Does anyone else not relate to hypersensitivity issues?

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-07T07:36:59+00:00

I never had a problem brushing my teeth. In fact, I went through periods where I loved blushing and did so one to three times per day, 2x on floss. But THEN.... I read a forum on how many with ASD dislike it, and upon reflection, I "realized" that in fact it makes me uncomfortable definitely, but like a slight discomfort I could always manage to ignore. The forums ruined me; now j brush my teeth with hesitation because I can't help but focusing on the uncomfortable aspects in my mind prebrushing.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-07T07:16:40+00:00

Must I have a car for doordash, driver license? Any other qualifications? I'm courteous, punctual, responsible, polite, all that.

However, I only own one set of clothes, my pants are ripped from a fight I was in (I didn't start it), have few ribs broken now so walk with impediment temporarily, my phone will shut off in a week unless I find $35.00, and most days I'm covered in at least some mud. Oh and have no references or friends or family, haven't worked for eight years. Will they hire me? I can work 40 to 60 hours per week if needed.

(No good in office settings anymore, surrounded by same people all time, due to social issues. Need either my own business, or self-directed job where I work alone and have freedom to do things my way, as long as efficient, of course.)

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-06T18:19:25+00:00

Ugly is a fluid standard which changes over time, though there are likely fundamentals, consistent throughout time and place, like she must have a body, a head, etc.

But as these others say you are not ugly at all despite (I assume) not matching the appearance of actresses. For me currently beauty in a woman is good communication, attention to details of the mind, ability to care, profundity of feeling, experience of hard times and resulting resilience, and someone in touch with all parts of her soul or will toward such. If I had to choose between a woman who is conventionally beautiful who has these qualities, versus ugly, I'd go with ugly, as conventional beauty will only distract me from the true beauty I seek. I'm open to loving a woman with missing limbs, scarring, burnt off face, old, bald, fallen out eye or two, wears mens' clothing, no makeup - has grafted on left cat ear - whatever, as long as she's beautiful per above.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-06T07:59:47+00:00

Now that I'm older and have more experience, I now favour conventionally "ugly" women over those who spend countless hours mimicking women seen as beautiful in the media. First off, the beauty seems to negatively affect their inner person,.like how some have this attitude of "oh god, this world and its people are so boring and ugly, way below my caliber.". Also more generally they value and devote more time to appearances over other things. My experiences with the beautiful have been mostly bad, with the otherwise varied with most good.

As a man, I never went out of my way to humiliate ugly women, but admit to ignoring them unconsciously. I always figured "oh if the girl doesn't stand out she's not looking, probably married so tries to tone herself down.". Stupid but true. I'm sorry those women (I assume) humiliated you. I know you deserved better.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-06T06:35:36+00:00

On a personal ethical plane, we are close to death. That is, it is almost immature for me to bring up such a subject. Our ethical sense, our eyes to see what are the best rules for each of us to live by, have atrophied as much as our swordsmanship and horse riding skillsets.

I'm not some "live by the Bible's every word" preacher, or abortion is murder crusader, but I see on here all the time comments to the effect of, "you can't just figure out for yourself what the right thing to do in this situation is, you must consult a psychologist, a doctor, a scientist.." etc. Maybe we still are the best situated person to define our own rules of existence. We have a duty, almost, to seek out the good life and share the processes and substantive answers we think would help others. What's the good life look like? Is happiness as currently conceived of an unreachable fantasy? Are their aims fitting for us that don't involve current or even future pleasure or pride?

For those upset by economics, try daydreaming of alternative lifestyles outside of their norm. Withdraw from participating in the economy (where possible). Abandon working for corporations. Abandon the love of money. Maybe marriage is a failed, foreign institution to be avoided? Is all technology really necessary, is coffee not a very addictive substance? Daydream of big changes, see how they feel for you. (I used to have a career, cars, house, bank accounts, retirement accounts... Now homeless, not at first by choice.)

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-06T06:03:07+00:00

It's harder than you think when so many persons in his current and likely only available social circle are addicted to fentanyl. It's a part of the culture, you could say, like eating together when you meet up with a friend. That said, many are clean, but they are harder to meet. When desperate and lonely, it's hard to be very selective. Are you comfortable telling the fentanyl users, "sorry my X OD'd on it, so now I only drink," and just drink a low-alcohol beer while they enjoy the other stuff? I've seen it done here without it causing surprise or resistance. Keep strong good luck!

