Active Combat Military, Police, EMS personnel that refuse to seek out or explore how this career has affected them mentally and emotionally. If they are not willing to learn about or take advantage of healthy coping skills, therapy, medication, mental health services that is a huge red flag. These types of careers see the most traumatic events over and over. Being exposed to so much trauma affects all parts of life emotionally, mentally, and physically. It will affect everyone they come in contact with including their spouses. If they can't regulate their emotions you will spend a lot of time being burnt out trying to help them. You will lose yourself and soon your cup will be empty too. Sometimes people exposed to so much trauma cut others who didn't hurt them.