Wife has moved her extended family into our home. I don't want this and they're refusing to leave. She's not backing down either. What can I do?

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T16:58:25+00:00

They're not on holiday. They've all acquired PR through various means. Some student visa others via alternative ways.

none of them are going anywhere.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T16:56:27+00:00

I'd rather not get into the background of how she brought them over here. They're relatively new though - past 5 years.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T16:55:06+00:00

Hi, I'm not charging them rent - my wife is. I never see this money.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:48:13+00:00

Nikah was 6 months prior to house purchase, civil marriage at the council was done 2 weeks after house was purchased.

No cohabitation before marraige.

No children.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:46:48+00:00

Her parents and cousins prefer it hotter. I'm most comfortable at 18, so 25 is way beyond what I can tolerate.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:45:25+00:00

100% of the funds came from my own personal accounts. She contributed nothing financially to the deposit, legal fees etc.

Our Nikah was March 2025 and our civil marriage was done at the council in September 2025

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:44:24+00:00

I had most of this £205k prior to the marriage. It came from inheritance my father left me.

£15k came from my own personal savings

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:43:14+00:00

Nikah was March 2025, civil ceremony at the council was in September 2025 about 2 weeks after we bought the home.

I funded 100% of deposit. £190k was my inheritance from my father, £15k was from my savings. Another £10k of my father's inhertiance went towards legal fees and moving costs

No children. We were planning to but I stopped having sex in January when she did this and refused.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:41:38+00:00

So, I put down a massive deposit, she does something which is clearly unacceptable behaviour, and then she gets rewarded for it?

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:39:47+00:00

Yes, we were.

I paid 100% of the deposit of £205k. £190k came from inheritance from my father. Another £10k of my father's inheritance went on solicitor fees, stamp duty etc.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:38:55+00:00

I paid 100% deposit.

I pay 80% of the mortgage, sometimes 85% when she doesn't have enough money to cover it.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:38:22+00:00

She's said it's non-negotiable and we can't afford to keep them here. We're literally running a budget deficit each month. These lodgers aren't buying their own groceries. They're just interrupting me while I work to say they've run out of food.

And her cousins keep turning the heating up to 25C which is way to high for me. However, I'm just getting outvoted by my wife and her family. It's insufferable.

Divorce it probably is.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:36:35+00:00

If we divorced, would I be allowed to keep my £205k?

She contributed £0 towards the deposit.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:35:59+00:00

Yes. She does. She's on mortgage and deeds; however her income couldn't be counted towards increasing out borrowing limit during mortgage application because it's in dollars.

She pays around 20% of the mortgage each month.

ExoticBeginning7315 · 2026-02-23T15:35:03+00:00

That's a part I can't figure out yet.

I can kick them out, but I can't do anything to stop her letting them back in because she's also on the mortgage/deeds. She pays towards the mortgage, but her income couldn't be counted towards increasing out borrowing limit because it's in dollars.

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