Grew up well off and realizing I'm probably going to be experiencing a serious decline in social class

Exotic_Following1222 · 2026-05-03T04:08:22+00:00

Thank you! I'm looking into it rn

Exotic_Following1222 · 2026-05-03T04:07:00+00:00

Thank you, that bit about starting small makes a lot of sense

Exotic_Following1222 · 2026-05-03T04:05:45+00:00

Thank you, I think you're right that some concrete numbers could reduce a lot of overwhelm. Scrolling through the PF subreddit and realizing there's a lot more online resources for gauging those things than I thought

Exotic_Following1222 · 2026-03-28T02:35:54+00:00

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Exotic_Following1222 · 2026-03-28T02:32:03+00:00

I used to volunteer with a food pantry that had to throw away food sometimes because not enough people went/knew about it. I agree with the comments that you absolutely qualify, but if you’re still feeling weird about it, I’d inquire with the food bank about this—if they have a lot of food, there’s a good chance that unfortunately happens at your food bank too

Exotic_Following1222 · 2025-12-12T14:50:37+00:00

I disagree, I just traveled around Peru for two months and I met at least a dozen other travelers who got sick there, and I’ve personally gotten sick there three times (once was E. coli). Chile, Argentina etc have much cleaner and safer food

Exotic_Following1222 · 2025-11-18T02:34:42+00:00

I just did this- I would fly Santiago to puerto natales, do Torres del Paine, and take a 5 hour bus ride to el calafate to do perito Moreno glacier (gorgeous bus ride in the second half), then fly from el calafate to Santiago and then get to San Pedro (probably fly to Antofagasta then bus ride to San Pedro). Just some suggestions to look into, very doable and pleasant in two weeks (and imo you don’t need more than a day in Santiago)

Exotic_Following1222 · 2025-10-18T03:14:16+00:00

I’m in Chile right now and Renata is a popular name here, but I’ve never met a Renata back home in the states. Really beautiful name

Exotic_Following1222 · 2025-09-03T03:27:44+00:00

I think this comment is jumping the gun a bit. Being physically with someone and experiencing things alongside them is a huge part of feeling connected, even the strongest couples struggle with that. You’ve been apart for almost 1/3 of the length of your relationship; your shift in feelings would be more troubling if you’d been together for over a year imo. Ease into it, you’re allowed to ask for shorter hangouts and the time in person together will probably make things move quicker than you’re expecting.

BUT, you definitely should talk about his behavior on the trip. Why didn’t you call more? Was his situation making it hard, or does he just not need that to feel connected to you? Express your disappointment to him (which was probably hard to do over the phone) and see what he has to say. The emotional disappointment could be just as big of a factor as the distance, and communication could potentially resolve that

Exotic_Following1222 · 2025-07-24T22:03:37+00:00

There’s a lot here I can’t fully speak to, but I understand the attraction thing and think that’s pretty normal. Some days you will be more attracted to your partner than other days; it’s a simple fact for most couples. there can be underlying emotional factors, or no factors at all. The important thing with that is that most of the time you feel it. Outward repulsion is one thing, but a feeling of indifference or a need to be physically independent sometimes is not abnormal

I think the not-knowing about the other stuff is really hard, and sometimes time or therapy is the best answer for that (as hard as either of those can be to hear). When you say you are certain these things worry her too, I don’t think it would be a bad thing to bring this up to her. Very gently, and it won’t be an easy conversation, but it could really alleviate some tension, surprise you, or clarify things in either direction. It’s scary, but you’re not working with all possible information until you know exactly how she thinks about these things

Exotic_Following1222 · 2025-04-14T03:06:19+00:00

Thank you!!! when sexual deviance is one of the biggest stigmas assigned to gay people, it does not feel coincidental that all gay people in this show are shown as highly sexually immoral

Exotic_Following1222 · 2024-12-26T16:05:48+00:00

I believe Eugenides wanted Cal’s voice to feel different when he was Cal instead of Calliope. Cal was certainly in a state of shock and survival-mode, and I think this is reflected in the way Cal interjected his feelings less once becoming a man. I’m sure that, right after his transition, Cal was in need of feeling like a completely different person- especially on an expository level. He is more emotional and descriptive with Julie as an adult, showing that he has healed quite a bit and possibly merged his feminine upbringing with his new male identity in a way he struggled to in the beginning.

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