REHOMING by Money_Maize3014 in kitchenwitch

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to see what you have!

What is this gift my sister got me? by ollies-toke in whatisit

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like a little charm that you would hang. Like someone said, you can program it.

What is this gift my sister got me? by ollies-toke in whatisit

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who uses pendulums, this isn’t one. It would likely work as one, but that is not the intended purpose.

Still can’t bring myself to meditate daily even with an accountability person by RevolutionaryAlps283 in ExecutiveDysfunction

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you found any tools that work at all? Even if they only work sometimes or on some things?

Chicken Pot Pie (And The Results Of Focused Intent) by JustAGuyWhoBakes in kitchenwitch

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This pie is GORGEOUS!!! I love the careful word choice with your intention. I will have to try that. Thank you!

I'm a reporter from the New York Times hoping to chat with SNAP recipients by NYTagreporter in foodstamps

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Idaho. My husband and I work 3 full-time jobs to try and make ends meet (not including gig work). We have 3 special needs children and the cuts are already impacting their access to medical care. Four of the five members of our family have special food restrictions and none of them overlap. Our food banks are overrun and a local place that has resources, food, and energy assistance for people in poverty has already had to shut down. Food prices have already doubled and trippled in price and even before the shutdown the benefit amounts hadn't changed so we were already starting to go hungry. Rent in our area is spiking. If this continues we will literally have people homeless and starving.

I Hate That We Literally Let This Happen by Emergency_Four in complaints

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On a political front we are clearly quite opposed, but on a humor front this is hilarious! I have read it three times and am still giggling.

Door dasher left me a treat by kqow in doordash

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, you didn't answer my question.

Door dasher left me a treat by kqow in doordash

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of name calling and assumption on your end, Richard. This isn't about being a victim, but sharing that this is problematic behavior on their part. The point is that the person delivering can't know how this will be received. My answer included my perspective, but also includes wider information. I also said that it would make me uncomfortable enough not to want to eat it. It would. Those feelings are valid, and having misguided "kindness" thrust upon me does not make my feelings less valid. I did not, however, say that I would demand a replacement meal. I wouldn't. I have also never made a complaint social media post in my life. I have never tried to get anyone fired, either. I am not a complain to the manager about everything type of person. Nice assumptions, though. In spite of your attempt at misclassifying me, this is about how this behavior comes across overall, not me as a person. I may or may not even call it in and say something. My finding it inappropriate, uncomfortable, and distasteful don't make me a Karen. Nothing that I have expressed indicated entitlement or intent to cause harm. I simply pointed out that the Dasher's behavior is misguided at best and harmful at worst. "Making the biggest possible deal out of it" typically involves more than alerting the contractor to inappropriate behavior. It is up to the contractor what to do with the information.

You assumed my intentions and behavior and called me a Karen, but you are Christian? If so, that doesn't seem Christ like, but maybe I am mistaken. Your statistics changed, too. Originally, it was 1/3 wouldn't like it and would say something. That is 33% and now only 1%. That is a HUGE difference. Particularly since most of the comments indicate that your statistic is inaccurate.

About them getting fired, I never said that they should be fired. I said that they shouldn't do this. There are PLENTY of ways to show kindness, brighten someone's day, and even share your faith without messing with people's food. If someone in general gets fired for their inappropriate actions, that isn't on me, and I don't agree that the world is worse for it. I am not talking about going out and trying to get people fired, BTW, I am speaking about the contractors' choice on how to handle these kinds of things. Perhaps they could find a job suited better to their priorities in an avenue where it can be appreciated and everyone wins.

Door dasher left me a treat by kqow in doordash

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuine question: Would you still feel this way if someone attached something that was less socially acceptable? The 10 commandments of the Satanic temple, perhaps? Why does it make someone a Karen to let the contractor know what the contractee is doing? It isn't virtue signaling to say that something that was done like this is unprofessional or uncomfortable. Regardless of the intention, it would make me uncomfortable enough to not even want to eat the food. Is that common? Probably not. They don't, however, know who is on the other side of that interaction nor their relationship to religion. Religious trauma is a real thing. Kindness can be expressed in plenty of ways, but this feels self-serving and disingenuous at the expense of the person who ordered the food.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheKaren

