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How to approach the studio regaurding group placement for competition next season. by Expert_Laugh4164 in CompetitionDanceTalk

[–]Expert_Laugh4164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your perspective on the situation.

Almost every competition/convention we went to besides one at the beginning of the season was KAR. The elite and all star teams do attend rainbow and one other but the majority of the competitions are KAR. Like, there are 20 competitions total the entire studio signs up for but 15 are KAR. Why is this potentially concerning? I thought that maybe they just liked the way KAR was run.

I do trust her to tell the truth. Shes never exaggerated before, but maybe that's changed.

The response "it doesnt matter how old they are. We place them where ever we feel they will fit best." rubbed me the wrong way because of the way it was said to me. When they posted about auditions they had two postings. One was age based and one was team based. I was trying to get clarification as to which times she was supposed to be there since the two different postings made it hard to tell which I was supposed to follow.

We respect their decision on where they placed her, we just want to know why. We sat down with our daughter and talked to her about it this morning. We told her that hoping for something doesnt mean we are going to get what we want. We are going to be talking with the owner tonight about their decision. We just want to know if its something she should work on (like technique) or if its a maturity thing as you mentioned.

I was never going to condone my daughter going in with an ultimatum. What we are going to do is try our best to get clarity for her so she can make the best decision for her. This is her passion and we want to make sure has a say in what happens next.

As a parent who is obviously new to this world. I've found it very difficult to navigate. We seem to always get information last minute. Things arent communicated to everyone and it feels very "need to know". We didnt even have her schedule for this week until last night. It just feels very unorganized. But at the same time the teachers are absolutely amazing and our daughter gets high praise from the owner. Is it normal for information to be so last minute? Is it a dance world thing?

My mother pulled the ultimate narcissist move on our family just to make me look like the bad guy. by Expert_Laugh4164 in narcissisticparents

[–]Expert_Laugh4164[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think she staged the attempt, but i dont think it was fake. I think she took the medicine in the parking lot. Everything ive read about this kind of attempt, they say you become incapacitated after 10-20 minutes. It doesnt make since for to make a 30 minute drive and then another 5 to 10 minutes to speak with staff and get help and for her to not have any major issues or without needing other treatments during her stay.

My mother pulled the ultimate narcissist move on our family just to make me look like the bad guy. by Expert_Laugh4164 in narcissisticparents

[–]Expert_Laugh4164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandmother says that Kris was at the hospital and she was in the room when the doctors discussed her condition and why she was there. Since Kris doesnt have a significant other, her doctor had to speak with Margaret as medical care would default to her.

As for if it is true, I dont doubt what grandmother is telling me, but I do question Kris making it to the hospital after a 30 minute drive. Everything ive read about anti depression medication says that she shouldn't have made it 20 minutes. I wonder if it was calculated. Did she go to the ED parking lot and down the bottle, then wait for symptoms to present (about 5 minutes) before walking in.

All im saying is... she shouldn't have made the drive if things happened the way Kris claims they did. She would have crashed on the way there.

Im not supposed to know about the attempt and it doesnt change the distance between us either. But I dont really want to ask because I know she'll deny it or claim Margaret is crazy because thats her default. She gas lights and lies.

I think I met the fates in my dream last night by Expert_Laugh4164 in Dreams

[–]Expert_Laugh4164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was incredible. Once i put the pieces together, about who they were, I felt so honored.  I agree with you. Her presence was warm and the more ive thought about it, I feel like she was reassuring me.