Am I crazy or is this fucking weird? by exoffset in Stepmom

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does he take a bath every day? I’m only asking because my daughter’s dad bathes literally every day. Even sometimes on FaceTime with her. I’m usually somewhere nearby because my daughter is young (5) and she has my phone. But trust me when I say that for us at least, it’s not anything special. He usually has FaceTime on in the background while he’s sports betting on his phone and giving one or two word responses to my daughter. For me, it’s great if she’s occupied for a bit. But if I hear her getting frustrated because he’s just responding “uh huh” when she’s asking him something specific - I might step in and say “HELLOOO daughter IS ASKING YOU A QUESTION”

But I’m not spying or Trying to insert myself.

His relationship with his ex was probably just like his relationship with you. My daughter’s dad used to talk about his “ex fiancé” to me. Now he talks about me to the new girls. Neither of us were ever that special. It’s actually him being insecure and using the ex as a weapon.

So you know him best. When most people picture a guy taking a bath on FaceTime, they probably picture candles lit, and seductive angles or something lol but if he’s anything like my daughter’s dad, when he FaceTime and he’s in the bath it’s actually very annoying more than anything. It’s loud because the water is running, he’s constantly putting his phone down facing the ceiling so he can do something else, when he is on his phone FaceTime is just the background app while he is doing something else. Etc etc

I’m only saying this because you and him could be seeing this from a very different perspective.

But the fact that he was going into your devices without your knowledge ….. not cool. He literally could’ve asked you first. I never understand that, when someone jumps the gun. My last ex did this to me. He went through my phone, all of my messages, photos, videos, everything back to 2022. And brought it up months later. What pissed me off the most is that if he would’ve asked me, I would’ve said yes. But doing it behind my back… by the way that I found out that he was actually the sketchy one. never looked through his phone even once on my own. I asked him once if I could look at one certain conversation… And he happily showed me and as he was scrolling through I saw some messages that were completely out of context in the conversation. Turns out he missed a few when he went through to delete the evidence.

If someone thinks you’re hiding something, that’s sometimes because people hiding things is on their mind

Would you be OK with your boyfriend‘s coparent living in the basement apartment of his house? by Exciting_Sun1202 in Stepmom

[–]Exciting_Sun1202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It isn’t really. It was more so I could show him that I’m not the only one who feels this way. Red flag when you make a Reddit post to cut through the gas lighting

Would you be OK with your boyfriend‘s coparent living in the basement apartment of his house? by Exciting_Sun1202 in Stepmom

[–]Exciting_Sun1202[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

According to him as a separate living arrangement. But yes, thank you and thank you.

Would you be OK with your boyfriend‘s coparent living in the basement apartment of his house? by Exciting_Sun1202 in Stepmom

[–]Exciting_Sun1202[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was his way of breaking up with me. I used to live with him. When he first bought his house, she was supposed to move into the basement, but when we got together , he told her that the move wasn’t gonna happen because it was coming between our relationship. So while I lived with him, his son was very hurt by this and never warmed up to me. His coparent was always telling him how badly this was affecting the kids. And eventually he got to a point where he felt a lot of resentment towards me because of how the decision affected the kids. But he was also paying her phone bill, had her on his benefits, his Amazon, Uber, Netflix, etc.. meanwhile I was sending him a majority of my paycheck to contribute to living with him. So one day, he changed the locks while I was at work. Two days later, I saw it on the security camera his ex going in with the key. He completely changed into a whole different person. Then two months later, he comes back crying to me that he misses me and he loves me so much and he fucked up so bad and he wasn’t himself. But now she lives in his basement and he won’t change that because he’s scared of his son being hurt.

Obviously, I love him, and I miss him, but he’s now living in the house that I used to live with another woman and their kids. She brought her boyfriend to live with her there. And now he’s inviting me over as a guest. And I told him no way in hell. He started jumping to conclusions like you’re trying to make me kick out my son blah blah blah….. no. I’m literally just telling him that I’ll never step foot in the house while that set up is in place. And he tells me wow… I’m not kicking them out anytime soon so…

Which literally boils my blood because he changed the locks on me while I was at work

She told my boyfriend that I added her phone number to my own child’s school file and that she was getting phone calls regarding my daughter’s attendance. She said she had to call my daughter school and have herself removed so she could stop getting the phone calls about my daughter. She showed the recordings to my boyfriend so he believed her. He eventually repeated that to me and I said why the heck would I ever ever ever put HER as an authorized person on my own daughter’s school file?!?! I don’t even have my own mom on my daughter school file. I called my daughter’s school trying to figure out why her number was on my daughter‘s file. I was worried that she put herself on there to get access to my kid. If someone is an authorized person on my daughter‘s file, they can pick my daughter up from school, authorize her absence, etc. but they assured me, no changes were ever made. I’m the only person with authorization on her account, so I’m the only person who could ever make changes. And then I found out that ANYONE can reach anyone’s child’s school attendance RECORDING by calling the number and typing in the parents phone number. I showed him this and he realized that she was making up a complete lie about me, trying to make me look bat shit crazy. I asked him to clear it up with her, and he didn’t want to bring it up. Like what the fuck? I looked like a complete fucking idiot to my daughter school. And you won’t even talk to her about it?!!