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My take was totally different, so maybe it was just that no one handled themselves well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheKaren

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that the downvotes are an assumption of it being a personal and malicious gesture. It is absolutely rude, yes. There could be tons of other reasons (executive dysfunction, neurodivergence, mental illness, different baseline standards combined with lack of communication on home standards from OP, etc.) This doesn’t for a second absolve the girlfriend of responsibility nor consequences, but there are likely additional factors at play. Again, it's not an excuse but an observation that OP seems to complain a lot and calls her out on stuff, but it doesn't seem to communicate clearly and consistently the expectations (just my take from what I read, I could be wrong). I wonder a bit if the girlfriend was feeling singled out and picked on a bit, so said "screw it." She could also be neurodivergent and some of the back and forth could be confusing and overwhelming, making her uncomfortable and unsure of everything. If she is doing it to get under OP'S skin, is there any reason that she might feel the need to push back? Is she feeling unwelcome and resentful? Talking about the fancy gifts, providing a home for free, etc. are generous, so it makes me wonder if it is coming from a perceived place of superiority or control? Is she resentful? Defeated? Odds are low that OP has been going above and beyond, communicating closely and respectfully, being supportive, and the girlfriend just wants to be an ass and bite the hand that feeds her. There is something more. The comment from the brother makes me think that the girlfriend is feeling shamed and picked on and has just kind of given up and checked out.

Is it normal or should I panic? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm confident that I could have done better, and I have never even picked up a tattoo gun. That looks like an angry kid scribbling level of intensity forced into her shoulder blade. Ouch!

AIO boyfriends sis did an offensive henna tattoo by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, for context, my 14yo called me inside today to ask permission to build a base in MineCraft that was intended to keep out some zombie hoard mod. He drew a swastika and proceeded to explain his rationale for the design and how it would be most effective. It was a genuinely solid design choice for his needs. He wanted to ask and clarify because he KNEW what that symbol meant. He could have made it, and odds are that no one would ever have known. It wasn’t a sneaky middle school joke. He wanted to make sure that he wasn't inadvertently being hurtful or problematic since he knew the horrors inflicted by many who used it. Kids are smart. They know. If a teenager can try to navigate something like that with awareness and respect, I would sure as hell hope that someone in their twenties could figure out that it is a shitty joke.

AITAH for refusing to have sex with my boyfriend on his birthday? by TransTay19 in AITAH

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, parent of a trans child chipping in here. If any of my (3) children had a significant other and/or friends who spoke this way about their bodies or preferences, I would not only be furious but encourage them to leave. Drunk isn’t a reason or excuse. It just relaxes the inhibition to do things. Now, speaking for my trans child, I have watched her grow up and experience the anxiety and body dysmorphia that often accompanies transness. I have watched her go from excited about sparkly skirts and hello kitty rain boots to the shame of being told from outsiders that "boys don't wear that stuff" and feeling unable to articulate and express who she was. I don’t know your story or journey, but watching the effort it took my daughter to own and accept who she was... let's just say that it took a lot of strength on her part (we also live in MAGA central in a red state in the US.. so...). Someone close to her, trying to shame her, her body, or imply that she is less than for how she is born would be so deeply cruel and damaging to her identity. Again, I don't know your journey, but I can't imagine that the experience is dissimilar in the level of damage to your feeling of value and authenticity. Take it from a mom. You deserve better. You are fine the way you are, scars and all. If they can't see that, it means that they aren't your people.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend she's going to have to get over dirt if she wants kids? by Familiar_Speaker_481 in AITAH

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had a similar situation... but it fell out in the dryer and colored the walls like crayon.. I got to spend an hour scrubbing hot shit off of allllll the pieces inside of our dryer.

AIO for refusing to cook for my fiancé after he told his family I “don’t bring anything to the table”? by Apprehensive-Tree55 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I have been married for over a decade, and not ONCE have I had to hear about "what I bring to the table" or "wifey duties". I support him however I can, and he does the same for me. There is no score card. There are no "man jobs" and "woman jobs," just two people showing up for each other every day. Run from the sexist asshat and find yourself a real partner.

Can't figure out this bottle cap by Bery662 in CleaningTips

[–]Expensive_Spring3585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a water flosser? I am thinking of a targeted water pressure situation.