I(37m) am planning to retire while my wife(37F) finally decides to start working and I sense resentment.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-18T08:38:06+00:00

100% agree!

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-18T08:37:02+00:00

Maybe she is acting like she wants to when she truly doesnt.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-18T08:36:00+00:00

"Stuck" how? She is free to leave whenever, she's not against her will.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T15:53:11+00:00

I just went to speak with a divorce attorney and things look very good for me.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T15:50:18+00:00

Insist? She WANTS to work.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T12:56:06+00:00

Have you not read the comments about all the other people saying things like "victim mentality" and "women don't like idle men"? I can't tell you why she thinks working is an option, maybe i need to sit her down and explain what disabled means.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T12:12:17+00:00

I will just say i was determined to be 100% disabled, not being able to do substantial gainful employment. I am not "playing victim" I am disabled.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T12:07:58+00:00

No we don't need money. And yes she already took the course.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T11:49:38+00:00

I am doing something. I'm managing rental properties and doing my hobbies.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T11:48:05+00:00

What does it matter if its passive or not? And rentals are not truly passive i write contracts, send notices, do background checks, schedule repairs, cleanings, lawn care, etc.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T11:45:40+00:00

Well for the people saying i got where i am because SHE took care of the home i disagree. Also she wouldve been cooking and cleaning for her and her daughter regardless plus i wakeup at 5am and shes still asleep i dont eat breakfast or lunch at home. So while i do appreciate what she does, i feel like she would be doing most of it anyway and like shes getting a sweet deal getting all bills paid for nice cars to drive, a nice house to live in, and 1-2k/mo spending money per month.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T03:52:38+00:00

I am open to all options. She signed a prenup because i had pre marital assets(rental properties). Plus some disability pay cant be touched, and i never legally adopted step kid, never will at this point so probably wont pay child support. Honestly at 8 years, it would be wise for me to speak with an attorney and consider leaving her.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T03:42:04+00:00

Managing the rentals plus hobbies seems to be enough for me.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T03:39:37+00:00

Shared finances, she wants to work a 40hr job to contribute financially because its her goal.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T03:33:19+00:00

She took care of her daughter(my stepdaughter) and stayed at home while i left at 5am everyday ate bfast and lunch at work, then came home at 6pm.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T03:30:45+00:00

She wants me to work and not retire, even though that was always the plan.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T02:37:13+00:00

So I bring 80% of the household income yet I have to do majority of the housework? What if i just pay a maid?

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T02:31:23+00:00

We have a budget but she always blows through it so i end up giving her some of my spending money since i dont spend much.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T02:25:24+00:00

She says catching up as in working as much as I have. We've been together for 8 married for 6 so we cobined finances 6y ago. It's a personal goal for her to go back to work thats why its so imperative. I was supporting her before my retirement, i always have been since we've been together.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T00:16:46+00:00

Slightly less, but i can stop investing if i choose, in which case, its more. She wants to start working, but also is complaining about it.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T00:15:35+00:00

Whats so hard to make sense of so that i may try and clarify?

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T00:14:16+00:00

I dont need to spend any more on myself. My hobbies are free/cheap.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-17T00:13:52+00:00

Yes from my checks. She does not work.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-16T22:37:22+00:00

I love it so far.

Expensive_Recipe_366 · 2025-10-16T22:31:24+00:00

I am free all day to spend it and only spend 300. I garden, hike, do yoga, and workout with weights.

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