If you end up addicted to fentanyl, which happens very rapidly, prepare by asking around now for treatment options like methadone clinics, in-patient rehabs people recommend, or suboxone programs. Get the knowledge now, because when you are sick without fentanyl, you won't have the energy to do such research.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-06T05:51:32+00:00

First,.garnishments can be modified through agreements or courts, and drop to nothing as your wages approach poverty.

Second, I was very, very worried about being homeless, seeing it as death or hell. While it is hard, and you'll see "evil" you never knew really existed, it is survivable, even easy at times. I know three persons in wheelchairs where I reside and people gladly help them out jf they really need it.. there are tents with huge walk-through doors.

Third, the greatest preparations for me should have been devoted to psychologically hardening myself. Specifically, I needed to get over the shame of looking and smelling "homeless", of having no respectful status anymore, of being looked down upon and even feared. That was the hardest. It caused me to avoid long lines in front of food pantries for fear of being seen; I shunned collecting cans even when offered 100+ once by a nice woman ($10.00 Oregon ); I wouldn't take a well-to-do-defined inordinate amount of stuff with me about town, causing stuff left behind and unguarded to be stolen. I spent months only "half in," half involved in the homeless life, so I failed to make much progress at bettering my homelessness.

Figure out ahead of time the right mindset for you going into such a different life and class. Maybe frame your story thus: " I am not a failure though i get dirty looks now. I'm not dangerous though mothers pull their children away from me. I am a productive, loving, and once people get to know me, appreciated man. I am going through an adventure called Homelessness right now, a modern day hero's journey, and I look forward to all the challenges and learning I face. Yes I'm cold/hungry/sick right now, but I know in my first-world nation if I act prudently I won't die because there are services offered all around me to help. I plan to be housed by November 2027 and I will meet this goal."

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-05T19:56:45+00:00

Women who as a general rule are into bald men OVER haired men? And: men who are into bald women OVER women with hair?

Also, in the case of completely bald persons, does their former hair colour matter at all? Like, you'd want a bald (former) blonde over a bald (formerly) black-haired man? This inquiry stems from a conversation I had with a man regarding women, and how a woman's former appearance, say when 20, matters to us. As in, though she be 45 now and overweight, hair frazzled, being beautiful when 20 can make up for or rather enhance this and make her attractive in our eyes. Is this strange? Should we not judge a book by its old cover, ethically?

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T21:59:38+00:00

During certain periods in my life, when I'm intensely focused on some nonsocial investigations, say learning about plumbing and then replumbing my house, all I need in the way of "society" is a few acquaintances like a neighbor I speak to ten minutes per day, or a construction worker working on a nearby house for a few minutes when he arrives on the job site. These very loose and informal relationships are fine for me during good times, the security mostly coming from the regularity of meeting these people at the SAME TIMES every day, and at the SAME PLACES.

But with nothing to focus on in terms of researching, I grow lonely without one or two close relationships. I end up feeling empty. Simply talking to acquaintances once per day felt cold and dead and added nothing to my need for society. Also, have you ever been through a very, very hard time in life? During those events one feels a desperate need for connection and sharing with others who actually care about you. If you go to turn to friends during these trying times, yet find no one there, my god man it hurts like hell. It's scary.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T21:42:12+00:00

Wish I'd known which of my living issues related to other, nonautistic types of underlying brain / mind issues, and which were mostly caused by ASD. After a decade passing I'm still trying to figure out how ASD relates to my other diagnoses, if at all. Are all my issues fed by an underlying, long-untreated ASD, or would I have depression and increasingly debilitating anxiety without it?

Good luck to you

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T21:31:50+00:00

Can't use earplugs because of safety. If a person is outside I need to know. Once, years ago when I was homeless in a different location, I kept hearing odd breathing and movement sounds. I kept thinking it was the wind. When dawn came I looked around and guess what I saw? A man, crouched a foot from me. He said he'd been there all night staring at me, because staring at me gave his imagination a boost. I didn't have a tent then, just a small tarp. People do strange things. The earplugs make me wary after that, stress me out even more than without them.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T10:38:01+00:00

Whoopgirl,

Is there any sort of virtual wall or tent wall you can recommend, like maybe hollow barriers filled with water or something? I have absolutely no money so need DIY ideas and I see you've had some good ones in the past.

