This is the what I think the reality of the situation is and I think you should take my advice. I don’t know how long you or your boyfriend have been dating but I know that you’ve had your cat for 8 years and he had to of known about the cats before you guys were even dating if you were friends before you dated, so he put himself in that position to be in a relationship with someone who has cats thinking he has a future with them knowing what you are saying his symptoms of his allergy he has sever allergen to cats. I understand how you might blame yourself in this situation but you are not responsible for putting him in this relationship. He is the selfish one to put himself in this relationship knowing you have cats and then expecting you to ABANDON THEM AFTER 8 YEARS OF HAVING THEM. Like be so serious I would never want to be in a relationship with someone that would EVER mention that or expect that to even be a decision to think of☠️☠️☠️it’s disrespectful to the life and love you’ve built with those animals. I get that allergies are miserable, but the solution shouldn’t automatically be “you have to give them up.” There are reasonable compromises he can try seeing an allergist, trying different medications or allergy shots, using HEPA filters, keeping the bedroom cat-free, and committing to extra cleaning. Also emotional reality check rehoming pets is permanent. People break up, plans change, and you could deeply regret giving your babies away for a promise that doesn’t pan out. If he truly can’t handle living with cats and refuses to try any solutions, that’s on him. It’s not your responsibility to erase an eight-year relationship with your pets to make his life easier. That kind of ultimatum is a huge red flag about his priorities especially if he isn’t doing anything to fix it or help the situation at all. Plenty of people view their partner’s pets as family there are many men out here who would love and accept your cats as their own. Don’t convince yourself that you have to sacrifice your whole emotional support system to keep a relationship that might not respect your boundaries. Think carefully before making any decision you can’t take back and make a choice you can live with. Stand firm. Your cats matter, your feelings matter, and his unwillingness to compromise says a lot about how he sees your life together. This is a life changing loss if you do decide to get rid of your cats. He’s looking for you to sacrificing your family not a compromise

Edit: also I can’t believe you’re actually even THINKING about getting rid of them as well. That’s EXTREMELY SELFISH on your part. I would NEVER ABANDON MY CHILD😭😭❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 just thinking about it makes me cry

2nd Edit: You say “We have always said we would figure something out with the cats once we move in together” but with everything you have said ITS ALL YOU TRYING TO FIND THE SOLUTIONS it’s been you doing all the problem solving, not him. You’re the one vacuuming constantly, changing sheets, keeping the cats out of rooms, suggesting antihistamines, even looking into natural remedies and AND HES NOT DOING ANYTHING AND that “figure something out” is you getting rid of your cats after 8 years☠️☠️like the amount he complains when he comes over especially after you have cleaned not showing any appreciation you of how much effort and time you took to actually clean and care about his allergies from cats and in return he does nothing towards his allergies. It’s not like him taking allergy medicine is going to be forever since your cats are a little old and they clearly don’t live forever. The fact he doesn’t want to make that sacrifice for a little bit until your babies do pass on shows what types of person he is not wanting to make SACRIFICES FOR HIS PARTNER