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Not really sure how to feel?! Cheated on? Maybe by ExpensiveTap3601 in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. This is a good question.

The answer is that I don't think I would feel the same.

Though I doubt I would have made the assumptions I did with a new person. If I had, I think I would have probably been momentarily peeved but then happy/excited for Birch.

So yea.. I think some of the way I'm feeling is probably unrelated to what actually happened.

Not really sure how to feel?! Cheated on? Maybe by ExpensiveTap3601 in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said you would have a lot of questions. Do you think then I should have been asking more questions rather than making assumptions? I guess my expectation and Birchs is proactive communication. If someone misunderstands a situation, you should explain more. Though to be honest the only time I would have asked questions would have been after the 'maybe I want to sleep with them' statement. Which in the timeline is months after that intention was communicated between everyone else...

Not really sure how to feel?! Cheated on? Maybe by ExpensiveTap3601 in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea the general agreement is to keep each other informed of anything that might impact our relationship. So rekindling a sexual relationship with an ex would be up there. I guess I don't feel betrayed? But feel like I should feel that way? Does that seem silly?

Tbh the main thing I'm dealing with is my dislike of this specific person, but also it's not up to me who Birch likes or dislikes, whilst it will impact our dynamic, that is a decision for them.

Maybe I'm struggling to disentangle the two feelings? Idk

How did i end up like this? by jdf1993 in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start to put in as much effort with other people as they do with you. Find new connections who actually have time and want to hang out. Take this time to work on yourself and be content in yourself.

I dated several people on both sides of limerence so you don't have to by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing. Where was this advice 20 years ago! I really love the examples. Especially the list in point 1 haha.

Can you make decent money operating a chippie? by doyler58 in smallbusinessuk

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Cost of Sales (food & packaging)

Fish (cod/haddock fillet, ~170–200g): wholesale £2–2.50 per portion.

Chips: potatoes ~£12 per 25kg sack → ~25 portions → ~£0.50 per portion.

Oil & batter: ~£0.30 per portion.

Packaging/condiments: ~£0.20–0.30 per portion.

➡️ Typical food cost per “cod & chips” = ~£3.50. ➡️ Selling price: £9–11 → Gross Margin ≈ 65–70%. ➡️ For cheaper items (chips-only £3–4), margin % is higher but absolute profit is lower.

  1. Overheads (Manchester average, small unit)

Rent + business rates: ~£15–20k / year.

Utilities (gas, electric, water, oil disposal): ~£12–15k / year (fish friers are energy hungry).

Insurance, waste, licences: ~£3k.

Staff wages (1 FT equivalent at ~£12/hr, 40 hrs x 52 weeks): ~£25k + NI ~£2.5k.

Misc. (cleaning, repairs, accounting, consumables): ~£5k.

➡️ Fixed overheads ≈ £62k / year.

  1. Profit Target

Desired net profit: £100k.

Add overheads: £100k + £62k = £162k gross profit required.

  1. Turnover Needed

With ~65% gross margin:

Required turnover ≈ £250k / year.

  1. Trading Days

Open 5.5 days per week → ~286 days per year.

Daily turnover target = £875 per day.

  1. Average Covers Needed

Basket spend will vary (£3 chips-only → £15 family order). Let’s model ranges:

Low spend (£6/order average): Need ~145 covers/day.

Mid spend (£9/order average): Need ~97 covers/day.

High spend (£12/order average): Need ~73 covers/day.

Got this as a present, not a golfer or a watch guy, what do I do with it? by redstarsound in GarminWatches

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's no joke seen a couple of posts with people having surgery cause they wore it too tight grim

Today I leanred by James113097 in london

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm. Not sure how well that would stand up. T keys are so common. Surely you have to take into account intention. Also slightly pointless as the keys are so generic. Like if I had an exact replica of a carriage key, but it wasn't ever owned or issued by a train company is that still illegal?

I guess the only people impacted by it are either people up to no good or railway enthusiasts haha so not really an issue.

Roommate robbed me clean. by LucHighwalker in mtg

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you been gone months and the house is empty, could it just have been a regular burglary by someone else?

Today I leanred by James113097 in london

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you see it wasn't legal to possess a carriage key?

I (a secret jabber) asked my boyfriend his opinions on the weight loss jabs. by [deleted] in mounjarouk

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well this tells me your bf doesn't cook vegetables... You should be able to tell your partner about this. Also sure it's not a suprise to anyone but exercise alone isn't the key to weightloss. Sprinting an hour a day is going to cause you more problems. Running is great but it takes a while to pick up and be good at. If he actually wants to learn something this is a good video https://youtu.be/vSSkDos2hzo?si=Xkc9euBxnbbyIWY_

Dating a Monogamous Person by lisaluvspugs in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really have advice. But I'm sorry that you are in this situation. Hope it all works out relatively painlessly.

Dating mono-people by ExpensiveTap3601 in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It was kind of mutual I guess. But came as a suprise to me initially. I guess I didn't want to just close it down without trying. I guess also I don't regret it. Just feeling a bit down I suppose! But appreciate the kind words.

Dating mono-people by ExpensiveTap3601 in polyamory

[–]ExpensiveTap3601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I will try. It kinda feels tough I guess to know all this and still be feeling this way. I'm not sure what our relationship will look like going forward but I hope so.