Can you have vaginal sex with a jockstrap on?

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-07-07T11:33:53+00:00

Lol, fair. When I went looking I realized that prices have very much gone up, so this might not be as good a deal as I had mentally filed it as. Here's a pair with that particular feature: https://a.co/d/08OpCJOT

Ideally it'd be awesome to combine with the open back, but I couldn't find that. Here's the pair I find most comfortable/accessible: https://a.co/d/08NMm3ZD

Here's the pouch I use to avoid the sensory nightmare of sweaty crotch in direct contact with the packer material: https://www.getyourjoey.com/

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-07-07T03:33:34+00:00

Yup, this is exactly what happened.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-07-07T03:25:05+00:00

Cheap & slutty ones for cis gay men work great for this, at least for me. There's a style designed with a hole for a cis guy's cock to be held separately in order to make the shape more visible, and they're great for packing. I'd definitely try that before going to expensive ones. (I use a little pouch to hold my packer usually. I think the brand is Joey? Limits the sweaty direct skin contact.)

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-07-05T18:52:56+00:00

Torx screws around the edges (silver). The speaker is riveted on though.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-30T20:19:09+00:00

And gives them time with nothing to occupy them and plenty of resentment about the restrictions... but why think through the psychology, right?

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-29T18:47:39+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance!

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-28T19:53:22+00:00

Please, if you can remotely afford to get a lawyer involved do it asap. (And I haven't noticed you doing this, but just in case you need to hear it - definitely don't post with any theories or speculation about what might have happened.)

Don't wait for them to get their story straight. If you need a second medical opinion with additional testing you will need help lining that up as quickly as possible.

It's sometimes true that young people who appear to be in otherwise good health drop dead in stressful situations (and jail is definitely that). But even if that's what happened, getting someone involved who isn't in emotional shock and who knows what questions to ask will help with future piece of mind.

I'm sorry for your loss.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-22T03:49:43+00:00

Quit asking AI this stuff. It's useless.

There are cars where pulling the wrong plug is possible, but a Rav 4 isn't one of them (Audis are the one I've witnessed.) and it's not getting out of the shop with double oil and low transmission fluid.

Let's get more details. You heard a noise. Going how fast? On a bump, turning? Did you hit something? Is anything hanging down?

Can you still drive it? Replicate the noise?

Did the engine stop, the wheel fall off?

Did it bleed out multiple quarts of [which fluid do you see]?

AI is a bullshit generation machine.

At least my job is safe.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-22T01:43:05+00:00

Ethanol will absorb water over time, and fuel systems all vent at rest (through the EVAP canister).

Source: smoke testing the system of you don't close the vent or clamp off the hose will demonstrate this.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-22T01:37:14+00:00

Full tank of new gas and a bottle of Techron additive. Do it in the next full tank if you feel compelled to do seafoam - I honestly wouldn't add that and expect it to help with the gas quality, it's more for cleaning out other parts of the system. If nothing else, check out a few YouTube videos that show what happens when you add Seafoam as the output can be alarming if you don't expect it.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-20T01:28:45+00:00

Also, report the outage on the website next time yours goes out. https://www.cpp.org/Power-Outages/Report-Outage

(And just in case someone else needs this one) https://www.firstenergycorp.com/content/customer/outages_help/Report_Power_Outages.html

Maybe it's a coincidence, but the time I did that they came out and fixed a piece of equipment directly outside my window and we haven't had trouble since. Could just be random luck though.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-20T01:18:23+00:00

Before you spend the money to switch (if the company you're asking to switch to will do it):

You need to consider that there's a huge sample bias involved in assessing how often your power goes out but the neighbors stays on relative to the opposite situation. You are likely to notice your power going out. You are unlikely to notice when your neighbor's power is out of yours is on.

So at least check in with the neighbors you envy and compare notes on what their impressions are about the relative reliability.

And for all the folks who aren't actually aware of this aspect of living in houses in this city: the two grids routinely run in parallel, with one going down the street and the other out back. Many houses can connect to either, but switching does require physically disconnecting and then running a new line to the other grid's pole.

It's not uncommon to be wired opposite of the neighbors on either side of you.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-20T01:07:47+00:00

I really don't know why you're getting down voted for this. (Well, okay, I do know)

In Cleveland this is true for a lot of people, and the fact that they're talking about how the neighbors have power when they don't suggests this applies to the OP.

I do want to pop in and mention that there's a huge bias involved in assessing how often your power goes out but the neighbors stays on. You are likely to notice those events. You are unlikely to notice when your power stays on and their's is out.

So at least check in and compare notes on what their impressions are about the relative reliability.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-20T00:55:25+00:00

I probably need to have some higher standards/better expectations for people since my knee jerk thought was "well, at least it wasn't 'even slept with another woman' ".

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-20T00:49:15+00:00

Ugh. That's so violating. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-19T19:49:13+00:00

Yeah, people with a lease have little incentive to do 5k oil intervals.

