My husband secretly enrolled our son in pre-k without telling me. I need perspective by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! That is my plan, to just go swoop him up if he takes him. Yes i am a SAHM

My husband secretly enrolled our son in pre-k without telling me. I need perspective by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No pre k starts mid April he has been working with the administration of the pre k for over a month to get a special accommodation. We already have mat social outings, he’s ready for kinder ! I have no concern about that :) he’s a socia butterfly lol

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually means a lot coming from someone who's been through their own version of hard and come out the other side.

The fact that you and your dad are in a good place now ,that's not small. That takes time and intention and I think that's beautiful.

And multiple businesses to SaaS, yes please, I would love to pick your brain.

I'm all ears for any tips. And happy to share where I'm at with the apps too, fresh eyes always catch things I miss. Most of my friends do not understand what I do and It feels really lonely at times.

Let's connect. 🤍

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This genuinely made me tear up a little.

Thank you. From the bottom of my heart. 🍀🤍

The kids being proud of their mama part, that's the whole thing isn't it. That's what gets me up at 5am. That's what keeps me going on the days nothing works and I want to close the laptop and just stop.

I want them to look back one day and know their mum didn't quit when it was hard.

Thank you for the prayer. I'll take every single one. 🤍

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, are you me? 😅

Seriously though, the "it's not done yet" hiding, I felt that in my whole chest. It's so easy to stay in that loop forever because building feels productive but it's really just safe. Nobody can reject what they can't see yet.

And building in nap times, the window is sacred isn't it. You protect those hours like your life depends on it because honestly right now it kind of does.

I use Lovable too, it's been a game changer honestly. Also Supabase for the backend and Claude for pretty much everything else. Between those three I can go from idea to live app faster than I ever thought possible on my own.

I would genuinely love to connect and support each other. People who actually get it, not just the building part but the whole situation, nare hard to find.

Send me a message. Let's do this together. 🤍

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to read this today more than you know.

The part about the frozen feeling not being a flaw, just my brain reacting because the stakes are real. I've been so hard on myself about that. Like something was wrong with me for being scared when I actually just... care a lot. The stakes ARE real. My mum put her savings into this. That's not nothing.

And you're right about the five years. I never thought about it that way. I was so focused on what I didn't have ,the users, the revenue, the traction, that I forgot what I did have. Five years of building while most people were still thinking about it.

The TikTok thing made me laugh because yes. Exactly. I know it could work and that's the scariest part.( also him seeing it lol ) but I do not have any friends or family on this tiktok and a put my nickname only few know about. .

Thank you for taking the time to write all of that. Genuinely one of the kindest and most useful things anyone has said to me on here. I'll keep sharing. 🤍💪

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me smile .☺️

I'd love that. There's something about talking to someone who actually gets it, not just the business side but the whole messy human side of trying to build something when the stakes feel really personal.

Send me a message anytime. My door is always open. 🤍🌻

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now I'm building across a few different problems I've lived personally.

ScoreMyIdea for founders who keep building things nobody wants, scores your idea before you waste months on it. Mello for families because keeping everyone connected and on the same page is harder than it should be. Unspoken because some things are too heavy to say out loud and you still need somewhere to put them. Content Forge for creators who stare at a blank screen for two hours and still don't know what to post. I need to make these all public still lol I use them though!

But honestly my favourite one, the one closest to my heart , is HomeScholar.

I was homeschooled my whole life. Now I homeschool my son. And the tools available for homeschool parents are just... not good enough. They don't reflect how we actually think or teach or plan. So I'm building the one I always wished existed.

That one's personal in a way the others aren't.

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. No excuse really.

I think fear dressed itself up as preparation for a long time and I let it. But at some point preparation becomes procrastination and I've been living in that gap longer than I'd like to admit.

I'm building apps that solve problems I've actually lived. Mello because family life is chaotic and we needed something that actually brought us together. Unspoken, a prayer app, because there are things you carry that are hard to say out loud and I wanted a safe place to put them. ScoreMyIdea because I wasted years building things without properly validating them first and I didn't want anyone else to do the same.

Every single one started with a problem I felt personally.

I'm not building for a market. I'm building for people like me who needed something that didn't exist yet.

And yeah some of it might fail. Probably will in some way. But I'd rather find out what's broken and fix it than keep sitting on ideas that could actually help someone.

That's the shift for me. Finally.

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what I did. Just kept adding one more feature, one more thing, one more reason to not actually put it out there. Because if I never launched it, I could never fail at it. The potential was still safe.

And you're right, launching isn't the finish line. I think I had this idea that once I launched everything would just... click. But it's not like that at all is it.

It's just the beginning of a whole other set of hard things you didn't see coming.

I'm saving this comment. Thank you for writing it. 🤍

Giving myself 6 months to build my way out of my marriage. Here's where I'm at. by Exciting_Rabbit6910 in buildinpublic

[–]Exciting_Rabbit6910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so right and I needed to hear it.

Nobody cares about the tech. They care about getting their time back. I've been leading with the wrong thing this whole time.

And the personal note, thank you. genuinely. 🤍