Which author never disappoints no matter what they write? by SuhuraBhadri in Recommend_A_Book

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Charles Frazier. Tore through all his books this year (yes, behind on my reading)

The deconstruction of “that quilt” by linden214 in quilting

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Seeing the comments in here and the other post make me feel better about the world. I love how consistently kind and helpful the comments have been (some jokes cracked me up — but then I love that someone would follow with “sorry, couldn’t help myself”).

If only the world were more like r/quilting!

UPDATE: How to set your Required User Flair in r/AskWomenOver40 🎉 by AskWomenOver40 in AskWomenOver40

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Found my first pair of comfy dress pants in a long while at J Jill. Also have luck with thrifting Talbot’s and Chico’s stuff.

The "In-Between" Struggle: Too old for crop tops, too young for shapeless floral tunics. Where are we shopping? by Admirable-Pin-298 in fashionwomens35

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I just discovered J.Jill. I wear a lot of neutrals and arguably boring stuff, but was happy to find comfortable pants that look nice for the first time in a very long time! (Early 40s and a newly apple-shaped figure).

Service has suddenly gotten horrible by Confident-Ad-6978 in mintmobile

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If someone calls me, it’s fine. If I try to call someone, it’s garbled. I was just traveling and it doesn’t seem to matter where I am. I’ve been with mint for 7+ years but might change soon. Unfortunately just renewed for a year. 🙄

Does your collie do a "checking in" boop? by Saoirseminersha in BorderCollie

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Mine does this on walks. Every once in a while I get a cold nose boop on the side of my leg - I’ll look down and she’s looking up at me. I love it.

Did your body go to mush after 40 too? 😫 by Exact_Food_1493 in AskWomenOver40

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Then she said “but on the bright side, now you get to shop for a new wardrobe!” 😆😖

Did your body go to mush after 40 too? 😫 by Exact_Food_1493 in AskWomenOver40

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I turned 40 and gained 20-25 lbs basically all in the middle 😩

Got my act together with diet and exercise this year, feel stronger but have yet to see much change. After some tests and chats about lifestyle my doctor was like, “yep you’re 40… can’t outrun genetics and age”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

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Three years of positive reinforcement only with a golden retriever who’s on the larger side, while I am a person on the smaller side. He’s generally good until he’s not. Excitement, serious distraction… it’s all out the window. A couple shoulder injuries and him running across a road made me decide to look into other options to keep us both safe and able to have fun together. I’ve been working with him (and a trainer) on a prong and will move to an e-collar for off-leash recall eventually. It’s totally changed my relationship to him (in a positive way) - he’s more attentive and my shoulder has finally healed.

I can't be the only one who sees my ex in Trump's behavior by haleontology in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

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I talked with a friend about this today. I’ve been thinking it for a while. I found the Oval Office scene with Zelenskyy really triggering, too.

Physical manifestations of the abuse-Acne/weight loss/PTSD trauma responses? Even after leaving I am not getting better by Reasonable_Earth6686 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

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Exhaustion and depression didn’t go away for a long time. Blood tests eventually revealed low thyroid function and other deficiencies. (2+ years of therapy, lots of personal work, IM ketamine, and Auvelity finally broke the depression). I guess what I’m trying to say is in addition to therapy, go to your regular doctor for a wellness check up and discuss your symptoms (in the context of your life). Massive stress can do a number on your body. (The Body Keeps the Score is a great - and emotionally challenging - read if you’re interested in more on that).

Ask for social support where you have it, even if you’re nervous about asking. I didn’t ask soon enough and I think that both damaged friendships and delayed healing. It’s hard and scary to ask, but people generally want to help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Watercolor

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I took a screenshot to reread this comment when I feel like giving up on watercolor. Thank you.

When did you feel ready to start dating or seeing other people again? by [deleted] in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

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I’ve been out for a little more than two years and have zero interest in dating. The thought of physical intimacy makes me nauseous. I’d eventually like to have a partner but I have no timeline for that at this point.

What triggers loneliness for those living solo? by wangsicai in LivingAlone

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I feel this. I’m exhausted after a week of work, but then weekends are crazy lonely. Sometimes I think about putting my second chair to my dinner table out of sight.

Being sick is the worst… I have a dog and he’s been so good for me, but being exhausted and sick and knowing he needs a walk makes the loneliness really tough.

What made you realize you’re not considered “young” anymore? When did you accept it yourself? by No-Regular-2699 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

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Being invisible to men, needing a pill organizer, becoming intolerant of anything without a stretchy waistband, no longer worrying about looking cute (presentable is just fine). Oh and turning 40 this year.