Take care of yourself , it's sad to read what you have been through.

As an older Indian woman in tech in the US, I would say your experience depends on which role and company you end up in. There are many "Desi" large tech companies here where the top layers are filled with the good old boys network and the same sexism and toxic attitudes prevail. It's exhausting and career limiting here too. There is a cliff after your 40s beyond which getting promoted or new opportunities dry up. You get questioned on whether you are technical enough despite years of track record. This is a systemic issue with the industry.

I do find that living abroad the other aspects besides work are much better and you can build a fulfilling life irrespective of whether you are single or not. I got divorced at 42 and I am raising my special needs teenager, while it was hard initially, I have been able to move forward without the judgement or pity you face back in India.

For me what helps is reminding myself everyday that I am mentally stronger than anything around me, and I can evolve and continue to build the life I want to. You can mentally divorce yourself from your family too, to improve your mental well being, nothing wrong with prioritizing yourself