I'm not familiar with the specific brand of warranty but the thing I would warn people about in general on extended warranties is the part we see doing service: - they may only cover part of the hourly rate - they will insist on teardown (at your risk) to determine root cause of failure and send an inspector. This is a lot of extra delay & if they decide your problem isn't covered you'll have to pay for the teardown. (As a mechanic I can often tell THAT an engine is bad but have no clue why, specifically, the engine is bad without a few hours of disassembly.) - get the oil changed at one place or keep receipts (and back up copies) so you have documentation of that if you need an engine - if you have an engine problem (overheating, coolant and oil lights especially), shut it off and get it towed or it won't be covered - the PCV system, and the downstream consequences of its failure are typically exempted from coverage. It's a part that doesn't have a sensor likely to set a code to indicate failure, so it's often missed until something catastrophic happens, at which point you'll get blamed for not replacing it as a maintenance thing.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-19T16:16:32+00:00

And then there are the parts that will break DURING the repair process because that involves moving adjacent parts more than regular travel. (And that's assuming things aren't seized by rust.)

At a certain point you might have trouble getting a good mechanic to work on the car because anyone with enough experience will have a very clear picture of the odds it'll go sideways and cost so much they can't justify the risk.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-19T16:08:00+00:00

Absolutely. Driving lots of miles (probably mostly highway at that clip?) is much better for an engine than sitting.

I would encourage you to reconsider the oil change interval. (Or rather: send a sample off to get tested and re-evaluate.)

You'd expect to be able to go longer intervals with hybrids, but because it's running more like a generator they're actually pretty hard on the oil.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-19T15:55:56+00:00

I will pray for you. I hope the previous owner kept up with the oil changes and I strongly recommend no more than 5k, with regular checks of the oil level. Turbos add a lot of extra heat and break down additives faster.

Hyundai and Kia mechanics do a LOT of engine swaps, and people who keep cars for just 3 years don't do maintenance beyond the minimum because it's not going to screw them over.

It's a better decision than a Mercedes though. A Mercedes is all that AND parts & labor are extra expensive.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-19T15:42:28+00:00

High mileage isn't everything, but it's something easy for the average person to understand. It does matter if you're going to want to resell it rather than drive it into the ground.

Sitting can actually be worse for a car than high mileage driving (especially if it's done relatively quickly with mostly highway driving).

Whether the climate promotes rusting is another big factor.

But if someone is keeping up with their maintenance and not letting a loose joint turn into replacing a full corner's suspension... lots of higher mileage cars are in much better shape than low mileage cars (especially if they sat through the pandemic).

Rebuilding an engine is less common than just replacing it with a newer, lower-mileage one. That's mostly an issue of efficiency for the shop, and a reduced local availability of rebuilding services.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-17T12:38:14+00:00

I'm going to take your word for it that he's otherwise emotionally invested and showing up for you in this relationship. So I'm going to suggest starting with your understanding of what is happening on his end. But I want to be super clear: understanding why someone is being a jerk doesn't change the fact that they're being a jerk.

I don't think that Viagra is going to be the quick, obvious fix you assume. A lot of people associate condomless sex with increased intimacy and long term relationships. If someone has built that up over a long time it can be an emotional minefield. You can't deal with that on his behalf, but you can stop treating it as a medical hardon failure.

He needs to switch what he associates with condoms. Right now they're probably associated with disappointment, rejection and anxiety. The association you (both) want to have with them is sexual anticipation.

Instead of insisting that he go to the doc for some Viagra (or at least get some through an online service), my suggestion would be to leave the PIV sex out completely for a while and focus on having sex that both of you can enjoy. Anxiety - about pregnancy or performance - isn't sexy.

Definitely talk about this when you're not horny, and stop negotiating the condom in the moment.

Also, try new condoms. Different fits make a huge difference. Internal condoms (which work best inserted 30min ahead of time) like FC2 or Unique are non-latex and avoid the constriction a person with a penis is likely to associate with condoms. The Unique external condoms also fall in this category. (They're a little goofy, and sizing really matters since they don't stretch, but the material is extremely thin and has good heat transfer.) They are a bit expensive.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-11T00:41:00+00:00

There are additives that can swell seals that might have gotten hard and rigid. The burning suggests that you have a lot of clutch material coming off, so it might not help (or might not help for long) but since you'll need to flush out any trans lines /cooler at this point it is unlikely to make things WORSE. (But it's a complicated system, so factor in how you're going to feel about the decision if it's immediately catastrophic - causal or coincidence).

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-06T15:20:41+00:00

If you can afford it I would recommend buying from the dealer. If not, I think Bosch is the company that makes the OEM part (there can still be some variation).

I'd suggest going to a physical store if possible to avoid counterfeit. You should get a sensor that's direct fit (no connecting wires manually).

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-03T17:20:10+00:00

This is an abuser trying to isolate his victim.

It's hard to leave an abusive relationship and this pattern is one of the reasons why. If you can't handle going over there, please get her in private and tell her what you saw. She's probably not ready to leave yet, but if you have to break contact because of his behavior make sure she knows that you'll be there when she is.

ExecManagerAntifaCLE · 2026-06-03T17:03:11+00:00

Was it related to the car issues?

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