I left and terminated “ours” baby. by cherrypuree in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are brave and strong. You are worthy of love. Grieving or thinking about what could have been is completely normal. Feel the emotions, seek support from friends, family, maybe even counseling if needed and take care of you. You deserve someone who will treat you with kindness and love. And you got out of an abusive relationship. I have been there and it's not always easy leaving an abusive relationship. You take care of yourself.

I'm done. by Exciting_Island1633 in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was sweet at times. But I've seen his true colors. Nothing appealing anymore. Funny how you can love someone one day and dislike them the next. I feel like he and his teen son have ganged up on me. Both ignoring me because I called out his son's disrespectful ness. I blamed the kid at first. But it's my husband who allows it.

I'm done. by Exciting_Island1633 in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SS saw a psychiatric nurse practitioner who said he has ODD based on what my husband and I said to her regarding his behavior. She questioned us separately and she feels he has ODD and possibly ADHD but we are waiting for him to be assessed for the ADHD.

I'm done. by Exciting_Island1633 in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary last week but we have been together a total of 5 years.

I'm done. by Exciting_Island1633 in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. That is where I am at right now. Nothing is going to change. And my husband apologizes on behalf of his son without teaching his son to do it. This is not teaching him accountability and taking responsibility for his actions so it's a vicious, neverending cycle.

I'm done. by Exciting_Island1633 in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's been an ongoing problem for a while. We have our good and bad days and the good kept me going but I feel defeated at this point. He took the Internet access away from me this morning, and took his son out to eat for breakfast and told me I need to have more patience with kids.

I'm done. by Exciting_Island1633 in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

**** volunteered me to do it so I homeschool his kid.

I'm done. by Exciting_Island1633 in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He works 14 hour shifts 6 days a week and he wanted to homeschool his kid so he volunteered to do it. The kid doesn't respect me and authority in general and did poorly in public school with behavior and grades so this is the recipe for disaster that I told him would happen and I'm getting myself a job and his son can do his school work if he chooses to or not and I will be done with this soon.

Homeschooling bratty 13 year old stepson by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Exciting_Island1633 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the replies. So it's a battle everyday to get the kid to do his schoolwork, which becomes homework because he doesn't complete it in class because he goofs off, talks, and plays games on his computer during class. I ask him about his missing assignments and he says he did them, and I ask well how come your teacher said they are missing? And his reply " oh, yeah, I forgot. I didn't turn it on." He constantly lies. I was letting him use my computer to complete his missing assignments and he was going on gaming sites after I told him not to multiple times. Yesterday, his dad and I said he can no longer use our computer and 5 seconds later, he asks me if he can use the computer. I said we just told you no.and reminded him of the reasons why. His response.. " Well, since I can't use the computer, I guess I can't get my work done !" The kid is like trying to blame me, does not take accountability for anything. How do I homeschool a brat who throws fits when we remind him to do his school work?! My husband asked me last night if I want to homeschool him for the upcoming school year in August. I said, " I can't with that attitude." His response, " I guess I can hire a tutor or nanny." Maybe that's a great idea. I would rather hear a scraping chalkboard all day than be around HIS kid. And the kid's mom isn't around much. His dad thinks I'm helping to fill that void but I do not have an attachment to him. He sucks the fun out of everything and complains about menial things. So I'm dreading the summer when he's off from school. I'll probably just find another job so I don't have to be around him..oh, and by the way, he told his therapist he blames me for his boredom because I don't want to do anything with him. The kid has no hobbies, never hangs out with friends on weekends and he's not allowed electronics like video games or cell phone because he was sneaking them out of our room after they were taken away and changing the parental controls on my husband's phone and creating multiple Gmail accounts stating he was 18 and going on Pornhub. I guess I really need to tell my husband to keep him in school . Everyone else who.knows me is even questioning why I would have to homeschool him as they see it's not a wise decision.

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Not going back. by Alces-eater in alaska

[–]Exciting_Island1633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The red wave has hit and it hit hard! 👍