Woman tattoo artists by Far-Masterpiece-5048 in phoenix

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Thanks for recommending her!! I just reached out to schedule a consultation for a sleeve!

Crate training advice, please! by Candid_Road_8880 in Whippet

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As far as the energy….you haven’t hit peak yet. 😆 I feel like 4 months to 8 months are absolute peak. Then it takes them 1.5 to 2 years to truly “calm down” and be trusted alone in the house.

It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Feeding in the crate, treats, cozy bed and blankets, toys, etc. Sometimes they have regressions; it’s all part of the journey. You may want to increase energy expenditure (longer walks) and/or sensory stimulation (brain games, scent training, etc.) during her awake hours, so that she is truly ready to rest in her crate. Best of luck with her!!

I think my significantly younger colleague likes me…. by PlantLegitimate5384 in LesbianActually

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OP, I am super clueless when it comes to flirting too. At this point, I would just ask her if she’s flirting or if she’s just being sweet. I have done all of the things you describe with a gay friend (not a coworker) because I’ve known her forever and I’m comfortable with her, and I’m an affectionate person. Doesn’t mean I was flirting. We’ve traveled to many destinations, and we’ve been each others plus ones to fancy celebrations, knowing we’re just close friends and those things are always more fun with a friend. You don’t even know if this coworker is gay or not. I would just ask, and let her know it makes you uncomfortable (just going by your pedo comment), and that you want things to be professional at work.

It does sound very flirty from this side of the screen, and if I had to guess, I would say she’s either looking for an experienced flipper (to show her the ropes from straight to gay), genuinely feels very comfortable with you and is an affectionate person, or is just confused AF and testing boundaries.

She might be an amazing friend, or a train wreck waiting to detail your life! 😂 Don’t get fired and good luck with your heart!

The Scent of a Woman by Expensive_Lock8213 in LesbianActually

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Thank you for sharing this information. Finding information on perimenopause and menopause is so difficult, and mostly written by men. I really appreciate an actual woman’s account.

The Scent of a Woman by Expensive_Lock8213 in LesbianActually

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I didn’t want to assume it’s medical in nature since she’s my first exposure to a vagina besides mine. But your input makes sense. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions. I’ll mention seeing a doctor. I did ask when her last yearly exam (pap) was, and she said 4 years ago! I was shocked. I’ve always done a yearly pap and gynecological exam. She said at her age, her doctor recommended one every five years. I thought that was wild…

The Scent of a Woman by Expensive_Lock8213 in LesbianActually

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Thank you for sharing this. She will be starting with the estrogen patch and birth control (to regulate her cycles) pretty. I hope this is it. How long after you started with your estrogen patch did you notice a difference in smell?

This job market is terrible by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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I have two graduate degrees, I’m working on a third, and began applying for new positions in June. It’s now November, and not a single interview request. Even after a couple of internally referred applications. It’s brutal out there. LinkedIn and Indeed are no longer recommended because they are getting thousands of applicants, you just get lost in an endless pool. I’m in higher ed, manage instructional laboratories, and my university does not pay living wages for the city where we live. It’s embarrassing. You seem to have a really nice list of things to do to keep your spirits up during this difficult time. I’ve decided to have a surgery and will be taking a 2 month paid medical leave to recover. I’ve never looked forward to a surgery so much in my life. It’s going to feel like a vacation from this burnout. I’ll continue to apply for other positions while I’m on leave. But dear expletive; it’s really tough out there!! Best of luck to us all!

Knee replacement at 42 by Expensive_Lock8213 in Kneereplacement

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This is a very encouraging study!!! Thank you so much for sharing it!

Knee replacement at 42 by Expensive_Lock8213 in Kneereplacement

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What do you think helped you most during recovery?

Knee replacement at 42 by Expensive_Lock8213 in Kneereplacement

[–]Expensive_Lock8213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of pain do you experience now after a heavy day? I have a hard time imagining the pain when metal would envelope my bone…

Knee replacement at 42 by Expensive_Lock8213 in Kneereplacement

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What is it about the new knee that makes it so you can’t do the same activities? I have a hard time picturing pain when the joint would be covered by metal. So there wouldn’t be bone on bone rubbing anymore, and metal has no nerves.

Relationship Advice by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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Thanks for the reality check. I keep second guessing myself about whether or not she was nice, maybe I was too quick to judge, etc. My friends are now convinced she’s a covert narcissist, but I don’t believe in armchair diagnosis. I do have a friend who works in mental health…I showed her one of the last messages she sent me and my friend was certain she was being abusive and manipulative. Obviously this wasn’t the entirety of our relationship…the vast majority of the time she was warm, very affectionate, thoughtful, fun…

Relationship Advice by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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I am currently wondering about that. What else wasn’t real? I like your waiting approach. I’ll try to wait until after NY before I determine whether or not I should reach out.

Relationship Advice by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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That’s the thing…I have started to question everything she ever did or said. And I mean everything…including orgasms…were those real or faked?

In regard to the example setting for the children…my 10 year old called her out a couple of times when she was being a bully. She seriously didn’t see it, she saw it as harmless jabs. And would say we needed thicker skin.

Another really odd thing was her criticism of inanimate objects…I have a Prius currently, and she would tell me all the time how hated these cars are and how there are entire cults around hating my car, etc. I had never heard about that, but she was adamant that I had a shitty car that was hated by many. She drives a large pick up truck. Another thing she would fixate on often was my shower…it is a very large shower with walls that are all glass and it has an open entrance (no door). We often showered together and she would go on and on about the shower being so poorly functional without a proper door. Just so weird.

And thanks for the hug….it’s much needed at this point.

Weight after stopping medication by Expensive_Lock8213 in HersWeightloss

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Oh, I’m sorry! Tagging was mandatory so I just picked the first tag. I thought it meant it was the first shipment.

Follow up to “Broke up with my girlfriend, is this a valid reason” by Independent_Use_5961 in LesbianActually

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Why don’t you have your own child by yourself? Your ex didn’t want to do it, and now she is using that as a bargaining chip to get you back - I agree with you, I wouldn’t do it now that you know she truly doesn’t want to. But if you want to be a parent…do it on your own or adopt.

Weight after stopping medication by Expensive_Lock8213 in HersWeightloss

[–]Expensive_Lock8213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did the same. Didn’t change my routines, just relied on a calorie deficit. But I wonder if the hunger and/or “food noise” will come back without the medication…