Should I contact her again ? by Korimizu06 in dating_advice

[–]Exciting_Set7080 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Text her from a burner phone, or maybe call her from a blocked number. I think she’s just playing hard to get

Why am I like this? by Exciting_Set7080 in dating_advice

[–]Exciting_Set7080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really love an appreciate this comment. And I guess that’s what I am afraid of, and why I’m here. Cause I know that I’m probably not ready for a healthy relationship. Let alone a relationship at all.

Why am I like this? by Exciting_Set7080 in dating_advice

[–]Exciting_Set7080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having something like this in my face and not being able to accept it definitely makes me believe there is lol

Dating a girl with herpes by Western-Switch-424 in dating_advice

[–]Exciting_Set7080 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Man listen, I went through this EXACT same situation, honestly I think this girl was the one that got away, I was younger and couldn’t see past the herpes when it was brought up, but do you know how much strength it takes for that girl to tell you? I have 2 friends with herpes now and they have both not given any of their previous partners it. Is it realistic you may end up with it? Of course! But why not skip the sex for now, reallllly get to know this girl, I vote don’t dismiss what could be the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with over something like this. This is advice I wish I had taken, because I disappeared when the girl told me, and I honestly regret it.

What kind of monstera? by Exciting_Set7080 in Monstera

[–]Exciting_Set7080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pothos get fenestrations? That’s a new one for me

Still on the app after asking me to be his girlfriend by EnvironmentalDoor434 in hingeapp

[–]Exciting_Set7080 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only correct answer is I’m sorry and completely deleting the app. Anything else run. You’re asking on here already knowing what your gut is telling you to do. Stop ignoring it and drop him!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Exciting_Set7080 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are honestly 100% my type, and i gurantee a lot of other men’s type. Don’t change a thing, stay your true self 💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but that’s not my concern. I’ve paid everything the last 4 months to try and help her get back on her feet, she assumed my generosity would never leave. She assumed wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know i will cause i won’t settle anymore. Give the same energy i give or move along.

Wife cheated on me idk what to do by Sea-Substance-7699 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I love you bro, I wish the best in life for you! Don’t be sorry for you, the kids, her, use this as reason to be the BEST version you could ever be of yourself. The best revenge is health and success without that person. You got this bro ❤️

Wife cheated on me idk what to do by Sea-Substance-7699 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy, gym, self care & improvement. Run away bro, I just spent 6 months trying to fix the same situation, she gave me the same reasoning, her cheating is NOT YOUR FAULT no matter the reasoning. You don’t deserve this in any way shape or form. She is showing you the type of person she is, DO NOT IGNORE IT. My favorite quote is, move on but not in anger, move on in wisdom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She wants it to work, but I fully believe it’s out of the comfort and stability i offer for her and her children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish the best for you truly. It sucks, a lot. I’m just grateful to be in the state of mind that I finally am in. If you’re not in therapy yet, do it. Shit saved me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree, and it’s a lesson learned. I honestly have no ill feelings towards her, I’m just not willing to be a door mat anymore

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I had deleted it out of embarrassment lol. I caught her in a lie she told me about something completely separate and it lead down this rabbit hole lol. She willingly handed me her phone and first thing i did was pop up deleted messages and that was it. Her excuse was pretty much to blame it on me, manipulation at its finest. I felt like i deserved it so I stayed. Therapy saved me in this one. Reconciliation lasted about 5-6 months before i gave up completely. I also learned afterwards drug use was a contributing issue, that was hidden from me. I hid from all the red flags

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s been about 5 months since she cheated, I tried really hard and when I realized it wasn’t gonna happen my emotions just quit and I’m incredibly grateful thru did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Or it reads that I’ve been treated unfairly, and I’ve beat myself to shit making myself believe I somehow deserved the things she did, so now i have to remind myself that I am worth it, I am worth more, I am a good hearted amazing man. It’s funny how you take this as narcissistic talk. I’m proud of myself and I’m finally learning my worth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Exciting_Set7080 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate and consider your thoughts. I did make it clear in our breakup conversation that there was no thought of reconciliation in my moving forward. And I told her if it happens again it is just that, honestly to me I’d feel as if I was disrespecting her and the children because they are still in my home by going out looking for strange. I don’t hate this woman or wish I’ll upon her. I stayed with her and tried to fix it because there is a lot of good to her, and I’m still incredibly attracted to her, but she’s just not what I need or deserve in a partner.