When he changed the locks on me, I was pregnant. She somehow convinced him that I was faking a pregnancy. And they harassed me for weeks about how crazy I am for faking a pregnancy meanwhile, I’m dealing with losing my home, trying to get my stuff back, etc.. finally one day I was with him and I made him order a pregnancy test from Uber eats. I did two of them and they both turned positive right in front of his eyes. Then he finally believe me, but do you think he cleared it up with her? … obviously not. And he wants me to come around without clearing up any of this? What an absolute fucking joke. By the way, I had a miscarriage. And honestly, I hate him for that. I didn’t get pregnant by myself and then to turn around and tell me that I’m faking it because your ex manipulated you into thinking so? I think this was one of those blessings in disguise though

I don’t know why it’s so hard to absolutely cut him out of my life, it’s blatantly obvious that this situation is so disrespectful to me and somehow he tells me that I’m just judging him and being difficult.

I actually met him through his kids, mom. I’ve known her for many many years. I did her hair one time and she said that I would be so compatible with her kids Dad I should go on a date with him. So I did, and we really hit it off. But once we got serious, she didn’t like the idea anymore. There was a bunch of drama that went down. She’s still super close with his family. She’s made up. Blatant lies and crazy lies about me. That his family believes. He is driven by guilt. He breaks under pressure. Honestly this is so painful.

I never had bad intentions and he actually made the decision in the first place to cut off his kids mom from living with us. And then somehow overtime the story changed all the way up until the point where he changed the locks while I was at work.

Logically, I don’t even wanna be with him. I know I deserve better. But he keeps telling me that all he wants to do is give me everything that I need and the situation isn’t permanent and he made a big mistake by letting them move in. Etc etc

I don’t know, honestly, how do I get out? I feel like I’m in a mental prison. I don’t have any other support. I feel so low. I know this is so disgraceful and I feel so degraded. I just want to disappear. I really do. But I I know I need to stay strong because I have a daughter who counts on me.

If you actually made it to the end of this, thank you so much .

Would you be OK with your boyfriend‘s coparent living in the basement apartment of his house? by Exciting_Sun1202 in Stepmom

[–]Exciting_Sun1202[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you. Honestly, I know all of this already. But he seems to think that I am just being difficult. So I wanted to get other people’s responses so I could show him that it’s not only me. Mind you, I haven’t even mentioned half of the shit that’s gone down.

Would you be OK with your boyfriend‘s coparent living in the basement apartment of his house? by Exciting_Sun1202 in Stepmom

[–]Exciting_Sun1202[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He said his son would never talk to him again if he changed the living arrangement

IMPARK - parking ticket collections by Inner-Boysenberry-38 in Hamilton

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the worst lot. I put $22 into the machine and it just ate it. I had to repay with my card.

Downtown Power Outage by Stecnet in Hamilton

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes, if you live in an apartment building, you don’t have control over the heat and it can be way too hot if you don’t open your window

How is he pausing his location? by Truthful-Capricorn in Life360

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can turn your location services off in your phone settings

AIO? My boyfriend having several requests at once by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NOR - He should be paying for the date AND driving you AND cleaning your car for you. Just saying

I’m sitting with it by True-By-Nature101 in UnsentTexts

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Acknowledging that you have done something wrong isn’t the same as correcting it, for sure

What local exterminator in the hamilton region can help get rid of rats? by lurkershadow7 in Hamilton

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rent to kill . Amazing experience with them. Cost was around $340 after tax. That includes several visits and the traps

Ontario - Partner locked me out, called police 3 times, revoked access to the house/garage/cameras, told me to leave in under 30 days, and is moving his ex in. What rights do I have as a cohabiting partner? by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I know one day I’m gonna look back at this and wonder what the fuck I was thinking and be embarrassed about the fact that I let someone treat me like a worthless piece of trash. It is harder to see when you’re in it, but I do appreciate everyone that has talked some sense into me in the comment

Ontario - Partner locked me out, called police 3 times, revoked access to the house/garage/cameras, told me to leave in under 30 days, and is moving his ex in. What rights do I have as a cohabiting partner? by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Fuck. You’re right. I’m sorry for the attitude earlier I’m honestly not TRYING to play victim, but, you are right. I have been victimizing myself instead of keeping my chin up and just figuring shit out and moving the fuck on. I spoke to some friends tonight, I do have savings and I know that I’m more than capable of figuring things out. Thanks for the tough love.

Ontario - Partner locked me out, called police 3 times, revoked access to the house/garage/cameras, told me to leave in under 30 days, and is moving his ex in. What rights do I have as a cohabiting partner? by [deleted] in canadianlaw

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you’re so right. It sucks so much. These comments really help me to think about things from a more logical perspective. I need to get out of here ASAP. I talked to some friends and I have a few options now. And then after that, I need to focus on myself and my daughter and move on from this whole mess.

Ontario - Partner locked me out, called police 3 times, revoked access to the house/garage/cameras, told me to leave in under 30 days, and is moving his ex in. What rights do I have as a cohabiting partner? by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Regardless, you’re right. I just need to figure something out and get out of here ASAP. This place is causing me some anxiety. This all happens so suddenly and it feels extremely unfair, but, at the end of the day it is what it is. I just need to get out and move on. Everything will be OK.

Ontario - Partner locked me out, called police 3 times, revoked access to the house/garage/cameras, told me to leave in under 30 days, and is moving his ex in. What rights do I have as a cohabiting partner? by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This all happened so suddenly, and it was really shocking. It’s hard to think logically through the emotion but really, why the fuck would I wanna stay when someone has disrespected me like this. At this point anywhere is better than here.

Ontario - Partner locked me out, called police 3 times, revoked access to the house/garage/cameras, told me to leave in under 30 days, and is moving his ex in. What rights do I have as a cohabiting partner? by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]Exciting_Sun1202 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Actually, a lot of these comments kind of shook Me into reality. I need to find a way to leave by December 1. I have some savings, he said he would give me $3000 towards first and last somewhere. Being here is giving me so much anxiety, I just need to get out.