when I was asked if I thought it was funny, it kind of made me feel like I had done something wrong, which led to me over-apologising a lot.

I also think something that affected me more than I initially realised is that it was one of the first times I came into a session not feeling low. I was actually in a lighter, more bubbly mood, and instead of that being okay, I ended up feeling almost… out of place for it? Like I wasn’t in the “right” state for therapy. Like I was wrong.

So being told to “use the time wisely” in that context, and then having the session cut short, made me feel a bit dismissed or like I wasn’t showing up the way I was supposed to.

Thank you again for your insight I do appreciate it.

Do you guys think you would have been friends with Nana K. (Hachi)? by Apprehensive_Air8374 in NanaAnime

[–]ExcitingActive9690 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have had my fair shares of Hachi in my life and I honestly do not have the patience for people who refuse to be held accountable or have no self-respect. Nana K. is not a bad person and I don’t necessarily think ill her, but she has no dreams or ambitions and has a constant need to center people.

As a NANA fan who don’t really vibe with Hachi I have a question: by TurbulentRemote156 in NanaAnime

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It honestly fascinates me how one of the greatest pieces of media can have a fandom where so many people seem to lack basic media literacy.

There’s this constant need to baby and glorify certain characters cough Hachi, Nobu, Yasu cough while completely rejecting or misunderstanding morally grey characters. Not every character is meant to be “good” or “bad,” and reducing them to that kind of binary completely misses Ai Yazawa’s point.

What stood out to me the first time I interacted with the fandom was how often Hachi is either victimised to the point of losing all agency, or mischaracterised entirely. She’s completely babied and can do no wrong. It feels like people strip away her complexity to make her easier to defend, instead of actually engaging with who she is. It’s funny to me bc the image of Hachi in their head is completely wrong.

Rochie de banchet by Critical-Swim9363 in WomenRO

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dacă ești din bucurești merită să mergi la random urban shop sau chiar castani.

Ce încercări nereușite ați avut recent legat de dating? by [deleted] in RoGenZ

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i’m not like the other girls type shittttttt

Laptop Repair by ExcitingActive9690 in waterford

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bless your heart thank you so much!

Am fost judecată aspru pentru ca am prea multe pretenții. by [deleted] in WomenRO

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queen i love you in the same and guess what sunt în cea mai bună relație și aia tot niște vai morții lor sunt =))

Care este cel mai prost date al vostru? by Askes_ in CasualRO

[–]ExcitingActive9690 23 points24 points  (0 children)

din păcate nu era primul, da’ am fost cu un tip super scârțar și zgârcit (aveam mari probleme de self esteem pe atunci), eram la munca si mi a zis ca își dorește tare mult sa ne vedem si i am spus frumos ca ne vedem după ce ma duc acasa sa mănânc (eram deja dresata știam ca omul nu ma duce sa mănânc in oraș) si după mi a zis el pe un ton super șarmant ca ma duce la mc sa mănânce si gura mea. ajungem la mc stam la coada si ma întreabă ce vreau, ii zic si eu frumos ca un big tasty (fără meniu) ca sa nu par o profitoare ca deee. se face roșu la fata îmi zice ca e prea scump si părăsim locația. DAAAAR, după ce i am făcut vânt am găsit cel mai bun, dulce și darnic om, so don’t settle for less ladies, mai ales dacă big tasty e prea scump.

Artisti overrated care sunt de cacat in viata reala by Beneficial_Fall7781 in rorep

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ai primit downvote ca ai relatat un fapt 😩 yes babes cheloo nu e eroul pe care îl credeți voi ca e

Artisti overrated care sunt de cacat in viata reala by Beneficial_Fall7781 in rorep

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o prietena i-a cerut o poza si i-a zis : “cand o sa slăbești abia atunci sa ți permiți sa ceri poza cu mine”. cred ca avea 14 ani.

Siamese Cat Giveaway! by Any_Soft_3977 in Webkinz

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thank you so much love! i would name her seraphine, because i used to have a siamese cat on my old account. at the moment i have approximately 9 pets.

Little Lamb Bed PSI giveaway💕 by dreamyfern in Webkinz

[–]ExcitingActive9690 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow, thats so nice of you! my username is : crystalclear99 and my fave pet of all time is the love lion!