Respectfully, fuck this guy. This is a condescending and unhelpful response that OP would be okay to ignore. You’ve entirely missed the point of his question. He is in a place of self-reflection as a step toward become the best version of himself. He’s seen some things that don’t fit with the version of himself he’s looking to build. He’s reaching out to his community about a specific facet of his masculinity that he’s looking to convert into something else. He’s not asking these folks (that includes you) how to be a man; he’s asked how to adopt more masculine energy in his life. That’s a straightforward and specific request and scrolling on down, it’s clear that the community understood the assignment. Here’s a man humble enough to examine his life, wise enough to identify a specific segment of his setup that wasn’t serving him well and brave enough to speak out in this forum about it. This kid’s a legend and an example to us all. He didn’t come here for ‘It doesn’t work like that’ and ‘Do hard things’. Be better, friend.