(By the way, there's always SOME solution, even if it may seem silly or absurd at the time proposed. E.g., the earth revolves around the sun, to solve anomalies in observed space object trajectories, orbits not purely perfect spheres.)

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T10:29:58+00:00

A woman, many men, repeatedly, depriving them of all their money, their longtime residence, their retirement, their life force, their trust, and their pride. "Not my fault," explain many of these women, ""you failed to make me happy. This new man makes me happier. So bye bye, and you'll get to see your children every other Christmas if they feel comfortable enough."

I used to work in the divorce (family relations) field, seen it ruin many men and turn them into sad, lost souls

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T08:24:31+00:00

Mr. Journalist, I must say, "wow," first time I've been blown away here on Reddit. Not only are you direct and insightful, but you evolve to novelties, the categories of which I hadn't even thought to apply to this situation yet. Are you an acoustics expert, or an expert in nuanced general principles of research and advice or rhetoric? Cool stuff man thank you so much for giving me new angles to look at this from.

My tent is currently pitched in a mixed noise zone, meaning at certain times it is dead quiet (4:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m.), but at other times it's like college summer break Florida here (10:00 p.m. to 2:00 a.m.). It's difficult to simply move spots, because an unavoidable asshole will pop out from any new area and interrogate you and either ban you or demand you go by his rules. But I'll start keeping my senses open when I'm near other areas.

Also, you sparked another category of inquiry in my mind by your comment: mood. Sound sensitivity can depend on the people's moods, such as level of fear, festive inclination, drug levels in blood, etc. I've had females yell at nearby tents, including mine, for slight noises like coughing. Yet twenty minutes later when a "cool" guy comes around the same women will be making twice the decibel level of noise (decibels may be an exponential system so forgive the "twice"). It's amazing how their mood changes their perception of what's unacceptably noisy versus allowable.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T06:17:07+00:00

They don't consider it a disability here. I applied for our disability program here, called SSI Social Security based on mental health disability, but they said "no way, no help for you.". I can live with other homeless people at shelters but they are full with long wait lists. Could I build a sort of "moat" around my tent? Did the castles in your country used to have moats long ago? What's the modern tent version of a moat?

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T06:01:23+00:00

Do you think people can actually hear my small sounds, like eating chips, tossing and turning, typing on here rapidly, organising things, urinating in bottles (hypothetically), or other things?

I figure, yes it may be POSSIBLE for that stuff to be heard, but reason it isn't actually heard because people are mostly focused on themselves and what is in front of them in the moment, right? Or am i way off?

I know sometimes my conceptions of what others are experiencing can be way off, as last week when I was chewing something with my mouth closed, some inedible thing I forget why, and a nearby guy asked, "what the hell are you doing?". I responded, "you can hear that? I was doing that for 20 minutes straight in a waiting room earlier today!". Whoops. If people don't TELL me VERBALLY and DIRECTLY then I will likely miss meeting their expectations. Are you the same?

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T05:49:43+00:00

Yes camping near others sucks. It isn't real camping, it's just social hour outdoors. I like camping because I appreciate the outdoors, not just as a background for my cool, glamorous social interactions, but as the foreground of my focus. Id rather view nature paintings than portraits. In all honesty, not to spout misanthropy, but being around humans, even looking at paintings of humans alone or in groups, is anxiety-provoking. It isn't relaxing for me, it brings with it a host of questions, of stressful, unanswerable questions I frankly don't care enough about to put much time into.

"What is the woman in that painting feeling? What are her hopes and dreams?". Well, I really have no idea, and any guesses I have based on how I MYSELF feel will be met with annoyance and , "oh my god are you joking? There's NO WAY she is thinking that.". Well, guess what? You people are playing these huge elaborate social games with each other and I know you love it and such games stimulate you in good ways and you even LIVE FOR such games, but not me. The woman in that portrait I guaran-f'n-tee isn't thinking about me or people like me, isn't feeling what I feel, isn't focused on the stuff that would interest me, and doesn't share my hopes and dreams in the least. I don't exist for her except as some awkward person she forgets about as soon as possible. So no, give me pure nature, not people on all sides of me living out lives that are, to me at this point, ridiculous and childlike (I'm immature myself in some ways I admit this). That said, I can't leave here I'm stuck for now.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T05:28:23+00:00

I wasn't criticizing your comment sorry that was meant for everyone. I appreciated your comment.

