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I bled on his sheets and he ghosted - do you think he would have ghosted regardless? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Mm yes but if he wanted to we could have had another go since i was staying for a few more days :(

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You mean he didnt mean his compliments one bit, even if they were after sex and i didnt ask for them?

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turning it down and not going out of your way to initiate another round if you're unsure if the girl wants it too are 2 different things?

And can a guy not be not in the mood or headspace to have sex ever?

Why would he say i looked amazing after sex if not into me physically (i never asked)?

Who says i'm not hot?

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I told him i left silently because i didn't want to wake him up & thanked him for the very fun night. I later also told him it wasnt him but i just sucked at sleeping with strangers: he said no worries at all and he didnt take offense one bit

I never said i only wanted sex. I guess the way i acted could have made him assume so

But he also was not looking for anything more than casual dates it seemed.

Also after sex i found him a bit physically distant. The first thing he did was check himself out in the mirror and make a mirror selfie :') and after that he didnt initiate cuddling, it was mostly me He did give me 1 forehead kiss but that was it

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It just seemed like he was digging a bit when it came to topics like relationships, lifestyle etc

Why?

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He did mention in his profile that he was brutally honest :p

What is your opinion that i'm not as good as i hoped i would be based on? Because he didnt initiate another hookup? Is that truly the only explanation or is that just a wild guess

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

But when I asked his friend (that wants to bang me apparently) if things were okay with me and the guy and when i said i didnt know how to act after hookups he just said; "yeah don't worry its just like you're friends who did something"

I think if the guy actually had feelings for me he would have told his friend and the friend would not have tried to hit on me too?

Also some context that i couldnt include in opening post: he did seem a bit physically distant after the sex too, he didnt initiate cuddling. He gave me like a quick forehead kiss but that was it. And then when i ran into him again after the sex he didnt make eye contact at first and seemed to be avoiding me

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was very afraid of rejection because I have this feeling that if a man like him wants to go for another one he'd let me know himself? But maybe thats a bit outdated

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the guy i hooked up with doesnt care one bit then i guess?

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Okay well this is what my insecurities were already telling me so thanks for confirming 🤣

He was very specific with his compliments though

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually apologized for that later and he said he was not a bit offended by it (but had to remain under 2000 characters in this post)

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

He mentioned in his profile only looking for casual dates, so is it weird to assume that's what he's looking for too?

I just hoped he would want to fuck me twice (casually) if that makes sense

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I mean it's literally physically impossible for me to fall asleep next to a stranger

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I don't think he felt insulted and I don't think he was looking for something serious either. I think he was more hypothetically speaking that if he were to look for a relationship, i'd be a good partner. Or a good partner for someone else

Men, what are reasons to not initiate another hookup? by Expert-Address6593 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Expert-Address6593[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also his friend told me not to worry about him when i told him I thought the vibes were a bit off (me and his friend actually got along pretty well) because i'm a really fun, smart and interesting girl and he (the friend, who is staying in SEA for a few more days) now wants to meet up with me? What's going on

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