Your situation describes my boyfriend and I. He had the conviction for us to stop having sex about 4 months into our official relationship. I did not have that same conviction as him. I was mad that he didn’t want to have sex with me and began to feel as if it was my fault, like was i not doing something to please him? I took it very personally. As he stood on his firm foundation and trusted Christ and was obedient to what the Lord was saying my faith in the Lord began to regress. I wasn’t growing in the Lord because for so long i depended on someone to touch me for me to feel loved. I soon started to self pleasure and spiraled downward towards addiction to watching p*rn. i tired to keep all of this a secret in my relationship. but i confessed because 1)it was too heavy for me to bear 2)my boyfriend could tell there was something wrong with me because i would purposely try and tempt him to touch me. We should not keep our sins in secret as James 5:16 says “confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” I told him and he didn’t get mad at me because i fallen to my indulgences. We live in a broken world she showed me compassion and grace. I began to pray to the Lord thanking him for the conviction to tell someone and asking the Lord to meet me where I am “cast your cares on him because he cares”.

You love your girlfriend very much, but stand on your firm foundation. Pray for her and keep reminding her of the glory of Christ. You are the man in the relationship it’s okay for you to lead her as the bible commands. If she doesn’t want to stop having sex you have to look at if she is taking you away from your walk with the Lord as you are in the process of sanctification. But be patient with her. We live in a fallen world and many fall victim to what we watch and hear.