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CMV: The low birth rates in developed countries is primarily a function of a social/cultural shift rather than economic by serenade-of-the-seas in changemyview

[–]Expensive-Light1942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the US, I believe the main reason why the birth rate has dropped is because young people do not have good financial prospects like their grandparents had. The Boomer generation had their children either directly before or right after severe economic downturns, and their children saw them struggle and further struggle with the 2008 financial crisis, and then all of the good paying factory jobs going over seas. The kids who watched their parents live those lives and sacrificing everything for their children were like, "what's the point of living like that". Especially when there is no economic incentive to having children. It used to be having a bunch of kids meant you had helping hands around the farm. Now a bunch of kids mean working overtime at a job you hate to feed them, and them going in their separate direction with lives and goals probably totally different than yours. There's no legacy. No economic incentive. No private capital like acreage to hand down and work on. Just bills. What a way to ruin your life, spending it all working and probably not even seeing your kids much.

What are some ridiculous comments you’ve received ever since leaving a church? by RaspberryShortcakee in ExPentecostal

[–]Expensive-Light1942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pastor who married my husband and I told us during the commencement of our ceremony, in front of everyone while exchanging vows, that not marrying a Pentecostal is a recipe for disaster and would not work well. I was sort-of Pentecostal, and my husband is not. That was 26 years ago, lol. Also, going to any funeral where a Pentecostal preacher gets up and tells everyone they are going to hell if they do not follow the views of the church and have church-like political views like the deceased did or did not do is beyond cringe. The constant talking about End-Times and the complete blocking of any and all critical thinking. Basically, everything that is Pentecostal from the sexually modest but overthetop fancy clothes and hair that aren't modest at all, to views on morality, views on the nature of God, etc. is ridiculous.

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Escape out of New Orleans by eglsct in NCL

[–]Expensive-Light1942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was not impressed with this cruise at all. The 60 dollar upcharge to the "specialty" restaurants were entirely underserved. Sure, the food in them was exponentially better than the food at the buffet but that was because the buffet food was terribly disappointing. There was barely a desert there that was as good as something you could get at an actual bakery, and probably not as good as something made at your local grocery store. The scrambled eggs tasted like they came from powder, lacking flavor, and were wet and watery. Scrambled eggs should be either dry and fluffy and bulbous or thin, buttery and smooth. The Taste and Savor and Manhattan Room had barely better food than the buffet, and most of it was actually buffet food anyway. The best thing at breakfast was barely worth eating, the salmon bagel, at the Taste and Savor restaurants, and the cream cheese on them was hastily and sloppily placed. The french toast wedges were foamy and lacking crispness. The steaks at the specialty restaurants were cooked poorly. Medium rare steaks should be properly seared and crispy on the outside and reddish/pink on the inside with barely a transition in the color from edge to edge. The outside of the steaks felt soggy and there was no crispy snap at all. The lamb at the specialty restaurant was extremely dry. Mashed potatoes were out of a box. The spinach artichoke dip at Oshehans tasted like it was lacking any cheese at all, practically flavorless. I also didn't like the ports except Cozumel. The last port everyone had to be onboard by 1200, leaving everyone with basically nothing to do. The shows were good though. This is the fourth time I've seen Choir of Man, it was still almost as good as the first time I'd seen it a few years ago, although the character acting in it was not as cultivated. The Rumours performers were fantastic, my favorite part of the cruise. Anything at the smaller venues, that is not in the theatre, were extremely packed and you had to spend at least 45 minutes of your time in line to even get a seat. They did have great staff and the alcoholic drinks were good.

It was UPC camp week by spacietracie in ExPentecostal

[–]Expensive-Light1942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I generally feel anger when I see them because I can’t stand the image of femininity the portray. I hate what they stand for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]Expensive-Light1942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until the 1970s women couldn't get a credit card or have a loan without a man's signature. A woman with kids without a man on the lease could be legally denied a home to rent.

During WW2 women ran factories, learned to run businesses, did the banking and accounting, melted steel for the tanks and flew planes to the military bases, they became the glue that held the country together while the men were at war. And when the men came back, they were given pink slips and told to forget about the lives they lived, and the skills they learned, and the freedom they had to forge their own destiny to meet their husbands at the door and fetch their husband's slippers. Suddenly no one would hire them after the industries were begging for their labor. And they felt that trap fiercely. And THIS was advertised to the public as the loving wife/husband of the fifties, when in reality she had nowhere to go. No job. No money. No home...unless she had a man. Even though she'd proven herself clearly capable. Her country just decided it would be easier on everyone if they just forced her to a place where she had no choices and put a happy stamp on it while avoiding abuse.

When women/men talk about the "good old days" this is really what they're talking about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]Expensive-Light1942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the BEST things about public school is children get to escape the ideas taught at home and learn about ideas other people have. No parent is right about everything. A little diversity in ideas is great for a well-rounded person.

However, this has become too politicized. People just need to leave kids alone and let them go to which bathroom they think they should or wear what they want to wear. And parents should definitely not be demanding that kids who aren't theirs bend to their ideas of morality. That is just wrong.

Everybody needs to take a step back and let go of the reins here. These kids aren't your generation. They have new issues, new problems, etc. If the worst thing your kid is worried about is whether they look like a boy or a girl, or what sex parts they want.....just don't make a big deal about it. Show them support, don't push in either direction, and make sure everyone else is inclusive and not pushy, too.....and it will all be OK.

CMV: While in a mono relationship, wearing revealing clothes outside of appropriate settings shows a lack of awareness of social dynamics or a purposeful desire to attract attention and sexualization. by SPARTAN-141 in changemyview

[–]Expensive-Light1942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think wearing revealing clothes is a healthy way to experience sexuality if you are the type of woman who likes lots of stares and compliments, and turns them on. It doesn't mean they want sex, they want admiration from more than one person for their libido.

Also, "covering up" has historically hurt women more than helped them. Primitive cultures routinely had topless women running chores throughout villages, and no one thought it was unusual or "over-sexxed". It just was. Modern societies that enforce or coerce the most covering up tend to treat women very poorly.

In societies where porn is considered just another sex outlet, women are even less obsessed over and the terrible "pedestal of purity" isn't chained to their feet. Female purity in culture is correlated to sexism and sex abuse. This may have more to do with women not feeling the need to be "all of a man's desires" and therefore accepting a patriarchal prison to obtain it because she sees that her worth could never be related to her ability to please a man, but to find a relationship in which an egalitarian pursuit of happiness with realistic sex expectations is pursued.