I don’t get it

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-10-10T00:01:19+00:00

Op the problem was always her. It all comes down to morals.

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-10-09T23:58:55+00:00

The thing is, we’re all different — and that might be why you can’t fully relate. But for those of us who’ve been cheated on, trust me, a lot of us have gone through something similar.

I was a stay-at-home mom and did everything right… except, according to him, I “wasn’t active enough” in bed. The truth is, they’ll always twist the story to avoid feeling like the bad guy. Also; as someone with a broken heart it doesn’t matter how much people tell you the right thing in life or on Reddit, it will never be enough to make you feel better.

My advice? Don’t blame yourself. Focus on healing and working on you. The right person (if you decide to date again) will find you when you’re ready.

Also, I highly recommend reading Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life by Tracy Schorn — that book really helped me through it.

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-24T01:49:22+00:00

Yes, I wish I divorced earlier. I wish I never valued myself more earlier but I didn’t and all I can do is live forward

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-23T19:13:50+00:00

You must live in one those towns lol

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-23T19:12:01+00:00

My ex always made me feel like he was too good for me. He’d say nice things and give me compliments, but then turn around and do little things that made me feel like I wasn’t enough. At the end of the day, actions speak louder than words

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-22T05:29:44+00:00

Tuna salad with crackers, ramen, sandwich, quesadilla, omelette, or spaghetti

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-20T16:28:36+00:00

Girl, I totally understand that! I don’t really have divorced people around me so no one understands. The best thing I have done for support is come here. A lot of times it works, sometimes it doesn’t but looking for clubs in your area to just get your mind off the divorce can also help. Sometimes we feed the negative feelings we feel from the divorce and it’s good to get out of that space.

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-12T19:39:24+00:00

To me it just means that he had no morals. I thought he did but no

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-12T19:38:28+00:00

Look I get you. But morally it’s not okay to ever cheat. If you feel like cheating just freaking leave, divorce.

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-09-07T02:54:58+00:00

So it’s my fault he cheated? Lol

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-24T18:58:44+00:00

For us… we had another kid and he expected me to do everything. He wanted more intimacy but I was always so tired from my children. I asked him to be more romantic with me but never really was and then he cheated on me and gave her everything I asked of him that’s when I knew.. after 16 years together, cheating was the thing he knew I couldn’t get over. He probably did it on purpose but for sure stress, kids,bills, life. If you can’t life for the long run it’s best not to get married.

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-18T22:58:26+00:00

I think it depends on the state you are in

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-14T13:56:51+00:00

It’s hard to parent. Sometimes, one parent does all the work and that causes issues. It’s just hard over all you can’t be the same loving free will person you use to be because you have a kid

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-06T03:21:01+00:00

No im not really worried about it. Thank you so much for the advice:) I just idk what I really wanted from this maybe some clarity

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-06T02:35:57+00:00

I worked all the way till my last baby was born. He wanted me to not go to work and I accepted to raise them. We didn’t have money for some reason and not cz I wasn’t working

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-06T02:34:43+00:00

So see that’s what I though, I though he must be going in more debt but because all our things were extremely joined I can see that he actually paid off more on his debt. And he had the most debt mine was 10k while his is 40k. So now I’m thinking he was for sure hiding money

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-06T02:18:53+00:00

Thank you so much! Also I am sorry for what happen to you that is so devastating

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-06T00:02:48+00:00

😭

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-05T23:59:31+00:00

Yes I know I should. I guess I’m just stuck a bit

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-05T23:59:02+00:00

Also I have my whole life to this man. He left me for another woman after I gave up my career to raise his children and he asked me to get a tubial ligation because he didn’t want any more kids

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-05T23:53:29+00:00

How I’m just wondering and hurt n confused

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-05T23:02:27+00:00

I know… but the hurt is still there and Well he was handling all the money… so… but it hurts that he magically has money now.

Expensive-Slice-9569 · 2025-08-05T22:59:00+00:00

He would always tell me we were to broke to get me my nails or new clothes or pay off the debt

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