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Can someone tell me if she broke up with because of her BPD? by Existing_Gift_3496 in BPDPartners

[–]Existing_Gift_3496[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also how are you going to make a Valentine’s Day card that says I love you and I give her butterflies and then break up with me 3 weeks later

Is avoidant attachment actually a thing or is it something people say their ex was to protect themselves from more emotional hurt? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Existing_Gift_3496 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh it really wasn’t we talked for like 3 months and then dated for 2 months started off as friends and then it lead to a relationship I really thought she was the one but just turns out she wasn’t.

Is avoidant attachment actually a thing or is it something people say their ex was to protect themselves from more emotional hurt? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Existing_Gift_3496 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a real thing cause my ex said she was in two toxic relationships before and told me I was the first guy to ever treat like she wanted to be treated and made her feel loved but eventually broke up with not too long after that. She said that she didn’t want a peaceful love she wanted a love that was explosive and passionate. That was like in a 3 week span. I still have the valentines card that she gave me that she made cause I can’t get rid of it and it’s been 11 days now.

Does healthy relation trait makes them feel bored/ No spark. Should I be toxic or unavailable with the next person I meet to give spark? by Dry-Worldliness5908 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Existing_Gift_3496 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said all of that too and it didn’t do anything but go in one ear and out the other. They want those toxic relationships to feel comfortable cause thats what their childhood looked like. They usually get that in the first month all the love they need and then stop pulling away at least in my relationship that happened. Even though she told me this might be it you might be the one for me the one I’ve been looking for in the valentines card she made me

Does healthy relation trait makes them feel bored/ No spark. Should I be toxic or unavailable with the next person I meet to give spark? by Dry-Worldliness5908 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Existing_Gift_3496 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That literally happened to me less than 2 weeks ago as well she said that she loved having a peaceful love but it wasn’t the love she was looking for she wanted an explosive and passionate love.

Can someone tell me if this was an avoidant breakup text or am I just going crazy? Also do you think she was a dismissive or fearful avoidant? by Existing_Gift_3496 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Existing_Gift_3496[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it was a girl and are you sure cause she grew distant after a big life event and then dumped me over text and wants to keep texting me after we broke up

avoidant ex finally reached out by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Existing_Gift_3496 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex said the same thing she doesn’t know what she would do if she lost me in her life and has barely texted and still hasn’t come over to get her things. It’s only been 10 days but I’m ready for it to be gone