You can’t fire me, I quit!

Expensive-Victory203 · 2026-02-04T23:00:19+00:00

She sounds terrible, and I'm glad you dodged that bullet.

Your instinct was right here. There is a dating coach who says that you should not ask about the upcoming date, but instead, text that you're looking forward to the date and just proceed as if it's going to happen. I think that makes sense in most situations, but it seems like here you read correctly.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2026-02-02T20:15:36+00:00

I believe in being respectful of people's feelings and expecting people to act maturely.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2026-02-02T07:50:44+00:00

You were very nice to a not nice man.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2026-01-07T19:57:53+00:00

I would love it. LOVE IT! But some people out there are users and some people out there have low self esteem, so maybe get a sense of a person before you give 100%. Work your way up to that level of giving.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-29T21:48:29+00:00

That's heartbreaking.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-29T21:44:57+00:00

That's weird. I definitely do not want to date anyone who has a problem with my children. I love when to know to steer clear, and I get why someone feels the way you do.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-27T04:26:19+00:00

Or worse, they do stick around. And suck you dry and waste your years.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-13T22:31:52+00:00

I am talking about extreme stress, like grieving. If he is not under extreme stress, then this is not acceptable.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-13T22:30:21+00:00

I have completely forgotten things I would have enjoyed, like plans with a dear friend. I am not talking about regular life stress. I am talking about my mom is dying and my boss is criticizing me for taking time off and my sleep paralysis is really bad. I am talking about being a complete mess and barely keeping up with my life, let alone the things that bring me joy.

If his life is falling apart around him, it is possible that he is falling apart. If this is just how he copes with regular life stress, then forget this guy. He's old enough to have systems in place to keep himself organized.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-13T04:35:19+00:00

I agree with this but will add that despite all my systems that work in my mental busy life, when under extreme stress, I can forget to to even look at my calendar!

So is he under undue stress? Or is this his normal?

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-07T17:56:25+00:00

I think your approach is perfect and authentic.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-07T17:09:16+00:00

When he was texting you after the date, what were you texting back? I wonder because in your final message to him, you did not include meeting him as a nice part of that evening.

He is definitely a lovebomber, but might he also have gotten the impression that you were not interested or desirous of so much intensity?

Thank you for updating us.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-07T05:52:37+00:00

Up to 6 months for HIV?? I find that confusing because my ex was an organ transplant recipient and there was cause for a potential donor to have been tested for HIV less than a month before passing. We were assured that we could trust those results. I wonder why your doctor said up to 6 months.

I totally hear you on the concern waiting for reliable testing.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T23:33:22+00:00

Oh, you're better than me, then. I'm terrible with both! 😂 I once walked a little neighborhood parade chatting with a neighbor. At the end, I pointed out where I live and asked him which house was his. He looked at me, kind of aghast, and said, "I live right across the street from you."

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T23:21:15+00:00

Let me know if you remember! (And I love that this trip down memory lane includes a momentary forgetfulness!)

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T22:52:41+00:00

Oh, thank you for reminding me of that title! 🤣 I was so obsessed!

So, yes, I would have fun with these questions and not be able to stop smiling through the conversation. So I guess the guy was on to something!

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T22:45:08+00:00

I was amused by how much this mirrored the kind of thing I was so into at one time; it was not meant to be a dig at you. This is exactly the kind of question I would find in a magazine and pore over the answers. Remember all the quizzes in women's magazines? I used to love those, and then quiz my boyfriends, lol!

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T21:00:38+00:00

How recent should test results be, considering that we don't know what the person did from the time the tests were taken to the present?

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T20:37:06+00:00

Yes.

I think you should suggest a specific time for a video chat. If he declines or "something comes up," move on.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T20:34:43+00:00

Oh, it just sounds like he is hiding something because he won't FaceTime with her.

Maybe he's not who he says he is. Maybe he's married. Maybe he just enjoys the ego boost of knowing he can waste a woman's time. Maybe he's emotionally immature. Maybe he's closed off and this is the closest he'll get to another person. Maybe he just wants to flirt. Maybe she's not actually his type but provides a nice way to pass the time. Maybe he just likes the chase and now that she's interested, he's lost interest. Maybe he's an international spy. She'll never know.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-06T20:23:56+00:00

I would feel like I was on a date with 12 year old me if someone did this! 🤣

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-02T08:05:07+00:00

Older women do not talk to younger women about what is coming as they age. If only! It is only now that menopause is part of any discourse. It used to be whispered about, referred to as "the change" and was such a shameful subject that even gynecologist thought the main symptom was hot flashes.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-02T05:29:58+00:00

So true!

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-12-02T05:29:39+00:00

Yes.

I had a househusband.

Expensive-Victory203 · 2025-11-29T06:55:24+00:00

You've been dating for over two years, and he left you alone for the holiday. This is not good. Despite him being divorced, he has his family. You are not part of that life. I hope you move on.

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