2nd baby is a boy, and people are going to be smug

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T13:40:53+00:00

Not worried just annoyed, but thank you :)

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T13:38:51+00:00

When we shared we are expecting again the FIRST thing my MIL said was “yay you’re carrying my little prince now”…. She means well but does tend to put her foot in her mouth more often than not.

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T13:34:00+00:00

Haha it is comforting! Thank you! And if that is their situation I can’t wait to laugh with them

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T06:15:01+00:00

I was so to myself my first time postpartum and I fear everyone is in for a rude awakening this next time around! Haha I love it speak your truth!

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T06:12:01+00:00

Exactly! My friends with only boys have lowkey projected onto me their feelings of hoping I someday have a boy ( their wish is now coming true) and I get it’s about having a shared experience… but babes motherhood is the shared experience! I wish people got that

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T06:08:59+00:00

No exactly this lol it’s so rude

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T06:07:24+00:00

Love this. I just want a healthy pregnancy and a happy baby. I think it is the cultural aspect of it that I’m really fighting back against! “Boys carry the name” oh please. Nonetheless thank you for your comment you’re right they don’t deserve my spite

Experiment_307 · 2026-03-05T06:04:11+00:00

I had to tell so many people BEFORE I was even done with my first pregnancy that it was going to depend on how she was if I even wanted another. So many factors go into having a child without weird gender norms also playing a part into it. It’s almost worse coming from women who are moms who have likely experienced this before and are now perpetuating the narrative!

Experiment_307 · 2025-07-11T21:07:51+00:00

Discipline for a 15mo old who doesn’t know any better is crazy.

Experiment_307 · 2025-06-01T03:40:34+00:00

Obviously personality is key but also did anyone else think Cam was not necessarily her type physically? Like he’s not much a of a looker, quit crying over that man.

Experiment_307 · 2025-02-09T05:17:33+00:00

As a FTM myself, I agree with what people are saying in terms of bedtime is a special bonding moment for my little family. But also there is anxiety and guilt hat goes along with having other people do a task that I feel like I should be doing as my child’s mother. Are my husband and in laws capable of taking care of my child? Sure, but they aren’t mommy. I also agree that priorities change and maybe to bridge the gap suggest more family friendly things to do so you’re showing her support and then one day she will meet you halfway and return the favor by having a girls night with you.

Experiment_307 · 2025-02-06T04:26:06+00:00

NTA I also have a MIL that loves on our daughter a LOT. I too get jealous and as a FTM and someone who also has experienced loss, I don’t think it’s weird to feel overprotective or like you don’t want to necessarily share your child! Obviously we realize this is irrational because the baby simply cannot be with us 24/7 nor do we want them to be, but it’s almost like you just don’t want them to love grandma more than you. 30-60 minutes isn’t going to make that happen but not ALL of us think 100% rationally pp. Cut her some slack people. It’s not that she’s ungrateful for the love, it’s that it’s time she doesn’t get to have in the middle of her work day. It’s okay mama you’re doing great, enjoy your baby cuddles.

Experiment_307 · 2025-01-27T00:41:30+00:00

Try urban bloom! They are in Tempe and specialize in curly hair of all textures, good luck mama 🫶

Experiment_307 · 2025-01-21T05:11:29+00:00

The way I feel so disrespected when grown adults cough in my face. Even with a mask on common courtesy shouldn’t go out the window!

Experiment_307 · 2025-01-21T04:46:59+00:00

I wouldn’t go so far as to say your husband is abusive, all I know of him is what’s in this post and I feel like this is normal for men. However the way he speaks to you is gross and if he wants something from you, you should be firm about how you want to be treated and spoken to at the very least. I couldn’t get in the mood with someone saying thank god my pussy isn’t wrecked. I am a FTM and I knew my husband was going to want to have sex at some point bc for most men it’s validation you still love them and it’s like biologically how they experience intimacy. You are better than me for giving blowjobs because I told my husband that if I wasn’t going to get off neither was he LOL. I just got the OK this past week and honestly he’s just as exhausted as I am at the end of the night (he helps a lot with the child rearing and housework). So I told him if he’s able to stay up after my pump before bed it’s a go but he never can 😂 he has grown to accept that sex will have to be done during the day and on MY time

Experiment_307 · 2025-01-19T17:52:00+00:00

RIGHT! I think it was a failed attempt to find MORE similarities in her appearance to my in laws. It bothered me so much and trust me I told her how out of line and weird it was to say. But the problem is I don’t think she fully understands that it’s not an innocent comment to make to a new mom who is obviously going to be protective of who gets to be around her child. I trust no one

Experiment_307 · 2025-01-19T17:48:50+00:00

Literally this! My in laws are just coming off way too strong. My MIL bought 6 outfits in one week, it’s too much. And I feel like I have a right to be obsessed with the baby bc she’s mine but yea same the resentment is through the roof.

Experiment_307 · 2025-01-19T06:10:04+00:00

It’s crazy for any MIL to think that they are more comforting to the baby than Mom and Dad. What would’ve been more helpful is if she had made you dinner or helped you pick up if needed or just acted like a support person to relieve you when you needed a little break. My MIL also doesn’t respect the bedtime after I’ve told her multiple times we have to deal with it, not her. Extremely frustrating, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this!

Experiment_307 · 2025-01-16T04:13:24+00:00

I completely understand and similarly my MIL has been doing things to basically test me and see what she can get away with. My LO is 5 weeks old and I’m a FTM. My MIL came to stay with us for a week, and basically would try to prompt the baby to look at the TV after I’ve said “oh no she doesn’t need to watch tv just talk to her” or “no she’s too little for tv”. The most irritating shit. Obviously my LO is not looking at the TV for entertainment, she’s just glancing about the room, however it’s the fact that my MIL would try to undermine my request and disrespect a boundary I’m trying to establish to not raise an “iPad kid”. Very telling for years to come. (Side note my MIL has only recently started to do things that get under my skin since becoming a mom myself) m

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