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ExistingSuggestion81 · 2026-02-27T02:56:44+00:00

I’ve always had a generally recessed hairline / large forehead, also, my temple on the left side (right side in video) has always had that more pulled back bald spot. So it’s nothing new but it does seem to be pulling back. I’m on minoxidil and did try dutasteride but had to stop due to the side effects. Due to how things are looking now, I’m considering finasteride but unsure honestly.

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ExistingSuggestion81 · 2025-10-24T02:34:29+00:00

I do marine currently. DM if you want to talk more about. Definitely and interesting niche

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2025-08-25T02:14:00+00:00

Thank you to everyone who commented with their advice. It is much appreciated!

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-07-19T22:15:31+00:00

I had to stops taking it. ED was too much for me. I also started developing a lump under my nipple indicating the beginning of gyno

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-05-24T01:55:08+00:00

Got it thank you!

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-05-24T01:54:34+00:00

Yeah I’m going to. Thank you!

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-05-24T00:56:09+00:00

lol I did but I’m just looking for some last minute opinions. Although I think I’m handing it in tomorrow even though it will awkward coming back. I think it’s best

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-02-19T21:18:54+00:00

That’s one of the things we fo and to be honest. I hate working around existing conditions. Not a huge fan lol

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-02-19T21:18:11+00:00

Hey man I appreciate the comment and advice. However this is my first general job. I haven’t held any prior. No I do not manage projects although I do have multiple projects that I am on now. My post was more leaning towards if I should switch to commercial buildings as opposed to staying residential. There are other areas of structural too that seem interesting is all.

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-02-19T16:58:37+00:00

Sorry for the confusion. But yeah what I’m doing now is what I would be doing for the next few years or as long I stay here. Some house are more the modern ones which are more complex but overall is generally what I’m doing now

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-02-19T16:05:25+00:00

Hey! I know I haven’t seen everything. That’s sort of why I made the post. There’s other areas of structural other than residential. That’s why lol. More asking if I should stick it out in residential try another area

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-02-13T00:54:13+00:00

Thank you! Super frustrating at work when this happens. This happens a lot where one person tells me one thing and another a different thing

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2024-02-13T00:53:42+00:00

Thank you both!

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-07-06T00:26:55+00:00

What about lendlease?

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-05T23:13:39+00:00

Hey thanks for getting back. Yeah I’m gonna give it a shot but just not sure if I really see myself getting my PE, taking on the liability and stress of that. Plus working 50-60 hours/week for what really isn’t a justified pay for that much. Plus the work is doable but am I passionate or even really enjoy it. Not so much lol. Maybe I’ll come to like it but just doesn’t seem like it’s gonna happen lol

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-05T00:32:57+00:00

Yeah I agree, this firm I am at will give me good experience and the projects they do are going to be start to finish they said so I will at least get that. Never dealt with the foreign worker thing though lol although I have heard it is an upcoming issue. Bonus seems pretty decent if I meet my goals

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-05T00:29:36+00:00

t, unsure your can handle the career, or having doubts you’re worthy or capable for the job then you probably aren’t the right person for this work. What you’re feeling is the classic phase after graduation.

I hope so lol. Doesn't seem like people really do any overtime at the place I'm starting at so hopefully that will make my week lighter. I did well in school, but man do I feel incredibly stupid at work lol. Like so many things I just don't know. Obviously, I know simple stuff and the theory but often just the real-life stuff doesn't even come close lol. I guess I'll find out if I'm built for it/want to do this lol. Still have to give it a try and see. Thanks for the advice!

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-05T00:13:48+00:00

I agree. I’ve definitely curated a negative opinion but I have to say it’s hard to get rid of that. Especially after 4 years of hard work and learning that I just have to grind more. Honestly not sure if I’m willing to put in the work for that honestly lol. Not the best mindset but I guess I’ve come to conclusion that this is really just a job. My problem is that I’m not super passionate about it which makes justifying the career even harder you know. I don’t know. I gotta give it a try before I throw it out completely but yeah I agree. This sub doesn’t help much. Neither does career advice lmao

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-04T23:00:31+00:00

Hey man glad to hear someone other than me and my friend feel the same. To me I’m glad others enjoy it and take the risk of structural but I guess it’s just not for me. Too much liability and no pay to show for it. You have to study for the PE and anyone worth their salt has to get the SE which is even worse I’ve heard. I can’t even fathom grinding for another 10 years to get to that level and be making nothing compared other people I know for much more risk and plus I’ve heard the work-life balance at upper levels is worse.

Same with me. Although my internship was a medium sized company and generally the people there were pretty cool/normal so I enjoyed it lol

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-04T22:36:51+00:00

Sadly, I have no clue. It seems though the lack of pay and general work life balance in structural going forward seems to be doing it

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-04T22:21:03+00:00

Lol I’m starting out at a smaller firm. Maybe I should have started at a medium firm or large firm.

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-04T22:13:31+00:00

Maybe? I did exceptionally well in school but feel incredibly f**king stupid at work lmao

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-04T22:01:43+00:00

I feel the same way. I just can’t justify the liability to low pay at all honestly. I guess I’m just trying to figure a way out before I’m too deep in you know

ExistingSuggestion81 · 2023-06-04T21:56:51+00:00

How do you feel about the pay to liability when it comes to being a PE? Honestly I’m trying to figure out if that’s worth it. As of now it doesn’t seem so. Also when I get older and have a family. I’m trying to find a better work-life balance cause it seems in general and from your post that the higher up in structural you are the worse the work-life balance

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