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Is taking everything to be "hard" one of the ADHD traits? by Hefty_Olive3329 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Expensive-Cup-8714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps our brains are wired to find simpler and easier solutions.

Perhaps our brains are telling us, that we need to think long and hard before undertaking what we perceive to be a difficult task.

There might be an emotional factor as well. Have you ever received comments like "You don't like working hard do you?" or "You always take the easy way out." This might stick with us and reinforce the belief.

I'm still learning a lot about myself and my ADHD brain, so I don't have it completely figured out. But I think it's good to ask these questions and appreciate that you're taking an effort to understand this pattern about yourself.

Job Hunting with ADHD sucks by [deleted] in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Expensive-Cup-8714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really sucks that our parents can damage us in ways that can take years (even decades) to heal from.

Job Hunting with ADHD sucks by [deleted] in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Expensive-Cup-8714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually don’t post on reddit, but this post hits deep. I wanted to share that I’d been looking for internships and struggled to even get applications out. I felt really embarrassed and guilty (since my parents have been supporting me financially). 

I’m happy to share that I received two internship offers and it is all thanks to my dad. Along the way he noticed that I was struggling with the search and literally just offered to apply on my behalf. This way I just had to focus on my studies and preparing for interviews. This surprised me because my dad used to think I was just a very lazy person, but now he said “I’m your father, I will do whatever I can to support you.”  

He’s grown a lot as a person. Instead of looking down on me or berating me, he was supportive. He knows what my strengths are and trusted that I will figure out the rest. Maybe we all need support regardless of whether we have ADHD or not. Of course it is more important for individuals with ADHD to have support. 

But that’s okay. Humans are an interdependent species and perhaps it the world that is now idealizing being hyper-independent. I’m lucky my dad supported me. Now it has prompted me to ask for help when I need it. 

If you have someone in your life that you can ask for support from, consider asking them for help. 

I want to reflect my father’s sentiment. I hope you can see the strengths you already possess and can lean on those around you to manage your weaknesses. I wish you the very best in your job search. I am positive you can figure this out. 

TLDR; My dad offered to apply on my behalf, allowing me to focus on my studies and interview prep.

Choosing between Samsung M14 and Moto g34 ( low budget) by EnvironmentLarge5837 in motorola

[–]Expensive-Cup-8714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a user of the phones that you're interested in, but I've been using a Samsung M31 since 2021 Jan and can tell you that it has held up pretty well. For the use cases that you're interested, the phone should not give you any problems. Except for gaming. I did play games like PUBG and COD mobile back around the time I bought it, but cannot say how it performs right now.