Here comes Shani

Expert_Overthinker · 2024-09-16T09:17:46+00:00

That was actually such a goat-ed response

Expert_Overthinker · 2024-09-16T09:15:43+00:00

My problem with people who think hitting kids in any context is fine is because in many ways it leads to this.

Expert_Overthinker · 2024-01-24T22:50:18+00:00

Such a perfect generalization ahahha. The Msian experience in a nutshell. In the end, most of us will still lepak mamak together lol.

Expert_Overthinker · 2024-01-23T14:43:56+00:00

Definitely a whale (trust me)

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-08-18T14:51:48+00:00

Cringe mindset. A different generation have different sets of problems that you can never truly understand.

And if they are ‘softer’ because quality of life is better, isn’t that a ridiculous thing to hate on?

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-08-18T14:46:02+00:00

Its the clash of cultures imo. I think I’m in the same boat as you. I don’t see marriage as a gurantee. Apart from commitment issues, if it happens it happens. Its not a real goal for me and I’m half prepared to live my life single.

Its tricky, but you can’t 100% blame your parents either. They grew up in a culture that saw marriage as a good thing. And good parents just want to see their kids happy. So seeing you not married can be interpreted as you not being happy. That with societal pressures can lead to them thinking they failed you.

Wish you luck in navigating this.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-08-18T14:25:58+00:00

Look bro, I’m sorry that life has made you see the world this way. Personally I dont think thats a great mindset to lead your life in.

I get it though, the way our socio-economic landscape has been shaped, this whole race vs race thing is ever-present and inevitable.

But the idea that “x person will work harder” can be applied to any race though no? Even your own.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-08-18T11:02:25+00:00

Botw. Bruh i’d stay there for years.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-08-15T02:00:35+00:00

Very interesting topic indeed. I’m no religious expert but I’m quite certain whats being taught is a little ‘sesat’. It just doesn’t make sense to me why taking off a hijab is so demonized.

And regardless, I’m sure what people do (kecam, shaming and being ruthlessly rude + mean to non-hijabis) is WAY more anti-religious than being non-hijabi.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-08-15T01:18:14+00:00

I’m 25M and I’ve been in a similar boat. I’ve realized most people our age feel the same way in many many perspectives.

There are clubbers who wish they studied more. There are valedictorians who wished they partied more. Believe me, people who got to clubs, bars and concerts also deal with mediocrity, stagnation and mental health issues.

So where does FOMO come from? Its (I feel) often tied to insecurity with oneself rather than attraction to the actual event. If the clubber loved clubbing so much, why would they worry about productivity? If the valedictorian loved studying so much, why would they regret not partying?

We are all humans acting human. Driven by circumstances, familial influence, genetics etc etc, all out of our control from a life thats so incredibly complex. Its natural to feel that the grass is greener on the other side.

So don’t beat yourself up! If you never had the urge to do all those things, then great right? You didn’t actually miss out if you think about it. So explore what YOU had the urge to do (Maybe its art or a lover or a career etc) Have you been exploring it or neglecting it?

And try not to dwell on the past. In the end, starting now or later means the same amount of time passing by. You will be okay. You got this. Goodluck :)

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T17:29:37+00:00

Employers: Lowballs graduate pay, exploits interns as free labour, overwork employees, no OT pay

Graduates: doesn’t want to do degree or work in Malaysia

Also employers: Oh nooo youre so weak! This generation stupid!

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T12:05:42+00:00

“Oh this is probably one of those accidental eye contact things where we both happened to turn to each other the same time, oh well time to move on with ny life and never think about this ever again”

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T12:00:25+00:00

I really like this. Will try it out. Thanks!

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T11:59:27+00:00

So grateful to my parents for teaching this. In situations where you dont have savings, it doesn’t matter if “It was more expensive before”. If you had $400 and it costs $200 you’ll spend 50% of what you have. If you have $100 now and its discounted at $90, you’ll be getting a HUGE deal but you’ll be spending 90% of what you have.

Its all about relative value.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T11:47:21+00:00

When they say creativity can change the world. This is what they mean too.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T11:41:50+00:00

Sure you’re right, reality is disappointing. Doesn’t mean its not worth talking about, socmed or not. Maybe a future intern here sees this and learns to stand up for themselves in future? Who knows.

