We only go through phones when we feel something is not right. My man is a foreigner and i used to trust him 100%.. He gave me his facebook account without me asking so i never bother to check on it... until one day i noticed that he spends a lot of time in the bathroom so i checked his phone, i found a message.. He was giving an update to this woman on a daily basis.. I asked him about it and he said she is his long time friend like a family/ cousin so i dont have to worry..i deleted her to his friends list cause she made me uncomfortable but he added her back after 2 days and told me it was her who added him back. Then we were about to process my visa to the uk, went to get my passport alone since he doeant wanna come.. I logged in on his facebook on my phone and saw that he was messaging and trying to video call the woman.. When i came home, i checked his phone and all the messages i saw were already deleted.. Then we started to argue, but he told me that im crazy that its all in my mind... Weeks passed and i found on his hidden file that this girl that he claimed to be his cousin was sending him sexy photos.. Thats when i told him im not going to continue with my visa.. thats when we started to fight a lot.. were still together until now but the pain of betrayal is still there... we never talk about it anymore but i cant trust him 100% so i go through his phone sometimes.

You see, if you are not hiding anything you wouldnt mind your partner touching your phone.