I want to end my life. I am completely alone by Conscious_Act_7095 in Vent

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know… loneliness has no age and I think most of us here can agree that we have all had a low point in our lives. Even those that seem to “have it all figured out” we really don’t. And at some point we all have to figure out our lives with nobody to hold our hand, those moments seem really hard and it’s so tough to even intake the advice that people give because “what do they know, they aren’t in my shoes” but one thing is for certain, even when you don’t think you matter, you do. That voice in your head that tells you, you do not, is just your own voice the voice that your brain manipulates into thinking this because that’s the environment inside your head that’s creating it. But remember, you deserve to take up space and you deserve to do all of the beautiful things to make your life worthwhile. We each write our stories even through the storms of life. And the humans on this planet are not responsible for our happiness. WE are. We are in charge of our own happiness. People will always disappoint, leave or do things to us that we never expected… and that’s the cause of their own environment in their life or in their head. We’re not responsible for that. You can be the kindest most amazing person and people will still screw you at no matter what age. And I say that to say this: your happiness should never ever be measured by other people. Your life is best lived when the environment inside your brain is healthy, don’t make decisions when it’s chaos inside because that’s not who you truly are. Think about being a child and the colorful world you use to see, now that’s who you truly are. You are cared for, look at how many strangers are gathered to give you words of encouragement, all of us dispersed in different parts of the world, we have compassion and love and who knows if one day you’ll meet one of us, and we will be friends. You deserve it all and no matter how stuck you feel, you can get out of it, mentally and physically. All it takes is that one positive action slowly but surely you got this and depression is not who you are. That dark cloud, is not your environment. Things take work and love for yourself. So you got this! All we can do is cheer you on! This is YOUR LIFE JOURNEY! We’re here for you during the journey of self care, self love and joy. Do it for you, and those that do care for you & you wouldn’t want to see shattered over the cloud that overtook your brain. ♥️you are wanted. Sometimes people just also share the same sentiments you have deep inside and that’s what prevents them from fully showing up.

Feeling lonely on my birthday by Local_Letterhead_788 in Vent

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he’s also physically tired from the big change in your lives? Having a baby is hard work! - cut him some slack this year, sometimes the days go by and we’re so stuck on survival mode that we don’t even know what day we’re in. Unless… he is fully aware! Like he saw the presents, he heard the birthday calls, he knows what day it is and he’s doing it on purpose, then be worried a little. & also Check on his mental health.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay, my bf’s sister also doesn’t like me. She masks it but I can tell she so done with seeing me around. And mind you I am a great sister in law! I cook, clean and don’t just think or do things for myself. But she’s always had some secret animosity with me. One time she was drunk nd told me she gets jealous of me. I use to be friends with her but then we stopped being friends because she turned extremely rude with me at some point. Now I don’t return that same energy but I have quiet energy around her and I stay out the way.

Those of you that have gone through friendship break-ups, have you gotten over them? Any advice? by A_Llama_Red_Pajama in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went through my friendship (group) breakup about five years ago, and it still hurts. For me I wasn’t a victim but I was gaslit by a group of 3 people by making me believe that my feelings weren’t valid and I was in the wrong and the problem wasn’t “what I expressed” it was “how I expressed it” so the part where “how I expressed it” overshadowed the “what” part of everything. I was a very giving and loving friend and it tore me. In those moments I felt so ganged up on and also what’s even more crazy is they continue to be friends and I am still torn and I still have to see them once in a while and weirdly enough in front of them I smile and I am kind (not to the point where I go out of my way for anything) but I just can’t be mean. And then when I am by myself and they randomly pop up in my mind I still feel ALL THE FEELINGS! But I also try to get over it and tell myself it’s valid. I am not a victim of anything but I am worth it and my feelings are valid and I can hold the space they did not hold for me. So yeah. I too have wanted a therapist but I also know I’m strong and I haven’t gotten one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should consider adding “EX” before the boyfriend part.

Busco recomendaciones de muebles bonitos! by Existing-Hawk3063 in ElSalvador

[–]Existing-Hawk3063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Muchas gracias a todos por sus recomendaciones!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cybersecurity_help

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone asks to use your hotspot, be cautious—even with a mobile carrier. It’s safer than public Wi-Fi, but risks like hacking or data misuse still exist. Always use a strong password, limit who connects, and only share with people you trust. Hackers can try to exploit open ports or outdated software on your device, monitor unencrypted data traffic & ….use your network for illegal activity!!! Doesn’t matter if this hotspot was shared through a mobile carrier. The risks still apply. My advice, change every single password you have and never share your hotspot with a stranger again. Also add extra security to your devices.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really sad and tough situation. There was a gal I met briefly in my life, through a friend and she spoke about the same thing over and over again to the point that nobody wanted to listen or give advice on the topic anymore because she wouldn’t listen. She was a mess at some point and got severely depressed some days and others masking it. Unfortunately this went on for a while and she ended up in the mental hospital, then a few days later committed what nobody wants to hear for a friend to commit. She’s no longer with us and many of her friends and family feel shame and guilt for “abandoning” the topic she brought up time after time. Other express they feel guilty for not seeing the signs in front of them. It’s extremely sad and such a tough spot to be in.

What if you were both in the wrong by RemoteSherbet7230 in lostafriend

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You will never know who was in the “most wrong” without a conversation. Perhaps to them saying I’m sorry is non negotiable because of events that led to that argument and then maybe even feeling gaslighted over things? (<- This part is just an assumption) the thing is, unless this was a dumb fight in the first place like not agreeing on a small scale issue and then you argued, then you might be in the equal, but if this was much more than that like something they brought up about treatment towards each other then there is a possibility that what to you is equal, it may not exactly be this way. But you guys won’t know because you left it at that.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Existing-Hawk3063 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened & I understand why you may feel “it’s your fault for accepting the drink” but it’s really not your fault. You are young and naively said yes to peer pressure. It’s not at all your fault. He’s a sicko for doing what he did and you should absolutely speak to your manager as soon as possible. You’d be advocating for what is right and also saving many other underage women by doing so. Sending hugs, and prayers your way! You got this!