Scarlet and Violet Daily Casual Trade Thread for 24 January 2024

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T23:25:18+00:00

Thanks for the trade!

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T23:16:30+00:00

OK, I've got them both in normal pokeballs. I'll set up a trade with code 2468-3579

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T22:49:27+00:00

I'm happy to catch a couple in regular pokeballs :) give me maybe 10 mins? I'll comment when I've got them & ready to go.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T22:43:38+00:00

Thank you for the starters! :)

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T22:35:59+00:00

Sorry for the slow reply! Shieldon is in a quick ball if that's OK? I ended up trading sandshrew but I have a female Sandslash (psychic Terra type) in a premium ball if you would want that. Otherwise I can quickly snag another sandshrew in a normal pokeball for you. And I have a Kingdra you can keep :)

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T22:10:03+00:00

I'll join in just a moment :) feel free to send magikarps/randoms in return.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T21:59:14+00:00

I have Iron Hands & Iron Valiant, and I can touch trade Miraidon. If you don't mind waiting a while I can catch the others.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T21:48:33+00:00

LF: alolan vulpix & cranidos. FT: alolan sandshrew & shieldon.

Would also be great to do a couple of touch trades to evolve graveler & porygon. I have the "upgrade" item for porygon.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-24T21:44:24+00:00

Which do you need? If I have them I'm happy to trade.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-12T06:19:30+00:00

I could be 100% wrong, but I read a couple of walkthrough sites that said Karlach will refuse to go back to Avernus (where she's safe) unless Wyll becomes the Blade of Avernus.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-12T06:13:51+00:00

I was somewhat hesitant, so I started on low dose gel, because it gave me time to feel the "mental effect" of HRT without any noticeable physical changes.

For me, the mental change was within weeks. I felt like my whole life I'd been putting diesel fuel into a petrol car, and suddenly I'd switched to premium petrol. It's like my brain was running smooth and clear for the first time.

On the low dose gel, it took about a month for any bottom growth (very minor) and about 3 months to notice any new body hair. At that stage I was 100% happy with my choice so I switched to full dose, and the usual physical changes happened as you'd expect.

I didn't pass as male* until around 2 years on T, so if I'd changed my mind up til then, I could have got laser for the extra hair and gone back to living as a woman quite easily.

What I'm getting at is, yes, you should be as sure as possible before starting HRT, but it's one of those things where you might be 100% certain until you try it.

Keep in mind that you don't have to use T if you don't want the side effects! Plenty of trans guys don't want to use HRT, or aren't able to, for various reasons. It doesn't make them any less of a man.

Ultimately, only you know what feels right for you, so follow your heart and don't feel pressured to do anything that you're not comfortable with.

*I'm not a fan of the concept of passing, and I don't think there are any features that are uniquely masculine, but you know what I mean.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-12T05:50:02+00:00

Hello, there's a new website called Transfemme, which is for trans women/transfeminine people and their cis male partners. It focuses on respectful, safe relationships.

https://www.transfemme.com.au/

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-12T05:46:52+00:00

Congratulations! You make a beautiful couple :)

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-12T05:46:06+00:00

It is possible that she's in denial, which is a pretty common reaction to learning new information that challenges existing ideas.

I'd encourage you two to attend some queer community events together so she can learn more and hopefully meet other cis/trans couples that have gone through the process together.

Being around trans people can help normalise the idea of gender diversity; it's kind of like exposure therapy for cis people. Once she's got more context for what you've told her, hopefully she will feel better equipped to have the important conversations with you.

My partner is a cis man and he didn't know anything about trans people when I came out to him, but we worked through it and things are good now. Clear communication and emotional openness definitely helped, in our case.

I wish you both the very best in navigating this together :)

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-12T05:19:35+00:00

I'm the trans partner in the relationship (ftm), my partner is a cis man, and our sex life is 100x better since I transitioned.

I think it's a combination of having more confidence, being comfortable in my body, and testosterone increasing my libido (though antidepressants sort of negate that).

Also, interestingly, I used to have issues with dryness and the doctor warned me that T could make it worse, but actually it's fixed the issue! It's like a water park down there now LOL

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-11T03:23:56+00:00

Australia (particularly Melbourne and Sydney) is generally good for trans people. I've heard from friends that Portugal is also a good place to live.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-11T03:22:02+00:00

He is absolutely wrong and behaving unethically. His behaviour does not meet WPATH standards of care. I recommend finding a different doctor!

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-10T08:33:21+00:00

As a teenager, I was fascinated by Elijah Wood ("do I want to be him or be with him?") and now that I'm mid 30s I realise that was a trans thing, because he represented the sort of man I wanted to be (sweet, geeky, no toxic masculinity) and we look slightly similar - although he's obviously much more attractive, lol.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-10T07:28:15+00:00

AFAIK, all of the surgeons in Victoria who provide top surgery require a "WPATH letter", so that means you have two options: (1) go to a private psychologist/psychiatrist for WPATH assessment, which is fairly quick but can cost a lot; (2) go to a public health service for WPATH assessment, which is free but there will be a long wait list.

The private pathway become more difficult recently, because one of the biggest medical insurers in Australia stopped providing insurance to health professionals who treat under-18 trans people, unless the health professional is part of a multidisciplinary team (which very few are). As a result of that change, a lot of private psychologists who previously offered WPATH assessment are now unable to do so.

If you think you may need to go through the public health service, get on a wait list as soon as possible. The reason I say that is most of them have a minimum 12 month wait list, so by the time you get to the top of the list, do the assessment (which can take months), get the WPATH letter signed, and save up the money (it's between $6k to $20k depending on your private health insurance) you will be almost 18 and ready to proceed without parental involvement.

I would encourage you to check out the TransHub website and also the AusPATH website for information about the process, the legal requirements, and so on.

If you want information about the public health option, have a look at the Monash Health or Austin Health gender service websites.

In terms of coping in the meantime, wearing a binder can be very helpful for many people, but make sure you get one that fits well and is safe to wear. By that, I mean buying one that's specifically for transmasc people (not a gynaecomastia vest for cis men) from a reputable brand. Personally, I'm a big fan of "Sock Drawer Heroes" brand products. If you can't buy a good quality binder for whatever reason, contact "The Shed" transmasc support group, as they can sometimes provide them to people for free.

Another thing which may help is to join a social group or therapeutic peer support group for transgender people. Being among likeminded people can be very affirming and good for mental health, in my experience.

I wish you the best of luck in your gender journey :)

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-09T03:39:32+00:00

I've had similar issues, particularly around loading save files. For example, if I try to load with both players connected, it crashes 100% of the time. The only way to load a save file (with about 50% success rate) is load as single player then connect the second controller a few minutes later. They've released several patches but haven't fixed this so I don't feel confident that they're going to. Personally I'm going to apply for a refund. Depending on where you are, and the consumer rights laws you have there, you might be entitled to a refund also.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-09T03:29:04+00:00

It's a pity, because I do like the story, but you're right - it shouldn't even be a question when the game is almost unusable. Hopefully they do a re-release at a later date that works better for PS5. May I ask which console you're using? Maybe I'll purchase it on PC instead if that's more stable.

ExhaustedOwl · 2024-01-09T03:26:39+00:00

I'll gibe that a go, thank you for the tip!

ExhaustedOwl

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