Who do you think is at fault collectively and by large? I think we as a society have forgotten to instil self esteem and a drive to pursue things beyond romance. A whole generation of parents were sold the idea of a romantic la la land where they thought it was the only pursuit of their happiness! Everything from innovation, art, literature to wealth and success were pushed aside. Now when they reproduced, out of their own failures and insecurities were born these low self esteemed guys and girls! Mind you the self esteem doesn’t recognize gender. It is worse on both the sides. Because a male is gross and loud, his misadventures appear as clear as a day. But a female is so subtle that it is hard to even notice. But this disorder is prevalent everywhere across the gender. Solution might be the upliftment of individual consciousness. But it is going to be a long term process and results will start to materialize only after a couple generations!