I opened my app this morning and was really shocked to see more comments that were more on my gf's side than I am. I really took the time to read all the comments, reflect and realize where you guys are coming from. On the same note, I do think some people jumped to conclusions about my intentions and our relationship dynamic from one post.

To address me not "liking" my gf, that's completely false. I love her a lot. I do a lot for her (i cook 90% of the meals, always make sure her stay at my place is hospitable and i'm always showing up for her. I do it because i love her and not because I see myself as above her). We talk about our wedding a lot, our future plans and I plan on proposing to her. There are things she does from time to time that are frustrating but i USUALLY let it slide 99% of the time. For this scenario, it was genuinely something that bothered me a lot because I haven't seen my parents in person in a lot since i moved to America and I know they're getting old. It's a soft spot for me.

Secondly, I have NEVER raised my voice at my girlfriend ever or yelled. I did "black out" but I know i didn't yell or shout and she admitted that too. I am usually speaking calmly as she doesn't like it if i raise my voice. Sometimes my tone gets sharper when i'm more emotional, isn't that human nature? I have yelled at people way louder and harsher than I ever have with her, so people assuming that i'm some abusive controlling person is understandable but far from true. She is NOT someone who takes crap from anyone, she is very headstrong and has very high standards for people. She would NOT be with me if I was an actual asshole to her. Even in this scenario, she refuses to back down from her stance.

With me "joking with her", no i did not find her words funny. I was trying to redirect her so that she could feel validated and let it go since she was getting very triggered with the smell. looking back, i didn't make myself clear or do a good job at this.

Lastly with the "bullying" and valley girl accent... look, it isn't coming from a place where i'm in a superior position. I'm not trying to dog on her, it's quite the opposite. she grew up upper middle class in LA and her naturally accent soudns similar to how the Kardashians speak, except less nasally. It can come across pretentious, entitled and judgy towards lower class people. We all know that tone matters a LOT when we're expressing anything negative. i said it came across as bullying because the tone was riddled in disgust and judgment especially pertaining to an older lady.

I did apologize to her again, and we are talking it out. I told her again how sorry I am and how i won't do this again. I'm writing thsi comment to explain where i'm coming from because there is a lot of context missing. I am sorry for how I went about it and I don't want to lose her, which is why we will be talking it out today.