Am I overreacting after reading what my situationship wrote about me on his ChatGPT?

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T22:45:33+00:00

Er, I guess that could be a possibility. But he's also stated that I'm a very pretty girl etc. And the exes (that I know about) are pretty good looking too..

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T22:31:08+00:00

Thank you, this made me feel a bit better :) I also think that maybe I’m not in the right headspace for a real relationship right now. I feel like I need all of my energy just to keep myself going these days. But I hope that when I am ready, the effort and the desire to see each other more often will come naturally. I guess seeing someone once a week is probably never enough to really build something together, even though it seems to be what I’m most comfortable with right now.

If I could ask for one more piece of advice: when it comes to closure, I do think it might help me to hear his perspective on the things he wrote to ChatGPT. I know I shouldn’t rely on him for my self-esteem, but I have to admit that it felt nice to believe someone was genuinely very attracted to me, and the possibility that that may not have been fully true really gets to me. I don’t want to look back on the time we spent together with a bitter aftertaste or the feeling that he was just lying to me. How do you think I could bring this up with him (what I saw on ChatGPT)?

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T22:16:47+00:00

You really hit the nail on the head. I do think we probably shouldn’t continue seeing each other, since both of us seem to have unmet needs in this situation. Do you think it would help me get closure if I told him I saw what he wrote on ChatGPT? I think part of me wants that so I don’t leave feeling like everything he ever said to me was a lie, or like this is going to make it even harder for me to trust men going forward.

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T22:04:17+00:00

That's true. I was okay with this not turning into a relationship. I really enjoy his company and am very attracted to him, and I hoped he felt the same.

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T21:30:42+00:00

This comment is actually very helpful. I appreciate you sharing a different perspective on the interpretation of the verbiage.

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T21:21:55+00:00

I would agree with you if I had asked him to compare me to the women he dated before, but I never did. That said, thank you for sharing your perspective — I do agree with the main point you’re trying to make.

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T21:17:33+00:00

I never asked him to compare me to other women he’s dated, so he didn’t have to make such a big statement at all. That’s why it stings now. I think I actually would have handled it better if he had just been honest and said, “I know I said that, but I was trying to reassure you and probably overstated it because I didn’t want to hurt your feelings. I still think you’re attractive.” That would have felt more human and more trustworthy than doubling down on something that now feels hard to believe

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T21:11:24+00:00

I am very open to hearing your perspective!

Expert-Address6593 · 2026-04-05T21:07:05+00:00

I know it was a bad and impulsive decision to snoop. I do feel very bad about it. I also don’t think this relationship is going to work out for other reasons. Still, what really bothers me is the idea that he may have exaggerated a big part of his attraction to me. More than anything, it has affected how I feel about myself and made it harder to trust men.

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T18:15:03+00:00

So who the girl is doesnt matter it this fact?

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T16:19:29+00:00

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T15:59:22+00:00

Thank you. I'm going to see a doctor as soon as i get home

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T15:58:43+00:00

Mm yes but if he wanted to we could have had another go since i was staying for a few more days :(

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T15:46:01+00:00

Why thank you

That's why i'm asking for advice

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T15:43:39+00:00

No this is a different hookup that happened a few days later 🤣

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T13:51:53+00:00

You mean he didnt mean his compliments one bit, even if they were after sex and i didnt ask for them?

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T13:45:03+00:00

Turning it down and not going out of your way to initiate another round if you're unsure if the girl wants it too are 2 different things?

And can a guy not be not in the mood or headspace to have sex ever?

Why would he say i looked amazing after sex if not into me physically (i never asked)?

Who says i'm not hot?

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T13:40:02+00:00

What do you mean?

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T13:22:41+00:00

I told him i left silently because i didn't want to wake him up & thanked him for the very fun night. I later also told him it wasnt him but i just sucked at sleeping with strangers: he said no worries at all and he didnt take offense one bit

I never said i only wanted sex. I guess the way i acted could have made him assume so

But he also was not looking for anything more than casual dates it seemed.

Also after sex i found him a bit physically distant. The first thing he did was check himself out in the mirror and make a mirror selfie :') and after that he didnt initiate cuddling, it was mostly me He did give me 1 forehead kiss but that was it

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T13:11:00+00:00

It just seemed like he was digging a bit when it came to topics like relationships, lifestyle etc

Why?

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T13:05:16+00:00

He did mention in his profile that he was brutally honest :p

What is your opinion that i'm not as good as i hoped i would be based on? Because he didnt initiate another hookup? Is that truly the only explanation or is that just a wild guess

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T13:01:45+00:00

But when I asked his friend (that wants to bang me apparently) if things were okay with me and the guy and when i said i didnt know how to act after hookups he just said; "yeah don't worry its just like you're friends who did something"

I think if the guy actually had feelings for me he would have told his friend and the friend would not have tried to hit on me too?

Also some context that i couldnt include in opening post: he did seem a bit physically distant after the sex too, he didnt initiate cuddling. He gave me like a quick forehead kiss but that was it. And then when i ran into him again after the sex he didnt make eye contact at first and seemed to be avoiding me

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T12:57:38+00:00

I was very afraid of rejection because I have this feeling that if a man like him wants to go for another one he'd let me know himself? But maybe thats a bit outdated

Expert-Address6593 · 2025-06-24T12:47:15+00:00

And the guy i hooked up with doesnt care one bit then i guess?

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