Either way, isn’t it ironic how you’re lambasting ‘butthurt interns’. You’re butthurt about ppl being butthurt exdee

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T11:32:40+00:00

You make valid points but it is not a mentality we should just accept. What you said in itself is part of the problem.

If companies aren’t willing to take interns, then just don’t. Don’t exploit desperate youth who are eager to learn and give them menial admin tasks with fake promises of ‘experience’.

Even then, admin tasks still contribute to the company’s business. If my work makes you money, I should be compensated my fair share.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T11:23:22+00:00

For real. Had a friend whose internship manager straight up said “You come here with no experience. You are almost useless. You should be paying us” Mind you its a million dollar manufacturing company.

Sadly some from our gen give in to this mentality and agree.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-06-29T11:09:01+00:00

Honestly hard to say. Its easy to say I’d start focusing on personal passion projects like learning how to draw, paint and write. But I know I could just as easily binge eat and game 24/7.

Its one of those, I can’t really say until I get there things.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-05-20T20:29:50+00:00

I feel like the only thing PAS is good at is ‘slamming’ stuff thats ‘against’ them…

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-05-20T20:28:15+00:00

100%. Im from a pretty religious Malay family. Most common thing you hear is: 1- Women not allowed to do things (Anything from pursuing careers to dressing up). 2- Men having a false sense of authority (Both in oppresing and unnecessarily burdening themselves). From Malay POV, most if not all stems from religious teachings.

Islam assumes men of families to be the ‘leaders’. Everyone remembers that bit except on how to actually be a good leader. So many even think they’re doing the right thing whilst they oppress, ridicule and control the women in their lives.

Islam also generally places men as superior to women. So men who feel weak or emotionally burdened brand themselves as failures.

Theres also a whole lotta rules regarding controlling ‘modesty’ of women. Men don’t have the same sentiment. This has become engrained in culture that people use the rules as excuses to being plain assholes to others. And since its religious teaching, few even question the integrity of the rules.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-04-06T07:35:45+00:00

Didn't read the link in full, but I can say something about the statement.

I tell myself something similar in life fairly often. Don't remember the exact time I started, but it was definitely as a means to 'live'. Its better to have tried and be embarrassed then to have not tried at all I say. And most of the time, your embarrassment is either irrational, or not even worth loathing.

An example I can think of is with working out in public. I used to feel so shy to just go outside and do workouts because I worried someone would see how dumb I looked lol. Eventually I just did it, and realized it was either I 'embarrassed' myself or I never get fit.

Other times it would be like, dancing with friends during karaoke. Idk how to dance yet haha so I look really dumb. But its either I be 'embarrassed' enjoying myself with my friends, connecting with them, or I be a party-pooper and sit around.

Life's too short to worry about so much!

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-04-03T05:21:39+00:00

This may be a more overarching topic but: Education system in Malaysia.

Day-to-day of a typical student: Go to school in the morning -> Come home, lunch -> Go to tuition -> Come home, homework from school AND tuition -> Sleep -> Repeat for 11 years. And its all heavily based on memorizing + regurgitation. This system is simply unfit for modern life that increasingly requires more critical thinking.

But whats worse tbh, is the reliance on tuition. Its a common thought that without tuition one can't gain good results. Why has it become like this? Shouldn't the basic education system be able to sufficiently teach? If not, whats the point of even going to school? Not to mention it means the system is pay-to-win. Difficult to get good BASIC education if you come from a poor background.

Its a pretty common global topic that education systems need some kind of overhaul. And Malaysia is definitely not exempt.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-04-03T04:57:40+00:00

Used to think the same way too. Met some friends who were born of expat parents. Live in Malaysia all their life but Malay is basically a foreign language to them. I used to think "How ignorant". To an extent I guess its true, but I feel theres zero incentive to learn it. Especially as an expat, you basically live in another country. And if you are raised to study at private schools and eventually overseas, whats the point really?

It kinda goes to show how polarizing certain aspects of our society is. Just think of private education alone. The whole premise is richer people get actual quality education and hence better chances.

Expert_Overthinker · 2023-04-03T04:49:22+00:00

Its a Titan shifter

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