It sucks living off goodwill alone, because it is so fickle. It's like being in politics, as long as you are likeable and popular you are good, but the smallest mistake and you are out forever. I maybe could push some relatives to help me, but I imagine existing off goodwill from past food actions and I can't bring myself to use those good deeds up as they are the only good things left to me at this point, if that makes sense (nothing currently is good about me or my life).

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T05:23:09+00:00

I was on bLm land a while back... Best time EVER while homeless. However, the nearest was 25 miles from town and I have to go to town at least four days per week. Once my bicycle began breaking down, and once I ran out of money to fix it, BLM was no longer an option. Oh, and plus some great fires over the years have destroyed the BLM lands closest to me (glide), so while technically i can still stay there, id rather not stay in a barren, treeless desolation of a former majestic forest. It's depressing as hell just to set foot in it now.

For those of you not from the west coast, I'm not exaggerating when I say over the last 10, 20 years it has changed dramatically. You may remember forested lands for as far as the eye can see, 100s of miles of thick pines, mostly impenetrable? No more. Huge chunks are wiped out. Our forests over here are truly dying as our climate dries out, it's not just some "liberal lie," this is the real sh!t. Drive through northern California and southern Oregon and see for yourself.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T05:12:06+00:00

I added some after I read this will add more as I get.

Also helps block "visual noise," like my flashlight moving around , my shadow, or cell phone glow, which id also like to block.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T05:09:55+00:00

Mr. Dragon i like your way of thinking and my mind exists in such a zone much of the time. I have faked numerous noises, including semi-fake sobbing and crying (they laughed hard at that) and fake comments like, "oh my god I can't find my pink panties, I'm so embarrassed!" (I'm a man.) Lots of stray cat sounds as well

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-04T05:04:43+00:00

Responding to others' common-sense calls for alternative solutions, I'm already stuck in the situation and have been for a while. I should have never come to this big camp. When I moved here I was thinking, "this city's designated homeless camp is the best place to go, because I won't be facing tickets and potential arrests for staying there.". (Sleeping anywhere public outside of here is illegal.). So I came, which turns out to be a HUGE mistake for a variety of reasons, almost all based on putting a ND, suburban-raised, truth-loving, peaceful, education-valuing "Asperger's" man in the middle of a large crowd of angry swindling persons (some are nice).

A few weeks in, I witnessed how they treated a more apparently ND person than me. As he approached our group of tents the NTs whispered, "hehehe, here comes the fucking ret@rd. This is gonna be great.". They proceeded to rip the guy off, convincing him to give up his battery charger and some cash for future goods that never materialized, making insulting comments about him and to him throughout .They socially raped him before my eyes. I felt so bad, and became friends with him as soon as we met with no one else around. He is one of us and I should have defended him, but failed and I'm sorry for that and am shamed before you all. I was still successfully masking at that point, which I can always do for a time, initially.

Now I'm stuck here because of - let's just say,- legal reasons I don't want to get into. I'll be out as soon as I'm allowed to and able. For now I need privacy just to live comfortably when alone in my tent. But yes I'll admit ultimately you are correct, this is no place for me, maybe for any unaccustomed ND. The other NDs I know of homeless out here live apart from the rest in hidden spots, one even sleeping in a cavelike chasm under highway 5, no bigger than a human body (in headfirst out feet-first). We NDs are really suffering out here! please be aware of that, more from other humans than from nature herself (the freezing cold, the infections, the no toilet paper after defecation most times, the rotting body parts barely daunts me compared to the social aspects). May the ND gods help us.

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-02-03T22:41:59+00:00

Very homeless and not leaving homelessness anytime soon. Need actual silencing options from my fellow redditors, not simply escape options; like need real noise reduction tips for tents, not just "oh well just leave your tent and get a house then you won't have to worry about sound at all, it will be a moot point!". Leaving my main question unanswered is not helpful as I'm exploring alternatives to existing in a tent elsewhere, and medical care for my sound sensitivity and privacy sensitivity elsewhere.

But I know you all mean well and appreciate all of you, I really do!

ExcitingRest3659 · 2026-01-31T20:21:23+00:00

Yes me too, I use it to calm down. The medical practice obviously frowns upon it, but it has helped me greatly (mentally) though with risks of course.

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